Topic: Taking it slow

[Northern Star Girl]

How´s aliexpress anyway_ I´ve bought some chinese stuff and it´s been really <not allowed>, but the prices are unbeatable

@Gabrielageo
Dear Gabrielageo
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[Northern Star Girl]

@Gabrielageo
Dear Gabrielageo:

If you feel so inclined please feel free to stop by the Introductions Forum to tell more members about yourself!
 
With more exposure to more members here you will be able to get more responses to your questions and concerns.

Wishing your well as you continue to be involved in the forums.

NOTE: Now, after all of this Greeting and Welcoming stuff, I will give you and your readers your thread back so you can get some answers from other members.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[Heather N]

How´s aliexpress anyway_ I´ve bought some chinese stuff and it´s been really <not allowed>, but the prices are unbeatable

Ali Express is hit and miss for me, I would say 1/2 to 1/3 never showed up but I was able to do a dispute and Ali Express gave me credit back on my card pretty quickly. I notice some of the exact same things on Amazon for more money, but you do get them quicker. Quality has been all over the place, just like any place that deals with multiple merchants selling on their platform. To me, that is to be expected though.
Any issues I had with things not being as described were credited without issue

and last but certainly not least. WELCOME! 

[ashley7]

I think you should tell her how you feel.

[Heather N]

What a difference a year makes! i know it wasnt a year ago when I started this post but my life sure has changed in the last year. although I still dont try to present as female and not sure i ever will. I almost never wear men's clothes anymore.I get regular manicures and get mani-pedis with my SO where they paint my toenails but just a clear coat for my fingers. I am growing my nails out and expressed my desire to paint them a rather neutral color.  My SO actually told me the other night that seeing me in a dress "really does something for her" I pressed her on it just a bit and she said that its not so much the dress but the fact that I am comfortable enough to wear a dress or nightgown just as I used to wear a pair of pants and a t-shirt.
I expressed my desire to be able to go outside the house with a dress etc on, but she just kinda laughed and said " I don't think the neighbors would appreciate it!"   

[JennyTG]

What a difference a year makes! i know it wasnt a year ago when I started this post but my life sure has changed in the last year. although I still dont try to present as female and not sure i ever will. I almost never wear men's clothes anymore.I get regular manicures and get mani-pedis with my SO where they paint my toenails but just a clear coat for my fingers. I am growing my nails out and expressed my desire to paint them a rather neutral color.  My SO actually told me the other night that seeing me in a dress "really does something for her" I pressed her on it just a bit and she said that its not so much the dress but the fact that I am comfortable enough to wear a dress or nightgown just as I used to wear a pair of pants and a t-shirt.
I expressed my desire to be able to go outside the house with a dress etc on, but she just kinda laughed and said " I don't think the neighbors would appreciate it!"   

Hi Heather, good to see you back here.  Like your story I have moved on quite a bit after a year.  Passing isn't an issue but I still get super-fussy over my appearance.  My reg maintenance routine from the salon now includes leg and brow wax, mani/pedi work and having a light shade of pink on both toes and fingers to match (I have to sacrifice other stuff to afford it!).  I hope you are taking care of all that nasty body hair as well.  When I visit the salon now I'm wearing broderie t shirts (my beautician really likes them), reg shorts and short heel sandals.  Laser treatment will probably happen soon as I'm not on HRT and don't ever intend to be. 

Outerwear such as dresses and skirts will be a huge leap for me but I'm definitely changing up my style more frequently now.  It's so much fun being a girl out there.  Good luck on your journey.

- Jenny

[Northern Star Girl]

@Heather N
Dear Heather:
I was so happy to see that you have posted again and have come back to the Forums.
I was also pleased to see your updates regarding your clothing, manicures, pedicures, and when at home staying in female clothes.... and your S.O. seems to give you approval!!!!   That is very good news.,

Thanks for sharing and posting.   I will be eagerly looking for your next posts on your thread and around the forums.
HUGS and as always I am wishing you well.
Danielle

[heathercd20]

Hi Heather! This is Heather.

Thanks for posting. I think you are SO fortunate to have a SO who supports your crossdressing. That is wonderful news about her letting you shave and sleep in panties and a nightie. And having sex with her while in stockings! OMG. I have been married for 34 years to the same woman. I am 60 years old. I started crossdressing when I was about 13 and did not stop till about 10 years ago. I thought I could suppress this femme side. I purged and threw all my stuff away.

My wife supported my crossdressing at first early in my marriage but she never wanted to participate. I shaved my legs a couple of times and she got pissed. Oh how wonderful it is to have shaved legs. The other day my urges came back voraciously so I shaved my legs and painted my toenails. I am using the bathroom on the other side of the house. It is just us and we have a 1 story house. She has not picked up on it yet since we don't have any sex at all. She has MS and is quite a mess. So needless to say I masturbate a lot.

I bought a padded bra the other day and a thong and some hose and some flats so I could walk around the house quietly. I plan on buying some heels and some makeup, wig, breast forms and the whole works. I was quite proficient at crossdressing in my past. I guess that never leaves us!

I struggled with the trans issue years ago as I have had people think I look a bit girly even though I am a big guy. My facial features are soft, and I have GREAT legs. My genitalia are small so that got me thinking, should I have been born a girl?

We have a big soaker tub in our Master bathroom. After doing a lot of yardwork I will fix myself a bubble bath and indulge. When in the bath, I push my balls up and my penis back and admire the smooth front and wonder if I should have been a woman. I also have decent breast tissue. So who knows...... I look forward to a bubble bath soon and will shave my legs with my toes painted. And drink a glass of wine. I am still figuring out how to come out to my wife again since she thought my femme self is gone and that was just a phase. She does not understand how complex this is. I have not sought help with a therapist but may do so in the near future.

Self acceptance is the first step and it sounds like you are there girl. And having a partner whom you can confide in is wonderful. I wish I had that. Thanks for sharing your story and you compelled me to share mine a bit.

Good luck,

Heather

I got off in the shower the last couple of days after shaving my legs and looking at my painted toes.

[Northern Star Girl]

@heathercd20
Dear heathercd20
    Thank you for joining Susan's Place and the Forums.

    Please know that I am not trying to sidetrack your questions and thoughts....
...but first, it appears that you have never been officially welcomed and given the rules and policies of Susan's Place and the Forums.

    Thank you for writing and sharing your thoughts.... as you get more involved in exchanging comments on various posts other members will be along to offer their thoughts and comments in response to any of your specific questions and concerns..

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.
 
    I also want to warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    There is information and important LINKS that I have included below.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that all new members should be familiar with:
 

Things that you should read

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By	Standard Terms & Definitions	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)	Cautionary Note
Reputation rules	News posting & quoting guidelines	Photo, avatars, & signature images policy	Membership Agreement

[Northern Star Girl]

@heathercd20
Dear heathercd20:

OH, another thing....  Please feel free to stop by the Introductions Forum to tell more members about yourself!
 
With more exposure to more members here you will be able to get more responses to your questions and concerns.

Wishing you well as you continue to be involved in the forums.

NOTE: Now, after all of this Greeting and Welcoming stuff, I will give you and others the thread back so that the conversation can continue.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

What a difference a year makes! i know it wasnt a year ago when I started this post but my life sure has changed in the last year. although I still dont try to present as female and not sure i ever will. I almost never wear men's clothes anymore.I get regular manicures and get mani-pedis with my SO where they paint my toenails but just a clear coat for my fingers. I am growing my nails out and expressed my desire to paint them a rather neutral color.  My SO actually told me the other night that seeing me in a dress "really does something for her" I pressed her on it just a bit and she said that its not so much the dress but the fact that I am comfortable enough to wear a dress or nightgown just as I used to wear a pair of pants and a t-shirt.
I expressed my desire to be able to go outside the house with a dress etc on, but she just kinda laughed and said " I don't think the neighbors would appreciate it!"   

@Heather N
Dear Heather N:
All of us here on the Forums are wishing you
....a very Happy Birthday
I hope that your special day includes time with family and friends...
... with  Candles and CAKE.

***NOTE: On June 29th be certain to check your profile for a special birthday surprise!

HUGS and best wishes on your special day and birthday.
Danielle

[Heather N]

Thank you so much!!

[Heather N]

1 year later....
I have no male socks left and all of my men's underwear has been replaced with women's. I wear black boyshorts when I need to go to the doc etc, nothing has been said. I could prob wear lacy panties and nothing would be said either but it makes me feel comfortable. I wear unisex shirts with the occasional t-shirt but those are gender neutral anyway. I can go weeks now without wearing any clothes that would be considered "men's" . let my nails grow and when they aren't broken, they are between 1/8 and 1/4 inch long. I have been putting a sheer pink tint on them. Not super noticeable and my SO seems okay with it. We had planned on going out in full female mode for Halloween but not taking chances with Covid so maybe next year. I even bought a wig! But with all of that, I don't think others look at me than anything more than a feminine male.

No tellin how long down this journey Id be if I had started this when I was much younger. fun to think about anyway.   

[Northern Star Girl]

@Heather N
Dear Heather:
Thank you for sharing more of your transition story and progress.

Obviously be very careful and safe dealing with the Covid-19 issues.   
Under-dressing in women's underwear even while presenting in male-mode can be a wonderful experience. 

Forget Halloween, you can still go on a "date" in full female mode with your SO to a restaurant or a walk in the park.
The covid-19 mask mandates can really help with that.

You are correct, I imagine you can wear what you wish when you go to your doctor.   
As you continue on you will be more "brave" as you venture out in partial or even full female mode and attire.

As time goes on, getting rid of male socks and underwear, baggy male jeans and baggy male tops will really help you to eventually get into full-time female mode.

Thank you for sharing and posting.
I will be eagerly looking for your updates as you feel comfortable posting them.

HUGS and best wishes as you continue on in your journey.
Danielle 

[Heather N]

I forgot, I also wear leggings out everywhere! it's funny, I have read posts where men are afraid to go out in leggings. I even wear pink ones, Nobody has said anything or seemed to even care. I wonder if it would be that way in a dress..  My SO said something that made me think.. My t-shirts were always kind of long, they would reach the top of my legs.. she said if I added 6 more inches to my t-shirt, it would be a mini dress!   

the odd occasion I wear men's clothes, its so odd when I fold them now, they are HUGE in the legs. I really cant even stand folding them now, It looks like there is enough room for two legs on both sides. 

[Northern Star Girl]

@Heather N
Dear Heather:
I miss reading your postings around the Forums...  please come back to your Blog thread and keep me and the rest of your followers updated with your life journey as you transition.

Below I am glad to read of your experiences that you posted... I agree with men's pant's legs issue, even the slim cut men's jeans and pants have way, way too wide and baggy legs.

Please keep on sharing and posting on your Blog thread and elsewhere around the various topics.

I hope and trust that you are doing OK and staying healthy and safe.

Again, it will be nice to see your latest updates and posts as you feel comfortable sharing..
HUGS,
Danielle

I forgot, I also wear leggings out everywhere! it's funny, I have read posts where men are afraid to go out in leggings. I even wear pink ones, Nobody has said anything or seemed to even care. I wonder if it would be that way in a dress..  My SO said something that made me think.. My t-shirts were always kind of long, they would reach the top of my legs.. she said if I added 6 more inches to my t-shirt, it would be a mini dress!   

the odd occasion I wear men's clothes, its so odd when I fold them now, they are HUGE in the legs. I really cant even stand folding them now, It looks like there is enough room for two legs on both sides. 

[Heather N]

thanks for the ask 
not a bunch to report at this time. wearing clothes intended for women have become just part of my life now. I rarely wear my old clothes unless I'm going out with friends or celebrating a special occasion with someone. I don't want the focus to shift to me in anyway so I just blend into the background. I wish I could wear dresses more often, but that's difficult, we have people in and out of the house all day so that's tricky.
I have started wearing body briefers/girdles with bra cups though I generally don't fill them, its nice to be wearing them and my SO is fine with it too so that's a step in the right direction.  I pad out the hips  and wear Sheertex pantyhose and it gives me a nice figure, helps my leggings fit properly bt defining my waist up where it should be. My SO also mentioned going through some of her dresses that she has gotten too small for and giving them to me 
A friend wanted us to attend a drag show. I had brought it up prior and my SO had no interest at all, but when her friend invited us, she was all over it, lol. Unfortunately my SO had a small round of Covid and we couldn't go so I have brought it back up and she now wants to go. I know its not the same, but from my understanding, there are several CD and transwomen that frequent the place. Just opening up my SO to that community will be helpful.
Next step will be Halloween this year, I want to do a couples costume, one a bit sexy where I can justify purchasing a breast plate. I'm drawing a blank right now. If anyone has suggestions, Id love to hear them.

[Maid Marion]

 Yes, let your SO choose the couples costume.  If it won't justify the breast plate, it will help toward the bigger goal of getting your SO on board.  That is far more important.

Marion

[barbie]

I love AliExpress, because the delivery fee is free or very cheap, compared with domestic delivery. And, S. Korea is close to China, taking it about 2 weeks for delivery.

Some items are of course bad or fraudulent, and I pay attention to customers' reviews.

I also have purchased several pairs of compression stockings for preempting varicose veins. They are nice, holding up perfectly.
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/32797659765.html



barbie~~

[Heather N]

Yes, let your SO choose the couples costume.  If it won't justify the breast plate, it will help toward the bigger goal of getting your SO on board.  That is far more important.

Marion

I really like that idea. She seems to be on board with witch costumes so far. She prefers something more conservative and I want to do something revealing, lol.