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Offline Asaph

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FtM who wouldn't date other FtM
« on: October 17, 2020, 02:31:21 pm »
First of all, I don't mean to say that trans people who do not wish to date other trans people have internalized transphobia or anything, I know dating preferences is a thing and it's very personal to the individual and tbh I don't really mind since it's none of my businesses, but I was overall curious to why some trans guys wouldn't date other trans guys (assuming they're not straight). I've heard a couple of FtM folks say that they wouldn't date trans men but they didn't give me any reasons (not that they have to argue why they won't date someone, but I was just genuinely willing to understand their side better). So, if that applies to you or you've heard from a FtM who won't date other FtMs, I'd love to hear the explanation.

Thanks for your attention either way, I hope you're having a nice time wherever you are!

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Re: FtM who wouldn't date other FtM
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2020, 03:02:49 pm »
I have no idea. Guess everyone is different.

I’m 80% gay. Alot of % pan. Actually I don’t care much about genitals. But I tend to fall in love...or rather be attrcted to other men.

If the guy has a penis or not, I don’t care. For ME it is not important.

I sometimes get attracted to women too (including trans). It has to do with personality. Not very much about the looks. And absolutely nothing to do about genitals.

So my answer is everyone is differet. You can’t help it if a penis turns you on or a set of nice boobs or if it is personality.

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Re: FtM who wouldn't date other FtM
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2020, 03:03:48 pm »
Some people think being in a trans/trans relationship has the potential to be triggering; not having any way to escape dysphoria.

I'm in a MTF/MTF relationship, we're doing fine.  :)
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Re: FtM who wouldn't date other FtM
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2020, 03:31:49 pm »
Some people think being in a trans/trans relationship has the potential to be triggering; not having any way to escape dysphoria.

I'm in a MTF/MTF relationship, we're doing fine.  :)
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Re: FtM who wouldn't date other FtM
« Reply #4 on: Yesterday at 04:50:51 pm »
Some people think being in a trans/trans relationship has the potential to be triggering; not having any way to escape dysphoria.

I'm in a MTF/MTF relationship, we're doing fine.  :)

Idk, if they find a trans/trans relationship triggering then wouldn't they find it triggering to be in a relationship with a cis person of the same gender? (i.e. transman/cisman or transwoman/ciswoman)
(Btw I apologize if any of this sounds a bit dumb or judgmental, I'm truly just trying to understand the other side — since similar to Tony I fall in love with the personality of a person and their gender identity/genitals don't really make a difference to me)