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Offline CosmicJoke

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What are your reasons for being non op?
« on: September 08, 2020, 10:29:49 am »
Hi everyone. I don't necessarily identify as non op, but I was just wondering what some of your reasons are for deciding not to have the operation?
A little info on me is I am an MtF transgender person. I live fulltime and I have had a bilateral orchiectomy. I still would like to one day get the vaginoplasty, but I suppose I don't feel like it's paramount to living as a woman. There may be some who disagree but that's just how I feel on it. Anyone is welcome to add their thoughts.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #1 on: September 10, 2020, 11:01:50 pm »
I have had a bilateral orchiectomy.

How big a hassle was that, and could you say a little about effects, before and after?
I'm just on the threshold of HRT [assuming the VA endocrinologist cooperates], but I'm uncertain where this path will take me.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #2 on: September 11, 2020, 12:14:50 am »
Cosmic, we are all different, and have different needs. I am 66 y.o. and asexual, so no plans to use anything down there, and up until a couple of years ago, I didn't plan to medically transition. People related to me as a woman, and I was happy! At 65, my dysphoria exploded and I had to start HRT to bring it under control. I have always hated my genitals, but they had atrophied and were mostly inside, so much so my foreskin shrank so much I haven't seen my glans for 15 years (I had Hypogonadism) and there was just loose skin. But my dysphoria has led me to having a labiaplasty to get rid of offending tissue moreso than having a vagina. I just hope that will be enough to reduce my dysphoria.

I also will never see myself as a 'complete' woman without the other reproductive organs, and so having vaginoplasty would not result in a feeling of 'completeness' as I have heard others desire.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #3 on: September 11, 2020, 06:24:11 am »
I wasn't going to go for a vaginoplasty, however after my orchi last year and my resulting depression, I changed my mind.  Which was weird because once I decided to go for it, found a dr, had a consult, got on the calendar, about two months later I began to recall memories from early childhood.  Apparently I knew what I wanted when I was super young, however by the time I was twelve I had decided to hide it, even from myself. 

So..... at one point I thought I was going to be non-op, and now I realize I've always been destined to arrive at this spot.  Go figure, being human is weird. 

Nobody has to have any surgery, just be true to yourself. 

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2020, 07:30:06 am »
Hi everyone. I don't necessarily identify as non op, but I was just wondering what some of your reasons are for deciding not to have the operation?
A little info on me is I am an MtF transgender person. I live fulltime and I have had a bilateral orchiectomy. I still would like to one day get the vaginoplasty, but I suppose I don't feel like it's paramount to living as a woman. There may be some who disagree but that's just how I feel on it. Anyone is welcome to add their thoughts.
Hi and welcome!
I’m currently non-op but only because i’m not in a position to go private and the NHS waiting list means it will be at least a few years!
The only surgery I plan to I have is bottom surgery. I’m keen to be as much my natural self (HRT induced) as possible


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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2020, 10:21:34 am »
I have had a bilateral orchiectomy.

How big a hassle was that, and could you say a little about effects, before and after?
I'm just on the threshold of HRT [assuming the VA endocrinologist cooperates], but I'm uncertain where this path will take me.

Thanks, ahd and a huge hug from,
~~Lee~~

It was an outpatient procedure, just a one night stay. I wouldn't say it was a huge hassle but there was definitely some prep work to be done and the stress that comes with it but the healing wasn't bad. There may be soreness for a couple days after and you are supposed to sit on ice, but my pain tolerance is pretty good.
As for effects, it's really good for removing the source of testosterone from your body. An anti androgen will only do so much. The hormone estrogen works best with less testosterone, so if you're considering one I would say go for it.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2021, 04:59:24 pm »
I have just begun to stick my toes into the water of transitioning. I probably will not be able to go on HRT or have certain surgeries as I am a 2 time cancer survivor. My cancer was very aggressive and my markers went up a little so they are keeping a very close eye on me. So it is going to be non op for me. I have to play the cards that I was dealt.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #7 on: February 23, 2021, 05:04:58 pm »
Hi Kay,

Sorry to hear of the cancer.

I've not done HRT either.  I am short and already have an hourglass figure,
so I am OK with how my body looks in the mirror.

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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #8 on: March 14, 2021, 10:26:02 pm »
I am a DES Son  AKA Transfemale.  Because of my mother being prescribed DES Diethylstilbestrol while I was in utero I was born with a micro penis and non descending testicles. Defective Aortic valve, Cardiomyopathy, Congestive heart failure. I've had a TIA, I am on blood thinners, I've had major depression forever until about five years ago. Cardiomyopathy and CHF had life expectancies of five years. Luckily I have been blessed with over 25 years of survival.
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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #9 on: March 15, 2021, 03:45:43 pm »
Hi Kay,

Sorry to hear of the cancer.

I've not done HRT either.  I am short and already have an hourglass figure,
so I am OK with how my body looks in the mirror.

Marion
That’s interesting. Most of us go down the HRT route for the hormones themselves rather than the (very welcome) side effects. Do you not suffer from gender dysphoria or have you got other solutions to control it?


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Re: What are your reasons for being non op?
« Reply #10 on: March 15, 2021, 04:32:00 pm »
I don't seem to have an issue with gender dysphoria. 
I also a very feminine voice and mannerisms.
Enough to easily male fail at least three times when I got my Covid shot this morning.
I tied my hair back in a ponytail and wore a women's parka and boy's insulated pants as it was below 20 degrees.
The Walgreens paperwork only had options for male and female.  If there had been a nonbinary option like Hartford Hospital I would have picked that and put on nail polish.

I've been working on how I walk.  I'm getting old enough to where falling may soon be an issue.
I already have ton of lower leg strength from gardening so I've been working on balance and footwork.

Marion

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