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Offline CosmicJoke

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Detransitioning: How do people do it?
« on: October 11, 2020, 11:28:18 am »
Hi everyone. I am asking this not because I am considering detransitioning but because I am interested in how people manage to go through that. A little info on me is I am an MtF who has transitioned into and lives full-time as female. I found that even though I do strongly feel female, transition for the most part is a nightmare. I have gotten many looks of disapproval and been met with alot of non accepting people. With that being said I couldn't even imagine what it must be like for someone who goes through a transition only to find out it wasn't right for them so they need to undo that.
I suppose I am writing this thread to hear stories from those who may have went through this process and how they handled it.

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Re: Detransitioning: How do people do it?
« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2020, 12:36:10 pm »
I've always felt that Detransitioning as a term is misleading. Each person has a path, and they follow it. If that path leads them to a point or place, then takes them somewhere else, it's still their path.

Please remember, the Detransitioning/non- transitioning subforum is a place for people to talk about their lived experiences, not a place for others to talk about them.
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Re: Detransitioning: How do people do it?
« Reply #2 on: October 11, 2020, 05:35:34 pm »
I can only speak for me.

I am a diagnosed mtf transsexual and was in theraphy and into transition from male to female.

I did not explicitly decide to detransition. I just did very small, very little steps to heal, to do what is best for me. My aim was and is to heal, to end the pain. To reconcile. To proceed transition was then simply too much for me, i have to live every day and i have had no energy or ressources for it. Transition felt not right at this moment then. First I had then some current problems to solve. So i paused transition then. Then i stopped transition. And live since then as a man.

I recognized then that i do not need to transition. Its better for me to solve my problems without the problems i have from transition like hormones, epilation, surgery, passing etc.

Detransition was not a goal, but a result for me from being truthful to myself on my way.

"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."

(Shakespeare )

I distinguish between prudence, wisdom, science. Prudence can teach me what i can achieve, about my ressources, possibilities and energy. Wisdom can help me to recognize what truth is and a good life. And science can help me to recognize what is secured scientific knowledge at a certain time and what is not. 

For example the concept of Kintsugi:

To see the force, the violence, the pain, the brokenness, to see the pieces, to fix it in the best way, to find a new wholeness:

I try to live a good life, learning to love myself, to cause no harm. This means to me to accept to be in a male body, to live healthy with a male past, with a transsexual past. To overcome my alienation and reconcile with me.

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