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Offline inenidok

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Surgery coming and fast!
« on: February 20, 2021, 07:53:35 am »
Well I got to say I do appreciate all the feedback I get from here I know I am not as active as I would love to be! But I do have a very busy life! But that has all slowed down since I was in a car wreck last November. But since I am no longer able to work, and my surgery was postponed 2 times last year. I have now been scheduled for the middle of March. Yes I know it’s coming and coming fast. I am doing both top and bottom at the same time! And to be frankly honest. Scared as hell. I have never had surgery in my whole entire life. I am excited and nervous, people at my jobs I had and the students and even the instructors at my college don’t even know I am transgender. No one has ever asked, and I really can’t go to them for support either I know they will work with me, they know I am having surgery and will accommodate me! I am hoping to be back in the classroom in about 12 days after this! It’s only for a couple hours a day! But how do you prepare yourself mentally for this step! I know everyone says I am ready for this and of course we are! But what about the risk the trauma and the pain, the physical and mental challenge that lays ahead after surgery, the worry of infection or complications! I know we find the surgeon that we feel is the right one some even the best! But things happen! So how do you really prepare? Is my main question? My surgery is less the 4 weeks away yes there is a few test I got to do first! But it’s all a go right now.
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Re: Surgery coming and fast!
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2021, 09:53:00 am »
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Dear inenidok:
Thank you for sharing ....   the Month of March and your surgey appointment will be here before you know it.

As you feel comfortable doing, please keep us all updated....

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Re: Surgery coming and fast!
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2021, 10:22:26 am »
I will do my best! But now I got another problem my cousin that was going to go with me can’t and have absolutely no one that can go with! And this sucks! Ugh! Because my parents are already gone plus my siblings are all gone too and my daughter is not old enough!
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Re: Surgery coming and fast!
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2021, 10:55:26 am »
I hope someone can be there with you but if there is not, stay strong.  I am sorry to hear that your cousins cannot be there.

Keep in touch with us here and we can provide some encouragement.


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Re: Surgery coming and fast!
« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2021, 04:27:25 pm »
I think all of the doubts and concerns you wrote are really normal to have before a surgery like this. Try, and always push the negative thoughts away, and think of the bigger picture; in the end the journey will be worth because the destination is freedom.

It's impossible to really prepare for something this big, but when you feel overwhelmed just try and not think too much about it, take it step by step, and it will evolve naturally. But honestly, asaide from having fears (which is normal), this should also be super exciting for you. Remind yourself of that. Good luck, and hope you can get someone to be there with you. Sending you tons of good karma.

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Re: Surgery coming and fast!
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2021, 04:56:01 pm »
Thanks everyone, I know I am very excited about it and it’s awesome I getting breast augmentation too, before last year it had to be removed, but this year insurance is covering it! Everything has been paid the surgeon and the hotel, still waiting on the bill from the hospital, but I will what I can of it! So I feel like everything is the last minute deal and I hate waiting for the last minute to do anything! Makes me nervous like I am forgetting something! I like to have all the ducks in a row all possible scenarios worked out! Like my cousin backing out, I felt this was a possibility 2 weeks ago, so I been asking around with out any luck!
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