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Offline chloeleanneh

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Outing by tested flk
« on: December 01, 2020, 03:08:05 pm »
Hi all

Seriously it is lovely to know you all and any negative feedback is appreciated as long as it is constructive.

I have tried to introduce myself in the forum 'right place'  but feel more that I joined a conversation rather than made some dramatic entrance.

I have a question for you all who have transitioned in later life. We all see how beautiful Maya Henry  and Sam Lux are yet they are a minority. I grew up farming and then went to the military. Suppressed things for nearly 50years and eventually like a held cork me has resurfaced...my question is really...??I'm a girl in mental health support who is trying her best....where do I turn for support....whole life is supporting others and my an kids...

Btw the kids reaction to the transition has been "meh,' so that is no worry..

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Edit: sorry I failed to add:
My current wife and eldest are aware and not worried from their feedback. an information gathering session with gender GP was an actually positive experience for which I am grateful.

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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2020, 03:33:59 pm »
@chloeleanneh
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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2020, 03:48:22 pm »
Hi all

Seriously it is lovely to know you all and any negative feedback is appreciated as long as it is constructive.

I have tried to introduce myself in the forum 'right place'  but feel more that I joined a conversation rather than made some dramatic entrance.

I have a question for you all who have transitioned in later life. We all see how beautiful Maya Henry  and Sam Lux are yet they are a minority. I grew up farming and then went to the military. Suppressed things for nearly 50years and eventually like a held cork me has resurfaced...my question is really...??I'm a girl in mental health support who is trying her best....where do I turn for support....whole life is supporting others and my an kids...

Btw the kids reaction to the transition has been "meh,' so that is no worry..

Sent from my Lenovo TB-X104F using Tapatalk


Edit: sorry I failed to add:
My current wife and eldest are aware and not worried from their feedback. an information gathering session with gender GP was an actually positive experience for which I am grateful.

Welcome to Susan's Place! Get ye to Roll Call! See you around the site!

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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2020, 04:02:03 pm »
Welcome!

Most of us have been where you are right now: the beginning of the journey after decades bottling things up. And quite a few of us, including me, transitioned when they were older.

While each person's circumstances and journey are different, we're definitely available to provide help and insight based on our experiences.

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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #4 on: December 01, 2020, 04:18:21 pm »
A UK girl then if you are using Gender GP? There are quite a few of us UK girls starting out later in life , for me it was at 61 .
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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #5 on: December 01, 2020, 04:36:01 pm »
A UK girl then if you are using Gender GP? There are quite a few of us UK girls starting out later in life , for me it was at 61 .
Davina61

Thank you sister. Yes I had my information gathering just recently. I have had my referral and will not wait the 49+ months for an assessment.


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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #6 on: December 01, 2020, 09:08:45 pm »
It's awesome that your doc experience was good., That's great news.
I recently went to yet another provider and was treated with complete incredulity like all the others I've seen in the past,
They all just see the giant man on female hormones and speak to me between eye rolls.
Revel in this acceptance you get, it will likely keep your spirits up when the odd bad days inevitably happen by.
Welcome and be well
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Grew 18" in single year 1978
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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #7 on: December 02, 2020, 06:02:03 am »
Chloe,

I am another late transitioner, trying my best for over 50 years to man up. Didn't work for me, but that is another story.

Take a look at my profile picture. This is the real me. Prior to transition, I was 6'1" and well over 330 pounds. In my picture, I was on hormone therapy for only 3 years. I also had a 120 pound weight loss through serious dieting and a few inches in lost height due to hormone therapy and this is what I look like now.

Yes, during transition, I got "clocked" more often than I care to remember, however, I  just kept on dieting and with a little help from electrolysis, the hormone therapy did the rest. Never say never. Take a look at our Before and After threads. I am in there somewhere. We have five versions of this thread, because so many of us feel a need to show everybody what is possible.

Transition is a slow process, but when successful, the rewards are priceless;D

Take care.  :-*





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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #8 on: December 02, 2020, 07:31:49 am »
This may sound odd, but it seems to me, the older one is, the later we start. I think that is a sign of a society in transition. Things are getting better. The thing is, it's hard to overcome decades of negative programming.

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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #9 on: December 02, 2020, 09:13:06 am »
Don't worry about starting later in life, many of us didn't start our journeys until our 40's, 50's, 60's and even 70's. I was certain that I was going to be 'one ugly woman', but my only other option would have led to an abrupt end to my life. I started my journey when I was 54, I'm 58 now. Hormones can make some amazing changes, even in those who start late. There are also many surgical options to help correct the things that bother you the most. My daughters accept me, and I think we have a better relationship now. My wife also decided to stay with me. Oddly, only those who have known me a long time occasionally misgender me -- old habits are hard to break. I wish you all the best in your journey.

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Re: Outing by tested flk
« Reply #10 on: December 02, 2020, 04:18:20 pm »
Just saying hi chloeleanneh, welcome and don't fret the age thing... If your female, your female.. not a lot you can do about it..
and like in life in general.. its not the start or the end.. but the journey that counts and the friends you make along the way...

I am a UK girl too and 50 years old... Only been full-time a couple of months. Your luckier than me, as my wife decided to leave.. my daughter, however, is right by my side...
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