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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #20 on: July 10, 2020, 04:04:43 pm »
Back in the truck and I feel GREAT!!!

I found what I needed and not tons more. I was also able to update my account. My photo is current and my first Jane credit card will be arriving in about a week.

A very successful trip.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
July 2020: Full Time
Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #21 on: July 10, 2020, 04:31:36 pm »
There you go, see its all in the mind . Bit of positive attitude helps as well, head up and a big smile works.
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #22 on: July 10, 2020, 04:47:52 pm »
@Jane.Shannon
Dear Jane:
I am so very, very happy for you that all of your fears are now in the past....
...well, most of them anyway.   ;)
Thank you for sharing your good report with me and the rest of your followers.

Please continue to keep us updated as you feel comfortable doing.


HUGS, HUGS, and more HUGS,
Danielle



Back in the truck and I feel GREAT!!!

I found what I needed and not tons more. I was also able to update my account. My photo is current and my first Jane credit card will be arriving in about a week.

A very successful trip.
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Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

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OOTD July 10, 2020
« Reply #23 on: July 10, 2020, 06:15:43 pm »


In a post earlier today I mentioned I was headed to Costco.  Here is what I wore.  I also had on the every popular N95 mask.  It is nice that mine is white, so it matched my top and my skirt.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #24 on: July 10, 2020, 10:57:08 pm »
Back in the truck and I feel GREAT!!!

I found what I needed and not tons more. I was also able to update my account. My photo is current and my first Jane credit card will be arriving in about a week.

A very successful trip.

Yay! Congrats.

I too found the Costco name change to be pretty low stress at the end of the day. We get ourselves all worked up about these situations and 99% of the time it goes off without a hitch.

I remember getting really nervous ahead of going into the DMV to get my license and title updated. It honestly ended up being the fastest and most pleasant DMV experience ever. There was no line (which NEVER happens at my understaffed urban DMV office!), and I zipped in and out of there in 10 minutes with great customer service. I was truly bewildered by the easiness of the experience.

And your outfit looked great!

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A Rose by any other name
« Reply #25 on: August 03, 2020, 07:37:39 pm »
What a relief it is to be fully out.  I love just being able to walk out my door, go to the store, but my favorite is to recognized by My Name...Jane.  While Jane is my name, it still isn't my legal name.  It is time to fix that.  My first step was to visit the transequity website.  It has great information on legal issues for transgender people.  From there I was able to find all required forms.  Today I visited the my local courthouse.  I submitted my forms, paid my $162, and I have a court date for tomorrow, August 4, 2020, at 8:15.

More tomorrow...
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #26 on: August 03, 2020, 07:43:49 pm »
I almost forgot.  I am now over one year on HRT.  I think I am off to a good start!!!
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #27 on: August 03, 2020, 11:08:17 pm »
@Jane.Shannon
Dear Jane:
Congratulations to you on your one year HRT anniversary....   this is a date that needs to be remembered and even celebrated.   

At the one year mark, you have already experienced much of the initial "magic" that HRT can do to your body and mind.
Hang on tight, there is much more to come....


HUGS and best wishes as you continue on.
Danielle
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A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 41

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Re: A Rose by any other name
« Reply #28 on: August 04, 2020, 06:48:16 am »
What a relief it is to be fully out.  I love just being able to walk out my door, go to the store, but my favorite is to recognized by My Name...Jane.  While Jane is my name, it still isn't my legal name.  It is time to fix that.  My first step was to visit the transequity website.  It has great information on legal issues for transgender people.  From there I was able to find all required forms.  Today I visited the my local courthouse.  I submitted my forms, paid my $162, and I have a court date for tomorrow, August 4, 2020, at 8:15.

More tomorrow...

It's a wonderful feeling to have the legal name you like and prefer Jane, best wishes today.

Cyndi
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Name Change
« Reply #29 on: August 04, 2020, 12:08:46 pm »
It is DONE!  My legal name is now Jane.  It was a great experience.  The judge is actually a friend of mine, so he was excited to perform this action.  My wife and kids went, so they could be a part of it.  The actual time in the courtroom was VERY short--about 15 minutes.  The whole process, I am in Washington state, was very quick and easy.  I filed yesterday morning, and today I have legally changed my name. 

Now comes the hard part--changing all the things my name is linked too.

Did anyone have things they just didn't bother changing?

Thanks,
Jane
June 2021: Orchiectomy
July 2020: Full Time
Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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Re: Name Change
« Reply #30 on: August 04, 2020, 12:52:08 pm »
@Jane.Shannon
Dear Jane:
That is great news... wow 15 minutes!!!   It was terrific that your wife and kids went with you and could be a part of everything regarding your legal name change....  and Wow-Whee.... your friend, the Judge, was excited to perform the legal action....    Win, Win, Win !!!!

My advice from my own personal experience is that you try to change everything... of course you are probably on mailing lists and  stuff like that so you will undoubtedly be seeing your "dead-name" showing up in your email inbox and your snail-mail box from time to time but you have to keep after it to get all the name changes done whenever possible.... especially the important and legal stuff....  licenses, certifications, birth certificate, passport, medical offices and medical records, school and college records, diplomas, business licenses, property tax and deeds, State and IRS tax filings, etc, etc... 

I am most happy for you...
Thank you for sharing.
HUGS,
Danielle

It is DONE!  My legal name is now Jane.  It was a great experience.  The judge is actually a friend of mine, so he was excited to perform this action.  My wife and kids went, so they could be a part of it.  The actual time in the courtroom was VERY short--about 15 minutes.  The whole process, I am in Washington state, was very quick and easy.  I filed yesterday morning, and today I have legally changed my name. 

Now comes the hard part--changing all the things my name is linked too.

Did anyone have things they just didn't bother changing?

Thanks,
Jane
***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
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A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 41

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #31 on: August 04, 2020, 01:38:58 pm »
Danielle,
I started that process immediately when I got home.  I figured a lot of those places also track gender, so it makes sense to change my gender at the same time.  The name change was super easy; the gender not so easy.  It is easy for my driver's license here in Washington.  I fill out a form, and submit it to DoL and it's done.  Anything federal takes a letter from my primary care provider.  Of course I don't see him that often, so he wants some verification that I had "appropriate clinical treatment for gender transition."  Which means my counselor needs to send him a note. 

I have to say, it really makes me mad that changing gender is so hard.  For most of these organizations it will really just change one block on a form.  It won't change how much money they give, or get, from me.  It won't change my appointments.  Why is that SO hard to change.  A big one is my DD-214.  That form encapsulates my entire military service on one page, and is the proof I received certain medals, served in combat zones, and shows my characterization of service (Honorable Discharge).  For that one, I have to say that showing a form with my old name and gender could cause discrimination in the work place, and therefore, I should have my name changed. 

I know I have had about the smoothest transition of all time.  I just don't understand why this step is so challenging.  Honestly, it was easier to get on HRT to actually start physically changing genders than it to be recognized on paper.

Okay, rant over. 
Jane

PS.  I have heard the HARDEST thing to get changed is all the junk mail.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #32 on: August 04, 2020, 02:54:59 pm »
No it just means you get twice as much, old and new names!!
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #33 on: August 04, 2020, 08:51:08 pm »

I have to say, it really makes me mad that changing gender is so hard.

Jane,
 I guess it depends upon you state. My name and gender were changed my the same court decree. After getting that it was off to the SSA office and then to the DMV to change name and gender in both Federal and state records.

Since I through all junk mail away, I have not spent much effort on that. If it has my dead name it goes straight from the mail box to the trash can

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #34 on: August 05, 2020, 08:13:06 pm »
Jane how difficult was it to update your DD-214?  I've not taken that route but have thought about it recently. 

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #35 on: August 06, 2020, 11:01:49 pm »
I haven't done that yet.  I just know what to do.  First, I need the letter from my counselor, then the letter from the doctor, and then I will request the update.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #36 on: August 22, 2020, 08:15:22 pm »
The dysphoria ebbs and flows.  Today it flows.  Last Tuesday, Aug 18, 2020, I had a consultation with a urologist who performs orchiectomies.  We talked for about 45 minutes.  We talked about the requirements, and the procedure.  What to expect for recovery and for long term effects.  It was interesting, she said this procedure would NOT make me feel “more like a woman.”  I thought that was interesting.  I am not sure she is right. 

Every time I see them they make me feel like I am misshapen.  Even the bumps they cause while I am tucked bother me.  If I am not tucked they move as I move, and I feel them against my skin.  They feel foreign--like something that is stuck to me, but not part of me.  They occasionally are painful.  I cannot say I am surprised, they spend all their time crushed against my abdomen and not hanging free as they are designed. 

Maybe she is right and this will not make me feel more womanly, but maybe this would make me feel less manly.  That also sounds good. 
June 2021: Orchiectomy
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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #37 on: August 22, 2020, 09:34:35 pm »
@Jane.Shannon
Dear Jane:
That was an interesting conversation that you had with your Urologist.

What she stated to you sounds a little strange to me.
"It was interesting, she said this procedure would NOT make me feel “more like a woman.”  I thought that was interesting.  I am not sure she is right".

I agree with your last sentence:
"Maybe she is right and this will not make me feel more womanly, but maybe this would make me feel less manly.  That also sounds good."

Please continue to keep me and the rest of your followers updated as things progress for you.

HUGS, and best wishes.
Danielle
***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
The Ramblings of a Northern*Star Girl
A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 41

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Re: Being Jane
« Reply #38 on: August 30, 2020, 06:22:53 pm »


Photo from Aug 28, 2020.

I posted this photo on the "You Look Fabulous" thread too.  I am mainly posting here, so I can find it again later. 

I got my haircut on Aug 28, 2020.  I think it is a little short, but I like the style.  She cut it so short to even things out after hair transplant surgery.  The surgery leaves a MASSIVE undercut.  The back is even now, but the area behind my ears is still a little shorter then the area above it.  The temples are growing in nicely.  During the six month check with the hair surgeon in June he said it looks like about 60% of the final effect is showing.  I am looking forward to seeing what it looks like in December (12 months).  She also added bangs--I have never had bangs.  I love them.  They are cute, and super easy to style.  I think I will try them again next time too.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
July 2020: Full Time
Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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Thoughts on an Orchiectomy
« Reply #39 on: September 11, 2020, 07:11:01 pm »
A few weeks ago I had a consult for an orchiectomy.  Overall the appointment went well, and now I am faced with the very real question of “what do I want to do?”  Since an orchiectomy is part of GCS, I must also think about that procedure.

   I have heard from many on Susan’s that most surgeons will perform GCS after orchiectomy.  Just to make certain, before the appointment, I contacted two doctors who perform GCS.  Only one replied, the folks at Oregon Health Sciences University in Portland, OR.  They confirmed CGS after orchiectomy was no problem, but to keep the scrotum for the skin and to not have both procedures within a year. 

   With this concern resolved, and the thoughts of the surgeon in mind I keep thinking about this procedure.  One thing that keeps coming to mind is from old threads I read, or VLOGs, I saw about “Am I trans enough…”  The fact that I would even consider this answers that question, so I guess I wonder if the right question is “Do I need this?” 

   I don’t think I need it, but I do want it.  I was laying in bed this morning exploring my body.  So much feels better, my small breasts, thinner body hair, softer skin.  Then there are the mounds down below.  The whole lot feels out of place.  I do not hate them, but instead my genitals feel like they have been attached to my body by mistake. 

   So what do I want from this procedure? First, I have learned that long term exposure to high doses of estrogen comes with risks to my health.  After the orchiectomy I could stop taking SSpironolactone and cut my estrogen dose by as much as 50%.  Second, I would like to lose much of the “mass.”  I look forward to a smaller penis, no lumps, and no discomfort while tucking.  Finally, I hope it will dispel some of the dysphoria from my genitals.  Women don’t have testicles; therefore, I should not have them either. 

   On final note to my testicles.  I thank you.  You gave me many wonderful things; strength, passion, love, privilege, and mostly importantly my children.
June 2021: Orchiectomy
July 2020: Full Time
Aug 2019: Started HRT
Dec 2019: Hair Feminization Surgery

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