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First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« on: November 22, 2019, 08:25:49 pm »
Hi, I am new on here. I am a 46 virgin and had my phallo and erectile implant op about 8 years ago.
Very recently I have met someone who likes me and still want's to date me after I told her I am trans. Being a virgin in all aspects this is all very new for me I was hoping to find someone who has gone through the same situation and who can tell me about his experiences.

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2019, 08:46:51 pm »
Hi, I am new on here. I am a 46 virgin and had my phallo and erectile implant op about 8 years ago.
Very recently I have met someone who likes me and still want's to date me after I told her I am trans. Being a virgin in all aspects this is all very new for me I was hoping to find someone who has gone through the same situation and who can tell me about his experiences.

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #2 on: November 22, 2019, 08:47:45 pm »
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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2019, 12:12:54 pm »
Thanks Danielle.

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #4 on: November 25, 2019, 10:23:56 am »
Hello,
I don’t know if too many posters that linger on here very long after having bottom surgery. A lot of guys don’t find themselves on the forums as much once they are healed.

I didn’t have a phalloplasty (I had metoidioplasty) so I don’t have directly related experience but I am able to have penetrative sex with my wife (particularly with pumping). I wasn’t a virgin before bottom surgery (in that my wife and I shared intimacy before my surgery, just limited due to my dysphoria).

Do you have specific questions I might be able to help with?

I’m about 18 months post op stage 1 and 7 months post op stage 2.

For me, one of the hardest things to break through was getting out of my head so much. It’s something I’m still working on. After so much time worrying about how separate my body felt from me, it has taken some time to reconnect with it, even though it now feels “right”. My mind has beaten well worn pathways in my brain that say I’m not man enough that it is sometimes hard to let go of that. It has gotten easier in the last 2 months especially, I think, to let go.

Outside of that, it’s really just about connecting with your partner. My wife is the only person I’ve been with sexually as a man, and the only other woman I was ever with (before my wife) we had almost no sex life, so my wife is kinda it :) but every person is different and figuring out what each other likes and exploring that is all a part of the process, even if you’ve been with more than a couple people. It’s important to be open to communication about it so you can express what you like and they can express what they like.

I know that’s not a lot of really specific feedback... I hope it’s a little helpful.

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #5 on: November 25, 2019, 12:05:44 pm »
Hi Dex, thanks so much for responding to my call for help  ;) . I am one of those guys that left a forum I was after the bottom operation, so I can relate. I felt happy with my "new" body and was far from getting into a relationship.
Now I found someone who likes me knowing of my history and I am getting nervous.
After the erectile implant the surgeon told me to use a condom and lube and that it would function. I would like to know from other guys with a phallo if it satisfies the woman. Wouldn't want to finally reach the moment and not be able to give her what she is expecting.  Like you mentioned it is about being okay with the body I have today, not for myself (cause I am)  but for someone I might love. Sort of like living up to what she had in the past. I know there is more to penetration (well as a virgin I heard there is  :P) but still..

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #6 on: November 25, 2019, 02:21:34 pm »
Yeah, it can be daunting. My wife had only been with cis males before me. I know I don’t “measure up”, so to speak. I get about 3.5ish inches when I pump and slightly less than an inch diameter. So I know, objectively, that it’s not what she’s had before. That being said, with the right positioning, it is still fulfilling for her.

With a phalloplasty, you’re obviously working with more than what I am. As long as it’s rigid enough for penetration, I don’t see why it wouldn’t be good for her. You’re right, there is a lot more to intimacy than just the act of penetration and if you’re enjoying yourself and it’s an expression of the bond you are sharing with someone else, I think you’ll both find it to be a good time. Most women don’t finish just from penetration anyhow. So just trying to stay relaxed and enjoy the moment will be key. And, at least for my wife, the foreplay and everything before and after penetration itself is just as important.

You’ve already crossed the biggest hurdle - she knows your history and doesn’t care! As long as you’re showing her you care about her pleasure and you both communicate, I think you’ll find it less difficult than you might be afraid it is :)

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Re: First time intercourse with a phalloplasty
« Reply #7 on: November 26, 2019, 10:42:55 am »
Thanks for sharing your experience. I guess I will have to stop worrying and just see what happens.

Great that you found love, hope I will as well  ;).

Nathan

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