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Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« on: December 13, 2020, 05:23:55 pm »
Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still or going very slowly in your transition?  Why?

Have you detransitioned, or detransitioned, then started transitioning again?  Why? 
How far and for how long did you transition before reversing direction, then perhaps reverse course to transition again?   These have got to be tough and delicate situations.   


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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #1 on: December 13, 2020, 06:58:37 pm »
Prior to my firm decision to transition, I tried occasional estrogen sampling with non-prescription herbals and cross dressing. I found the cross dressing unsatisfactory. It just did not do anything to relieve my dysphoria. The estrogen sampling was only helpful for a  short time and I knew the dangers of this risky behavior. If I was to continue with the estrogen, I needed professional prescriptions and monitoring. That is when I went to see a counselor and an Endocrinologist. The rest is history.
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2020, 09:25:31 pm »
I am holding still without transitioning.  Like most people, family considerations and career are the main reasons.  I tried to take spironolactone a few times but became pretty uncomfortable even at very low dosage so stopped.  I would like to try to get on estradiol but I may like it too much.  Still trying to find the best way to proceed.  I may ask for bicalutamide to see what this antiandrogen will do for me. 
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #3 on: December 24, 2020, 01:07:58 am »
Covid definitely suspended progress for me. With international travel all but suspended this year I could not get to where I needed to be for meds, electrolysis, and in person shopping. Hopefully, vaccine will open travel up this coming year.


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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #4 on: December 24, 2020, 04:59:05 am »
I wouldn't say I 'reversed' - and I use that term for lack of a better one - but I did pause at certain stages, mainly due to external factors such as family, social, career or medical. I took these opportunities to let my mental-self catch up with physical/social changes.

Early on - before social transition and HRT, I did attempt to not go any further with my transition, to keep my family together. It was a decision that almost cost me my life.

I think if someone who is continuing to explore their gender identity feels that moving back closer to their assigned gender may work better for them, then it's great. If it's due to external forces, less so.

Also, let's no forget our gender fluid friends, to them transition/de-transition are quite meaningless expressions :-). X

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #5 on: March 27, 2021, 06:33:12 am »
As I see my body changing over time, it is harder in my mind to desire anything besides going forward.

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.   .

I am a brown eyed brunette.

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #6 on: March 27, 2021, 07:05:54 am »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 27, 2021, 06:33:12 am
As I see my body changing over time, it is harder in my mind to desire anything besides going forward.

Chrissy
I have to say I’ve never even had a milli-second of doubt since discovering myself. I have no mental path back and no connection to my old self. My analogy would be falling into a parallel universe and seeing the portal close behind. I like my new universe much more than the old one!
As we always say, this is just my journey.


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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #7 on: March 27, 2021, 09:08:58 am »
I like the term "pausing".  Lately, I have been putting a lot of thought into my gender path in life.  There have been a lot of pauses. 

Even when there is a pause the journey always picks up again and keeps moving forward.

Speaking only for myself forward is the only path even if I walk that path slowly and methodically.
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #8 on: March 27, 2021, 09:39:46 am »
Quote from: Tess100 on March 27, 2021, 09:08:58 am
I like the term "pausing".  Lately, I have been putting a lot of thought into my gender path in life.  There have been a lot of pauses. 

Even when there is a pause the journey always picks up again and keeps moving forward.

Speaking only for myself forward is the only path even if I walk that path slowly and methodically.

Slowly, pausing as needed, makes a lot of sense.

Chrissy
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Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.   .

I am a brown eyed brunette.

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #9 on: March 27, 2021, 11:49:08 am »
I sometimes think of detransitioning because I don't pass as well as I would like to
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #10 on: March 27, 2021, 12:04:06 pm »
Quote from: Danielle M on March 27, 2021, 11:49:08 am
I sometimes think of detransitioning because I don't pass as well as I would like to
Surely that is just one factor and a much smaller one than actually being yourself? Not passing is painful but being the real you is the real prize in my view.


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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #11 on: April 02, 2021, 04:56:30 pm »
Hello!
I  haven't started a transition still. because my career and my financial situation are not good enough actually.
I'm a doctor but I still can't find a job, and I'm afraid of being discriminated against.  Or change and I don't like the results.
I

Dysphoria is still here and don't disappear. it's affected my personal relations with my last couples.
and sometimes i cry in my room cause anxiety of dysphoria. I have beloved parents and sisters, they are my strength.
I know i can carry live like a man, a have privileges, and more job opportunities.

transition or not, is a decision i should take early.
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #12 on: April 04, 2021, 06:43:56 am »
Quote from: Ely-chan on April 02, 2021, 04:56:30 pm
Hello!
I  haven't started a transition still. because my career and my financial situation are not good enough actually.
I'm a doctor but I still can't find a job, and I'm afraid of being discriminated against.  Or change and I don't like the results.
I

Dysphoria is still here and don't disappear. it's affected my personal relations with my last couples.
and sometimes i cry in my room cause anxiety of dysphoria. I have beloved parents and sisters, they are my strength.
I know i can carry live like a man, a have privileges, and more job opportunities.

transition or not, is a decision i should take early.

I hope this all works out for the best for you.

Chrissy
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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.   .

I am a brown eyed brunette.

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #13 on: April 04, 2021, 05:18:17 pm »
Constantly.....

No matter how far I have come sometimes it just seems like a bridge too far.......

The depression from this is sometimes worse than dysphoria.

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #14 on: April 04, 2021, 05:34:09 pm »
Quote from: SoCal_Holly on April 04, 2021, 05:18:17 pm
Constantly.....

No matter how far I have come sometimes it just seems like a bridge too far.......

The depression from this is sometimes worse than dysphoria.

Hopeless Holly

Holly,

Do not be hopeless.

We are here to support you.

This is not the easiest journey.

Hang in there.

Chrissy

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.   .

I am a brown eyed brunette.

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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #15 on: April 05, 2021, 06:32:29 am »
I've considered it before, mainly in a naive attempt to get back the family I lost. I actually got "lucky" in being intersexed. I thought having this physical proof would keep them from shunning me, but they still viewed me as an affront to God.

Fortunately, I remember wondering why the only way they were happy was if I was miserable before I transitioned. It was exhausting having to find ways to use the bible to prove I was real. I'm better off without them, but it doesn't hurt any less.
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #16 on: April 20, 2021, 09:27:12 pm »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 04, 2021, 06:43:56 am
I hope this all works out for the best for you.

Chrissy

thanks Chrissy, i hope that
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Re: Have you thought of detransitioning or holding still in your transition?
« Reply #17 on: April 22, 2021, 07:12:29 pm »
Sometimes I have thought about detransitioning due to my depression or some pressure but I cannot change who I am. my legal documents, my voice, my SRS. I am a woman, God wanted it that way one way or another. I have to accept the steps that I have done
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