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Offline BlueJaye

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Private schools
« on: October 29, 2019, 09:37:09 pm »
This isn't really a significant other topic, but it involves family and the effects of being transgender on the family. I felt maybe this was the most appropriate place to put this.

My wife has decided she hates homeschooling our 10 year old (which I predicted) and she wants to put him in a private school. Not just any private school,  but an evangelical Christian private school.

We can kind of afford it, though it could make things a little tight financially for a while paying the tuition fees. But otherwise I was okay with him attending there.

The issue isn't me having a problem with the school, it's the school having an issue with me. My wife was reading through the school's handbook and it specifically says they do not welcome the children of LGBTQ parents.

I guess I am not completely shocked, but sad that they would want to exclude children based on who their parents are. If they really feel they are a ministry to the community, wouldn't they want as many children of LGBTQ people as they can get? I guess they only want to "reach" the "good" people.

Anyway, my wife is telling me this tonight to rub it in that she told me so. She told me that me being transgender would have a negative effect on the kids. And our son possibly being denied entry to a bigoted school is a negative effect I guess.

I guess I had better get used to this. She has always blamed me for every little disobedience or bad behavior by the kids, and I suspect that she will blaming more and more on me being transgender and needing to make changes in my life that she doesn't approve of.
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2019, 10:16:55 pm »
I wonder on what base the have the guts to call themselves an "evangelical Christian private schooL"!  that is exactly the way non christian react, the NAZI's and Bolschwik's are one example makin the family suffer because a relative did something they did not like!
i don't the bible verses as well a you do, but did jesus not say "let the children come to me" ?, i don't recall that he said let the kids from that family come, but not the kids from that potheramily, etc.
I am glad you found out about their ideology, and thus protected your kid from evil and harm!
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2019, 10:24:10 pm »
Quote from: Linde on October 29, 2019, 10:16:55 pm
I wonder on what base the have the guts to call themselves an "evangelical Christian private schooL"!  that is exactly the way non christian react, the NAZI's and Bolschwik's are one example makin the family suffer because a relative did something they did not like!
i don't the bible verses as well a you do, but did jesus not say "let the children come to me" ?, i don't recall that he said let the kids from that family come, but not the kids from that potheramily, etc.
I am glad you found out about their ideology, and thus protected your kid from evil and harm!
Yes, indeed, He did say that. And I actually had that exact same verse in my mind as my wife was saying these things.

I find it reprehensible that any school would exclude children based on their parents. I had a father with a bad reputation and I was looked down on by school staff and administrators because of him. It hurt. Maybe it's why I didn't graduate high school. I had a burning hatred for school until I went to college.

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Re: Private schools
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2019, 11:00:20 am »
Quote from: Linde on October 29, 2019, 10:16:55 pm
I wonder on what base the have the guts to call themselves an "evangelical Christian private schooL"!  that is exactly the way non christian react, the NAZI's and Bolschwik's are one example makin the family suffer because a relative did something they did not like!

Hi Linde,

When you talk about Nazis (many considered themselves Christian) and Bolsheviks, you seem to be implying that somehow Christians were better.  What Christians did "in the name of God" to indigenous people around the world certainly qualifies them to be in the same boat as the Nazis and Bolsheviks.

Take care,
Paige 🙂
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2019, 11:05:34 am »
Great point you bring up.  My kiddos attend a classical christian private school, and I have not looked into their policies on the subject.  I guess I will now.

Really sad TBH.
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2019, 11:10:22 am »
Didn't take long to invoke Godwin's Law here!  :laugh:
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2019, 11:54:59 am »
Quote from: Devlyn on October 30, 2019, 11:10:22 am
Didn't take long to invoke Godwin's Law here! 
I learned something new today. Devlyn, you are full of surprises.

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Re: Private schools
« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2019, 12:00:20 pm »
Quote from: supertall_nobody on October 30, 2019, 11:05:34 am
Great point you bring up.  My kiddos attend a classical christian private school, and I have not looked into their policies on the subject.  I guess I will now.

Really sad TBH.

OK, looked it up and their school handbook definitely has both a Gender clause and a sexuality clause.  So if I somehow stay with my wife and transition I am definitely not welcome there.  I wonder if I explain that my wife and I are not intimate because of her struggle with OCD and ongoing marital issues (not related to my gender... yet) if that helps any.   ???

But your honor...  In my defense...

Then I think of the $$$ I give them and have a moment of sadness.
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #8 on: October 30, 2019, 01:41:44 pm »
Quote from: supertall_nobody on October 30, 2019, 12:00:20 pm
OK, looked it up and their school handbook definitely has both a Gender clause and a sexuality clause.  So if I somehow stay with my wife and transition I am definitely not welcome there.  I wonder if I explain that my wife and I are not intimate because of her struggle with OCD and ongoing marital issues (not related to my gender... yet) if that helps any.   ???

But your honor...  In my defense...

Then I think of the $$$ I give them and have a moment of sadness.

Yeah, I could do a lot with the almost $6,000 my wife wanted to spend on that school. I haven’t taken the time to write about it yet, but we ended up having a very long (10:30 p.m. to 1:00 a.m.) discussion last night. A bunch of mostly positive stuff got said by both of us about my need to go further with transitioning, and also we both agreed the school presented several problems besides the high cost and policy issue.
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #9 on: October 30, 2019, 02:14:10 pm »
Are the public schools not good where you live?
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Re: Private schools
« Reply #10 on: October 30, 2019, 03:12:10 pm »
Quote from: Paige on October 30, 2019, 11:00:20 am
Hi Linde,

When you talk about Nazis (many considered themselves Christian) and Bolsheviks, you seem to be implying that somehow Christians were better.  What Christians did "in the name of God" to indigenous people around the world certainly qualifies them to be in the same boat as the Nazis and Bolsheviks.

Take care,
Paige 🙂
Paige, the NAZI's did not make any cover-up for their ideology, these evangelical Christinas do, and that is the big difference!
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« Reply #11 on: October 30, 2019, 04:18:47 pm »
Quote from: tgchar21 on October 30, 2019, 02:14:10 pm
Are the public schools not good where you live?
No. He went to public school last year after attending a different private school and it was a really bad experience. He was skipped a grade and was still 4 or 5 grades ahead of his peers. I think we should just find some alternatives to allow him to study independently at home. Maybe online classes or something. He is 10 years old and honestly is capable of high school level academics. He has been studying pre-calculus during his home school studies and is doing very well. And his reading proficiency is college level. No public or private school is equipped to challenge a ten year old like him.

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