Author Topic: Does it really get better just wondering  (Read 325 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline MunaFan86

  • Newbie
  • **
  • Posts: 15
  • Reputation: +1/-0
Does it really get better just wondering
« on: June 26, 2019, 11:15:39 pm »
as in emotional and being lonely does someone eventually find someone?

Offline Make97

  • Visitor
  • *
  • Posts: 7
  • Reputation: +1/-0
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2020, 07:50:28 am »
The way I see it, you don't just meet people, you have to search for them a little. I was lonely, most of my adult life, but now married to most loving man. All because I made an effort to get to know him. I still don't have that much friends but quality is more important than number of friends me thinks. Hugs for you, I really hope it gets easier for you!

Offline SarahEL

  • Oh no, I have said too much, I haven't said enough...
  • Friend
  • ****
  • *
  • *
  • Posts: 344
  • Reputation: +9/-0
  • Gender: Female
  • That's me in the corner.... That's me in the photo
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2020, 08:03:43 am »
There is an old adage,   Don't ask for friendships, be friendly and they will appear....

 I believe it works in ALL relationships.. It did for me!
Oh, life is bigger,  It's bigger Than you and you are not me
The lengths that I will go to.  The distance in your eyes

R.E.M. - Losing My Religion

Offline Sophiaprincess2019

  • *
  • Posts: 665
  • Reputation: +4/-0
  • Gender: Female
    • www.tickerfactory.com
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2020, 08:43:14 am »
as in emotional and being lonely does someone eventually find someone?

I think this question really depends on whether or not you are ready to meet someone. Generally people tend to shy away from those who appear broken or in distress. When I'm actively "looking" or open to the idea of dating, I seek  men who are over their ex, have their stuff (life) together and willing to out forth the effort to develop a relationship. I'm pretty in tune with detecting if someone has issues with their confidence and I don't feel it's my place to rescue or help those who need to be consoled since I'm not a professional therapist, nor do I seek to be one in my romantic relationships. I want a man who is my equal, my partner in life, my friend, lover, but mine overall.

You'll find someone when you're ready; like anything, it's going to take time!


Sophia
1968 Assigned male at birth with feminine mannerisms
1978 Dolls and dresses
1988 Experimental stage, limited makeup and clothes
1998 Denial continues, unsuccessfully tried living as a man
12-8-2018 Knew I was a woman, time for a change....
2-22-2019 Started HRT
8-9-2019 Legal Name Change
8-14-2019 New Drivers License issued with correct gender
9-5-2019 Social Security card updated
10-12-2019 Birth certificate updated
2-22-2020 One year HRT

Offline Northern Star Girl

  • Previously Alaskan Danielle
  • *
  • *
  • *
  • Posts: 30,944
  • Reputation: +42/-0
  • Gender: Female
  • northernstargirl@susans.org
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2020, 11:10:20 am »
There is an old adage,   Don't ask for friendships, be friendly and they will appear....

 I believe it works in ALL relationships.. It did for me!
@SarahEL
Dear Sarah:
Yes indeed:   
"If you want friends, be friendly,  Be the first to say hello and to greet, and even start a casual conversation."

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."
(This is found on my good forum's friend profile, @Jessica)
HUGS,
Danielle


***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
The Ramblings of a Northern*Star Girl
A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 40

Offline ChrissyRyan

  • “Have a gentle manner”
  • Family
  • *****
  • Posts: 26,800
  • Reputation: +33/-0
  • Gender: Female
  • No act of kindness, however small, is wasted.
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #5 on: October 17, 2020, 11:19:29 am »
@SarahEL
Dear Sarah:
Yes indeed:   
"If you want friends, be friendly,  Be the first to say hello and to greet, and even start a casual conversation."

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."
(This is found on my good forum's friend profile, @Jessica)
HUGS,
Danielle


Sometimes friends seem to come out of nowhere.  You just never know.  Often they come about from being introduced or when you mingle at a gathering.  They may not become a real friend right away.  Close friends are rare for most people.

It not important to have lots of friends but it is very nice to have at least one very close friend. 

Chrissy
« Last Edit: October 17, 2020, 11:35:40 am by Northern Star Girl »
Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that your speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

Offline Pammie

  • *
  • Posts: 1,962
  • Reputation: +13/-0
Re: Does it really get better just wondering
« Reply #6 on: October 17, 2020, 12:28:38 pm »
Sometimes friends seem to come out of nowhere.  You just never know.  Often they come about from being introduced or when you mingle at a gathering.  They may not become a real friend right away.  Close friends are rare for most people.

It not important to have lots of friends but it is very nice to have at least one very close friend. 

Chrissy
For me one key is to be out there, create opportunities to make friends and be friendly to people. Of course good friends only come from a compatibility that is sensed rather than expressed.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Tags: single