Topic: Non-op for MTFs transsexuals after full-time status starts

[ChrissyRyan]

What are the main considerations, concerns, and issues, or the pros and cons, of remaining non-op (for lower region surgery) for us MTFs transsexuals?  If your goal is to have the lower region surgery and you are waiting for that, for whatever reasons, how has being no-op during this wait been for you? 

Is this no-op situation hard to cope with after living full-time as the woman you are?  Or do you prefer it that way for some reason?  Or is there a medical reason for you to remain non-op?

Regardless, this is a personal choice of course, for various reasons.

Chrissy

[Rachel_Christina]

What are the main considerations, concerns, and issues, or the pros and cons, of remaining non-op (for lower region surgery) for us MTFs transsexuals?  If your goal is to have the lower region surgery and you are waiting for that, for whatever reasons, how has being no-op during this wait been for you? 

Is this no-op situation hard to cope with after living full-time as the woman you are?  Or do you prefer it that way for some reason?  Or is there a medical reason for you to remain non-op?

Regardless, this is a personal choice of course, for various reasons.

Chrissy

I'm full time since December 2017, so 2+ years now, I still have my tail, no body can tell, it ultimately affects me in no way, yeah it's a frustrating thing to deal with when going to the toilet or maybe washing if it bothers you alot.
But in every day life at work on nights out, working on my car's I never notice it or think about it. Most people that know me and see me in work in my skinny jeans and typically relatively tight clothes cannot believe I didn't have the big operation. Yes they do actually ask, they are doing so innocently mind so I'm not bothered either..

Why I have not had it done falls mostly on my lack of funds and the fact that the operation is quite scary and not 100% successful all the time.

Other than that yes I would have it done.

[KathyLauren]

I consider myself pre-op, rather than non-op.  It has been nearly three years since I went full-time, and my surgery is scheduled for 7 weeks from now.

Being pre-op hasn't bothered me a lot.  Obviously there is some dysphoria there or I wouldn't be having the surgery, but it is not overwhelming.  My junk is small enough at this point that I don't worry a lot about tucking any more: just a quick mirror check to ensure that nothing shows. 

A few years ago, I was a member of a gym and worked out several times a week.  Even though I let that membership lapse, it is annoying that it is not an option now, at least until after my surgery.  Same thing with swimming pools.

The biggest issue is my own self-image when I see myself in the mirror after a shower.  It just ain't right.

But in practical terms, I haven't had any real issues.

[ChrissyRyan]

I have been on hrt for about four years. Awaiting surgery has been a hell during this “limbo” status.
Every day I face abuse, specifically a spouse and relatives that continually mis gender me ( it’s been about 3 years) and feel it’s their mission to out me to others.

Katie,

            I am sorry you are having to endure this treatment by them.

Chrissy

[Rachel_Christina]

I have been on hrt for about four years. Awaiting surgery has been a hell during this “limbo” status.
Every day I face abuse, specifically a spouse and relatives that continually mis gender me ( it’s been about 3 years) and feel it’s their mission to out me to others.

If they do this to now, I very much doubt they will change after the surgery either..
Rid yourself of people like this. Anyone sad enough to transfix on someone else's crotch is just sad

[EllenW]

I also consider myself as pre-op. Just due to my wife's current medical issues it is on indefinite hold. 

It bothers me as I do not fell like a full female when I have to tuck. And deal with it each day

Ellen