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Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« on: July 27, 2020, 08:30:03 pm »
Has Covid-19 impacts slowed your transition?  Certainly this has impacted jobs, economic security, where we work and serve our clients and patients, the amount of time being in public, and of course, health concerns. 

Is all of the sudden transition perhaps not your highest priority or perhaps been stalled?  Maybe you cannot see your medical doctors, therapists, or professionals for laser, hair styling, etc. as easily or there are longer waits for appointments so things seem to be moving a bit slower than ever.

Perhaps it has had no significant transition related impact or you have even accelerated your plans. 

For me, I just have not been out as much and see friends less often.  We were made to be with others.  I miss the interaction.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2020, 09:05:18 pm »
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No significant impacts ....

... the biggest impact had been to my business and my social life.

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Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #2 on: July 27, 2020, 09:49:52 pm »
Yup for me.

The stopping of Non-emergency procedures has delayed me. 

I did get one surgery completed in May.  Additionally, the consults for FFS & GCS has to be rescheduled.

Unfortunately, I think there is a risk of another shutdown.  I’m hopeful there won’t be, but it wouldn’t surprise me.


Socially, my girlfriends and I moved our GNO to Zoom, and I helped my therapist get her group meetings going on Zoom.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #3 on: August 10, 2020, 11:48:56 pm »
Yes!  There are some processes I would've had in place much sooner if everything hadn't shut down.

On the bright side, I can feel glad I didn't delay for FFS and got the first stage of that done in December.

And also, realizing that the United States will have a covid spike in winter that may shut everything down again, I'm not wasting time on the VFS that means the most to me.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #4 on: August 12, 2020, 06:14:54 am »
Yes it has totally stalled my transition as april 8 was supposed to be my SRS and BA so it is still postponed until further notice which really is hard to deal with at times.



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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #5 on: August 12, 2020, 06:32:53 am »
I has, on a psychological level, as well as medical.

The isolation of social distancing has been doing a number on my mental state.. I've found it harder & harder to summon the motivation for self-care. I've done my makeup once in 4 months, largely because I've been so depressed. I was also about to get a job in a LGBTQ bar right when Covid hit.

On the medical side, I was supposed to have a doctor's visit in March, whee I would've brought up concerns about my T levels & the prospect of an orchiectomy. Unfortunately, that was canceled. They called me last months, but I'm out of work & my tags are expired.

So overall, not been great.
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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #6 on: August 12, 2020, 09:03:41 am »
Yes - the pandemic has affected my transition in a few ways:

1) FFS - My original date for FFS in April got blown up. Fortunately, I was able to reschedule and just got my FFS done last week.

2) SRS - The pandemic is blowing up my after-surgery care plan for SRS, which is to take place at the end of January. Originally, I was going to have my elderly mom be with me for post-SRS support. With the pandemic, however, it's not going to be a good idea for her to travel out of town for the surgery. Net result: I'll probably have no one with me in the hospital, and I'll be relying on a rotating cast of friends to support me with aftercare. This is not an ideal outcome, but it's really the only solution. SRS is just not going to be fun...but from a transition standpoint, it's better to get it done sooner rather than later. So I just have to power through.

3) New business - in conjunction with my transition, I started a financial and investment advisory business serving individuals and families in May. My original marketing plan relied heavily on in-person networking events. That marketing plan got completely destroyed by the pandemic. So I am having to re-tool my marketing to digital marketing, but it's really hard to build a financial advisory client base if you can't meet with clients. I have enough savings to get through this tough period, but it's very frustrating as a new business owner having to deal with this situation.

4) Going to see out-of-town friends as the new me. I was planning on going to see a bunch of my friends this summer. Those plans fell by the wayside of course.

5) Just more lonely...as someone who does not have a partner or children but is very social, it's just not fun not being able to see family and friends in person. I see my mom a couple of times a week, but that's pretty much my only meaningful in-person interaction. I have gone to a couple of socially distanced picnics...those have been fun, but they're pretty rare still.

Net-net, the pandemic hasn't been great.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #7 on: August 12, 2020, 02:30:25 pm »
There has been an impact in that my medical care has been delayed. For that reason, I've decided to go private for hormones until the NHS catches up.

Also, I would have started voice therapy by May I think if everything had run according to plan. Now it will start in about two weeks time.

Everybody's been affected by the covid situation in one way or another, and I accept what has happened and that it was nobody's fault.
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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #8 on: August 13, 2020, 05:10:42 pm »
There has been an impact in that my medical care has been delayed. For that reason, I've decided to go private for hormones until the NHS catches up.

Also, I would have started voice therapy by May I think if everything had run according to plan. Now it will start in about two weeks time.

Everybody's been affected by the covid situation in one way or another, and I accept what has happened and that it was nobody's fault.
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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #9 on: August 14, 2020, 05:13:29 pm »
Yes it has totally stalled my transition as april 8 was supposed to be my SRS and BA so it is still postponed until further notice which really is hard to deal with at times.

I hope you will have no further delays.   :) :)

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It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #10 on: August 22, 2020, 10:44:42 am »
COVID-19 has slowed my transition, stopped electrolysis after 3 sessions, ended my in person gender therapy sessions, in person transgender group sessions, gym membership and yoga classes. Seeing this all coming in January I moved up my timeline to start on HRT which caught my therapist a little off guard. I felt that if I did not get in my required doctors visits it would be who knows when I would be able to start on estrogen. The social isolation has not been helpful.
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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #11 on: August 22, 2020, 10:47:30 am »
COVID-19 has slowed my transition, stopped electrolysis after 3 sessions, ended my in person gender therapy sessions, in person transgender group sessions, gym membership and yoga classes. Seeing this all coming in January I moved up my timeline to start on HRT which caught my therapist a little off guard. I felt that if I did not get in my required doctors visits it would be who knows when I would be able to start on estrogen. The social isolation has not been helpful.



Yes, I can relate.  I understand.   Best to you.   :)

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #12 on: August 22, 2020, 11:16:38 pm »
I'm one of those rare cases where Covid actually helped my business. I've been extremely fortunate that freight hauling has increased a lot and rates are high. I've gone from being a company truck driver to going back into business for myself. I suddenly have a bunch of new business opportunities.

Stay strong.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #13 on: August 23, 2020, 05:20:54 am »
I'm one of those rare cases where Covid actually helped my business. I've been extremely fortunate that freight hauling has increased a lot and rates are high. I've gone from being a company truck driver to going back into business for myself. I suddenly have a bunch of new business opportunities.

Stay strong.

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That sounds encouraging.  :)

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that your speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #14 on: November 19, 2020, 02:32:29 pm »
For the second time now covid canceled my srs this time 4 days away from having it. I am so upset it feels like the world keeps screwing me over



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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #15 on: November 19, 2020, 02:45:14 pm »
My own discovery was well into the COVID impacts, so the short answer is I don't have anything to compare it to.

The long answer is that being able to go out and about masked really helped my early confidence, the virtual meetings I have at work set me up well for virtual therapy sessions, having an in-camera worklife vs in-person has allowed much more freedom to be myself most of the time.

I'd probably still be in deep-stealth mode and not as far along as I am today if not for COVID.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #16 on: November 19, 2020, 03:02:24 pm »
My own discovery was well into the COVID impacts, so the short answer is I don't have anything to compare it to.

The long answer is that being able to go out and about masked really helped my early confidence, the virtual meetings I have at work set me up well for virtual therapy sessions, having an in-camera workalike vs in-person has allowed much more freedom to be myself most of the time.

I'd probably still be in deep-stealth mode and not as far along as I am today if not for COVID.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #17 on: November 19, 2020, 04:48:01 pm »
Hi All,

Been a godsend I think

I managed to have my first appointment for switching to the Dutch gender clinic Stepworks a week before lockdown

I got all the next appointments done by skype saving half a days travel time each time

there was no waiting for my orchiectomy in July and I was able to continue working from home after op albeit on a soft cushion

Because I couldn't fly home to see my family I have been full time all year and the one trip I did manage my family were so glad to see me they didn't care how I looked or was dressed

Due to less travel, excursions, holidays and pub visits I had enough money to pay for blepharoplasty in August and again recover with out taking time off.

My hair removal treatment have been a little more difficult to sort

Also hair appointments and threading have been difficult

I had already come out at work in June 19 and had a plan to gradually stop going in as a boy, this was about to have to speed up as I got a bit of a breast boost after first year on the hormones in February. I go into work a few days every week and have had no issues and I was asked if I wanted to change my account names over after the orchiectomy

wearing the face masks saves on makeup

I am now thinking to take advantage of this environment to try and get FFS and maybe BA end next year if the hormones don't do their job

I am an outgoing person and have missed my nights out with friends but its been worth it as when I see my friends again I will have been on hormones for nearly 2 years and hopefully they will see the changes

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #18 on: November 19, 2020, 05:09:11 pm »
For the second time now covid canceled my srs this time 4 days away from having it. I am so upset it feels like the world keeps screwing me over

That stinks!  Sorry that happened again.

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Re: Has Covid-19 impacts slowed or stalled your transition?
« Reply #19 on: February 20, 2021, 03:03:04 pm »
It kind of has and hasn't.

My original first attempts to get healthy before I go back on hormones (I chickened out of transitioning a few years back) got nixed by the 'rona last year, as I felt bad leaving the house and the big sad hit.

On the other hand, lockdown gave me one of the deepest big sad streaks of my life, which finally convinced me to turn my life around, and get by permanently changing my diet, coming out to some peeps, and getting ready to go back to the gym full force.

So swings and roundabouts



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