real femininists do NOT spout the stuff gender critical terfs do.
all the stuff they're saying is frankly mysogynistic. Men are predisposed genetically to be abusers? Sounds like an excuse to remove culpability from bad behaviour from guys there.
women are weak and fragile and always victims? Really? All the women i've ever known would kick your head in if you ever suggested they needed to be treated like a damsel in distress.
And don't even get me started on the women needing to look, dress and act a certain way or be "basically men" (like that poor lesbian athlete with the naturally high T who Mumsnet were calling a "man" and constantly judging based solely on her appearance)
that is NOT feminism, that's mysogyny and bigotry mixed with a nice big dose of racism.
Genital preference is a thing and I fully support that, after all, sometimes something is a deal breaker. For me it's a hairy back (lol) but for someone else it might be a penis or whatever. Not everyone's gonna be into everyone else and only scumbags try to guilt someone into sleeping with them.
But I do think that trans women deserve a seat at the women's table and in those safe spaces. After all, you ladies are subjected to the same nonsense cis women are, with the ADDED awful of transphobia, homophobia and gay panic on top of that regardless of your sexuality.
the fact of the matter is trans women are disproportionately likely to end up homeless or hurt, and that's horrifying.
Real feminism would embrace trans women as another group of women with specific needs and issues (like women of colour have different needs and issues to white women) who still suffer from a patriarchal society that deems them "lesser"
What I really don't understand from the terfs is their ongoing rhetoric about "protecting" women and girls. From what? Cis, straight men are the major aggressor. How does denying trans women the right to exist stop cis straight men? If one of them wants to come into a woman's only space they WILL, there's nothing at all to stop them walking into a ladies toilet or changing room, it's not like there's security at the door.
Do women WANT security at the door? Would you really want to have to give over ID or worse, subject yourself to a physical exam just to try on some pants or pee?
That'd be a huge violation for any woman to have to endure.
And this is what I don't understand. How does denying trans women rights and dignity and respect in any way "protect" anyone? It's not like trans people are monsters out to eat your children or something. And these women KNOW that, they have to know that, they're not stupid. So what are they trying to protect from?
It doesn't make any sense. There's nothing to protect. Trans women aren't a threat to anyone, they're the ones UNDER threat.
Even transition hasn't dulled my intense feminist streak. Though I have to admit, i'm finding it hard to accept that sometimes it's not my argument to have. Having spent over 30 years being percieved as female i've had a louder voice in the feminist debate than a man would, had what's seen as a vested interest (i'd argue it's in EVERYONE'S benefit as a mysogynistic society hurts men too) but now i'm seen as a guy it's like... I don't want to talk OVER women.
It's hard to shut up sometimes and let the women speak.
But ultimately women SHOULD be the ones leading the discussion.
it just makes me angry that society seems to have decided that people like us, our very existance is something open to debate or controversy.
That's really horrible.
Honestly? What really grinds my gears most is seeing terfs dismantle decades of progress in equality for everyone. A group who's scared will willingly surrender rights for the delusion of safety, and that's what really upsets me. They seem to be willing to give up what was so hard fought for to fight an imaginary boogieman (or woman) and all that does is play right into the hands of the real threat, those rich, powerful, cis, straight white men. The only people who benefit from oppression.
