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Offline PeterSteele

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Back in the closet ** Trigger Warning **
« on: September 23, 2020, 09:51:59 pm »
Trigger Warning - Sexual abuse

I went back into the closet when I got sexually abused at 14-15. I have been closeted ever since and it has been hell. I try my best to be more feminine or at least just neutral, but still in the back of my mind I always think "you'll never be a man" and other gender dysphoric stuff. When I hangout with boys at school I fill with envy that I do my best to hide. I am told that I am a beautiful girl and I appreciate it, but I know people usually say that because they just want my body. I don't know how to explain how I feel about being a female, it just hurts but I have been pushing it to the back of my mind for a few years now. When people call me their "girl friend", "daughter", etc, It still frustrates me and makes me get hit in my feelings. I really tried my best to get rid of this gender dysphoria, but it won't leave me. I still wish I was male, no matter how hard I tried not to. I don't know what to do with myself. This depression and anxiety is not fun. I feel so alone and I have so so so much self hatred. Maybe that's why I have been purposely doing whatever I can to self destruct? Or it could be the sexual abuse, or my mom being an addict in jail, or my dad and stepmom being distant and blaming everything on me, or being in CPS. I don't know I am so confused. What should I do with myself? I just got out of RTC's (residential treatment centers) only a couple weeks ago after spending time in those for a year and a half. I don't want to get sent back to those facilities.
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Re: Back in the closet
« Reply #1 on: September 23, 2020, 10:37:27 pm »
@PeterSteele
Dear Peter:
I wish that I had the words to say to you that would help you to successfully help you with the issues that you shared.
Please know that I am going to give some more thought about your post and hopefully I can say more that may give you comfort and healing.

You are doing the right thing by writing out your feelings and the issues you are experiencing....  it gives you an opportunity to ponder possible solutions and consider positive steps you can take to better your situation

You need to stay positive....   negative thinking will not be helpful.
If you have not already been to the following Topic and thread I would suggest that you go to this link and look at some of the very first postings and comments there...
         Positive Mindset... put away negativity

I am indeed praying for you and wishing you well.  As you feel comfortable doing please keep me and the rest of your followers updated

HUGS and best wishes,
Danielle.
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Re: Back in the closet
« Reply #2 on: September 24, 2020, 08:39:56 am »
@PeterSteele
Dear Peter:
I wish that I had the words to say to you that would help you to successfully help you with the issues that you shared.
Please know that I am going to give some more thought about your post and hopefully I can say more that may give you comfort and healing.

You are doing the right thing by writing out your feelings and the issues you are experiencing....  it gives you an opportunity to ponder possible solutions and consider positive steps you can take to better your situation

You need to stay positive....   negative thinking will not be helpful.
If you have not already been to the following Topic and thread I would suggest that you go to this link and look at some of the very first postings and comments there...
         Positive Mindset... put away negativity

I am indeed praying for you and wishing you well.  As you feel comfortable doing please keep me and the rest of your followers updated

HUGS and best wishes,
Danielle.


Thank you I really do appreciate it a lot. I really need some help on figuring myself out and I hope you could help me. Also you are gorgeous! I will go check out that thread, I need some positivity.
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Re: Back in the closet ** Trigger Warning **
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2020, 01:16:45 pm »
How are you doing now Peter?

Have you thought about getting therapy because of the abuse?

I was physically and mentally abused until I was 15. I have learned to accept this happened to me. It was not my fault. And there was nothing I could do.

But I am still not ready to forgive. I doubt I ever will.

Acceptance and forgiving are different things. When I accept something has happened to me, then I am ready to heal.