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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #20 on: January 10, 2021, 02:40:43 pm »
So sorry to hear about your wife.  My condolences to you and everyone else.  I wish that I lived closer, because I could help you out.  I agree with Rachel.  However, if you are strong then I would find a way to have someone come in to stay with you for whatever that recommended time period may be.  It will not be cheap, but you will really need it and it will be well worth it.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #21 on: January 10, 2021, 04:25:02 pm »
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My dear Ellen:

My heart hurts for you.
I am praying and trusting for your comfort in these difficult days.
                   
I am sending my hugs to you...

HUGS and HUGS and HUGS,
Danielle


My surgery is now just over two weeks away. With the COVID surge in LA I keep wondering when I am going to get an email from UCLA that it is postponed. However, I am now considering postponing it myself. My wife, the love of my life for 40 years passed away this past Tuesday from her cancer. I honestly do not know how I am going to go on with my life without her, much less complete my transition without her being at my side to  support me in recovery from GCS.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #22 on: January 12, 2021, 02:37:26 am »
My surgery is now just over two weeks away. With the COVID surge in LA I keep wondering when I am going to get an email from UCLA that it is postponed. However, I am now considering postponing it myself. My wife, the love of my life for 40 years passed away this past Tuesday from her cancer. I honestly do not know how I am going to go on with my life without her, much less complete my transition without her being at my side to  support me in recovery from GCS.

Ellen

Ellen dear, my heart is with you. :'( We have so much in common, my wife of 50 years has Alzheimer's and I am losing her too.  She too is the love of my life and totally supported me in my transition.

My thought is to think about what she would want for you.  I believe she would want you to continue in your transition and want you to be happy without her.  That is what my wife says.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #23 on: January 12, 2021, 08:05:50 pm »
Ellen I am so sorry to read about your wife's death.  Having over 40 years of marriage, I would be lost too.  Take time to think about your future and what counsel your wife would have offered at this time. Take solace that she is there with you.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #24 on: January 14, 2021, 05:55:29 pm »
Rachel, Allie, Danielle, Dorit, & Judi,

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. It has been a very hard week. Yesterday, we were able to have a wonderful  outdoor memorial overlooking the Pacific Ocean. My In-Laws and a small group if very close friends were able to say good by to her.

As to my surgery .I discussed it with some of my friends, her family and my therapist. Every one thought I should go through with the surgery. My fiends and her family all said they would help me during my recovery and that she would want me to go through with it. That my wife would want me to be happy.
So today I completed my pre-op tests and just need to pass the COVID test two days before the surgery.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #25 on: January 14, 2021, 06:35:19 pm »
That is good news Ellen.  I'm glad to read your friends and family are behind you.  I hope the process goes well for you.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #26 on: January 14, 2021, 08:07:43 pm »
Thank you for the update.Good luck!
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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #27 on: January 21, 2021, 01:38:03 pm »
My GCS is now one week away and I have just been given the green light for the surgery from my primary care doctor  ;D All that is left is to take a COVID test on the 25th. And I will finally have the body that matches who I really am, a 67 women. :)

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #28 on: January 21, 2021, 01:41:29 pm »
Congratulations Ellen! Full speed ahead!!!

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #29 on: January 21, 2021, 01:56:25 pm »
Good luck and heal fast.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #30 on: January 21, 2021, 02:11:10 pm »
I am happy for you.   Best wishes.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #31 on: January 26, 2021, 10:48:52 am »
My GCS is now one week away and I have just been given the green light for the surgery from my primary care doctor  ;D All that is left is to take a COVID test on the 25th. And I will finally have the body that matches who I really am, a 67 women. :)

Ellen

That last hurdle has been passed. The COVID test came back as "Not detected". So tomorrow morning I will have my GCS surgery. I am so excited that this day has finally come.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #32 on: January 26, 2021, 11:03:49 am »
Good luck, doll.  :)

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #33 on: January 26, 2021, 12:12:32 pm »
good luck to you tomorrow, keep us informed on how you are doing.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #34 on: January 26, 2021, 12:56:45 pm »
Ellen,

Good luck, Godspeed and have a good recovery!  See you on the flip side.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #35 on: January 26, 2021, 03:09:16 pm »
Best of luck to you during the surgery and recovery.  I hope the days in the hospital are quick but boring.
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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #36 on: January 26, 2021, 07:42:18 pm »
Best wishes for you, Ellen.




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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #37 on: January 26, 2021, 07:56:20 pm »
Best of luck! My GCS surgery in New York is on Thursday, so we can be recovery buddies. Feel free to chime in on my thread. I’ll be on this one to get updates from you and provide emotional support.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #38 on: January 26, 2021, 09:50:29 pm »
Ellen, I hope you and your surgeon have an awesome day tomorrow. After you fall asleep and the gender fairy visits, you may wake up feeling like a truck hit you. Don't worry, that's just the gender fairy doing a smashing good job.

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Re: Will have my GCS at UCLA
« Reply #39 on: January 29, 2021, 10:30:05 am »
Thank you for all for the supportive messages. My GCS went very well and I am out of the hospital. I will post later with all the details. But just wanted everyone know

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