Topic: Coronavirus: 'I’m scared of being buried as the wrong gender' *Trigger Warning*

[Ellie_Arroway]

Coronavirus: 'I’m scared of being buried as the wrong gender'

*Trigger Warning*
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52690931

Ben Hunte, LGBT correspondent, BBC News, 17 May 2020

Article about various problems faced by the trans community in the UK during the Coronavirus epidemic.

Excerpt:

Lucy, 21, from the north-east of England is transgender and has severe heart issues. After years spent living as a woman, she says she has "no doubt" her parents would bury her as a man if she was to die from coronavirus.

"They'll shave my long hair, put me in a suit, use my birth name and call me 'he' all the way through the funeral. The thought of my family doing it makes me feel so sick, but I know they will."

[Devlyn]

This is easy to avoid. Have a legal name change and a will outlining your desires, designate someone to execute those wishes, and it's out of everyone else's hands. If a person wants to leave everything (including burial expenses) in the hands of people that they don't trust... well, that's on them.

[SueNZ]

This is easy to avoid. Have a legal name change and a will outlining your desires, designate someone to execute those wishes, and it's out of everyone else's hands. If a person wants to leave everything (including burial expenses) in the hands of people that they don't trust... well, that's on them.

Strong response Devlyn but exactly correct. We all have a choice and well before time we need to make that very clear in our wishes, including who administers then.


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[Maid Marion]

This may be a good time to remind everyone to make sure your investments and retirement accounts don't go to a hated Ex via the designated beneficiary provisions of the account. 

[jaysonderulo]

i dont understand, unless you perceive gender as existing past death?
aren't we all genderless by then?

[Ellie_Arroway]

i dont understand, unless you perceive gender as existing past death?
aren't we all genderless by then?

Most of us have some idea about what we would like done with our bodies when we have died.

I can certainly understand somebody not wanting to be "detransitioned" after death by unaccepting relatives changing their expression back to their assigned at birth gender.

I would want to be remembered as I am, certainly. I don't believe I will ever face that problem, though. - E