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Offline gokira2012

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What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« on: November 30, 2020, 01:18:14 pm »
My trigger is seeing beautiful women

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2020, 01:27:50 pm »
My trigger is seeing beautiful women
The only time I get gender dysphoria now is when im naked and I see it - wish I could afford to go private but I can’t so it could be years before GCS


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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2020, 01:34:23 pm »
My voice. No matter how well I dress or what makeup I apply, as soon as I speak I am clocked.

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #3 on: November 30, 2020, 05:30:25 pm »
My voice. No matter how well I dress or what makeup I apply, as soon as I speak I am clocked.


We can use a universal voice transformer.  Whatever we want to sound like, our voice will come out that way. 


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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2020, 06:19:04 pm »
Very much like Pammie for me.. Since going full-time it is now only when I have to interact with my 'birth defect' that I get very bad GD...

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But.. hey, only 30 month wait list in the UK to see your first NHS gender specialist.. and then, who knows how long for the op to be authorised.. It is not like it is causing you to feel suicidal or anything ?
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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #5 on: November 30, 2020, 10:48:43 pm »
My trigger is seeing beautiful women

That's interesting, since for me it's the opposite. I tend to feel inspired by beautiful women and get dysphoric around alpha males. It's not that I think I'm in the beautiful women's club as I'm a "plain Jane" in most respects, but I just feel more attached to them.

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #6 on: December 01, 2020, 03:23:22 am »
That's interesting, since for me it's the opposite. I tend to feel inspired by beautiful women and get dysphoric around alpha males. It's not that I think I'm in the beautiful women's club as I'm a "plain Jane" in most respects, but I just feel more attached to them.

My BF is probably my definition of "alpha", but I actually take comfort in his presence, I can't remember how I felt about similar men before I met him, a little nervous maybe?


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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #7 on: December 01, 2020, 03:25:33 am »
Very much like Pammie for me.. Since going full-time it is now only when I have to interact with my 'birth defect' that I get very bad GD...

<start sarcasm>
But.. hey, only 30 month wait list in the UK to see your first NHS gender specialist.. and then, who knows how long for the op to be authorised.. It is not like it is causing you to feel suicidal or anything ?
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I have never thought about the term “birth defect “ but it’s a perfect description!


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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #8 on: December 01, 2020, 03:57:13 am »
I have never thought about the term “birth defect “ but it’s a perfect description!


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Funny how I used to blame that for everything, but now i've got two people who think it's "cute" and who don't really like the idea of GRS. I would say that body hair bothers me much more at this point.

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #9 on: December 01, 2020, 04:29:22 am »
Body shape and genitals. Well, for the next 5 weeks anyway, then it will only be body shape!

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #10 on: December 01, 2020, 04:52:32 am »
Funny how I used to blame that for everything, but now i've got two people who think it's "cute" and who don't really like the idea of GRS. I would say that body hair bothers me much more at this point.
Well, SP has taught me about the massive spectrum of genders so it’s not surprising that different people have very different views


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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #11 on: December 01, 2020, 04:52:58 am »
Body shape and genitals. Well, for the next 5 weeks anyway, then it will only be body shape!

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Allie
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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #12 on: December 01, 2020, 06:02:42 am »
I think my two largest triggers are my current genital configuration and the hair, or more like lack of it, on my head.  But hey I'm planning on GCS in 2022 and I've begun researching if I have enough hair for transplants, so it appears as though there is hope that these triggers can be eliminated, which is nice. 
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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #13 on: December 01, 2020, 08:08:17 am »
Initially, it was having my hair fall out over the years that would be a dysphoria trigger, but since starting HRT, oddly, that isn't bothering me quite as much (so far, it isn't growing back, but I've come to understand better how hair loss can affect anyone, regardless of gender, so it no longer feels like an exclusively 'cis male' condition).

Now, the daily routine of shaving and keeping the body hair off?  That triggers a condensed dysphoria episode, and it's a huge relief to get through that, and get on with the rest of the day.  Hopefully HRT eventually helps more with that, as I had to stop laser sessions for the moment.
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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #14 on: December 01, 2020, 09:57:35 am »
Whenever I am misgendered, which although only occasional, happens due to my voice.

34 months HRT has significantly reduced my GD but it still raises its head at the sight of the shapeliness of beautiful women.

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #15 on: December 01, 2020, 11:11:55 am »
Pretty much everything.  :laugh:

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #16 on: December 01, 2020, 01:25:24 pm »
I can feel like a straight male, then all of a sudden I could be watching some form of media and see a beautiful woman, and i find my reason searching for the girl's official height and weight, hair color, clothes the actress likes to wear, it never fails

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #17 on: December 01, 2020, 09:20:41 pm »
Seeing any health care professional that treats me like an oddity.  All but one and that was years ago
Having my wife research the H Benjamin protocols and tell me "you've never had any problem being a male in male roles, I don't think you know what the hell you're doing"
Seeing women and knowing that will never be what people see me as.
Listening to fellow maintanance techs say "I don't take orders from a man in a dress" referring to our state health sec.
I point out that "you can just call her a reprehensible POS without bringing gender into the mix"   I have to work with these guys.
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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #18 on: December 01, 2020, 11:17:26 pm »
My large rib cage and my long torso.

Genitals don’t bother me as much because like @Allie Jayne, that’s going to be fixed in the coming weeks (assuming COVID doesn’t cause my surgery to get postponed).

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Re: What is your Gender Dysphoria Trigger
« Reply #19 on: December 02, 2020, 06:27:33 am »
What triggered my dysphoria?  I really don't know.  ???

For me, my gender issues were with me almost all the time. The only times I had any relief, was when I was thoroughly distracted by something else.  :-\




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