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Offline Squeaky99

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Hello from newly out southern chick
« on: May 06, 2021, 11:42:40 am »
Hello all, I'm Brooke.  Not sure if that's going to be my permanent name or not.  That decision is a few miles down the road.

I'm 48 years old.  I've been divorced for a couple of years but I'm in a committed relationship with a GF.  Ive been dealing with my trans feelings for most of my life but recently reached the tipping point where I know I need to embrace my trans and queer identity and start taking action to live authentically. It's exhilerating and terrifying at the same time.

I came out to my GF a couple of months ago. She didn't throw me a pride parade but didn't kick me to the curb yet.  I'll take that as a win for now.  She's a terrifically loving and generous person.  I've been taking things very slowly with her and giving her space to process. I'm a lesbian; my dream is to have a loving post-transition relationship with her but I know good and well you can't talk someone into that.

I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone on this forum and learn a thing or two as I start this journey.  I'm especially interested in hearing from anyone in Oklahoma, Arkansas and Missouri.  Not looking for hookups, just want to get to know some trans sisters close by.

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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2021, 11:46:11 am »
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Dear Brooke:
    Thank you for Introducing yourself and telling us your story.  For any transgender individual, especially for those that are early in their "journey" .... dealing with the relationships with those that are close to us can be very difficult at times.  This is something that many members here on the Forums can identify with... thank you for sharing.

    I wish to Officially Welcome YOU to Susan's Place..
 
    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you wrote about.
 
    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.

You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.   Other members will be along shortly to give you their thoughts about your questions and concerns that you mentioned in your very first posting.
   
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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #2 on: May 06, 2021, 12:23:26 pm »
Welcome, Brooke! I’m, Gray; new to both this group and the LGBTQ+ community. Always known I was queer deep down, but have recently come to terms with the fact that I’m trans.

Hopefully Oklahoma is a more open and accepting place than Arkansas. I’ve had a hard time finding local resources for trans adults. At least there are groups for younger folks, though.

Susan’s Place is great! There seem to be many more MtF than FtMs, but I’m trying to stake a little spot and just lend support when I can. It’s especially important to me to connect with others stuck in red states.

So “Howdy, neighbor!” Looking forward to getting to know you!!!


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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #3 on: May 07, 2021, 10:52:50 am »
Hi Gray!  Great to hear from you.

Yeah I'd hope Oklahoma is more accepting. My particular slice of Arkansas isn't too bad from an LGBTQ perspective but there's still a lot of bigotry here.  You're probably aware of the insanity coming out of our legislature.

It's a conflict.  I love living in this part of the country, but some of the attitudes here could stand some improvement.

MTF or FTM, I think we all have similar trials and struggles.  Maybe I should have said 'trans siblings' instead of 'trans sisters' LOL.
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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #4 on: May 07, 2021, 04:42:04 pm »
Hello all, I'm Brooke.  Not sure if that's going to be my permanent name or not.  That decision is a few miles down the road.

I'm 48 years old.  I've been divorced for a couple of years but I'm in a committed relationship with a GF.  Ive been dealing with my trans feelings for most of my life but recently reached the tipping point where I know I need to embrace my trans and queer identity and start taking action to live authentically. It's exhilerating and terrifying at the same time.

I came out to my GF a couple of months ago. She didn't throw me a pride parade but didn't kick me to the curb yet.  I'll take that as a win for now.  She's a terrifically loving and generous person.  I've been taking things very slowly with her and giving her space to process. I'm a lesbian; my dream is to have a loving post-transition relationship with her but I know good and well you can't talk someone into that.

I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone on this forum and learn a thing or two as I start this journey.  I'm especially interested in hearing from anyone in Oklahoma, Arkansas and Missouri.  Not looking for hookups, just want to get to know some trans sisters close by.


Welcome Brooke!

You have a nice name.   :)

I hope everything works out well for you.

Have a great weekend.

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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #5 on: May 07, 2021, 05:39:55 pm »
Hey Brooke.  It was nice to read a little about you.  Welcome to the forum.

I am from an SEC state.  I am a 58 years old, married, hoping to NOT transition because of the damage it would do to relationships, MTF.  I am not out of the closet, though my wife and one friend both know that I am trans.  I have two step kids.  They are finishing up college now.  Anyway, if you want to read more about me, I have a blog somewhere here. 

Full disclosure, my avatar is a filtered photo of myself, using FaceApp.  It is a lot of fun to play with.  I'd be thrilled if a surgeon could make me look as good in real life (can they?).  Being in the closet, I don't want to post an unfiltered photo of myself because I don't want to have it picked up by face recognition or something.

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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #6 on: May 08, 2021, 04:48:59 am »
Hi Brooke,
                 I'm relatively new here maybe round 6 months or so. I'm 63, married 33 years with children and grandchildren, I identify as non-gender for label sake. I have found this site to be very helpfully in helping me thru my own personal journey. Even thou my wife is by my side I find much comfort being able to meet so many wonderful people going thru the same things as myself. Good luck on your own personal journey.
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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #7 on: May 10, 2021, 11:12:33 pm »
Hi Brooke,

Welcome! I'm 51 years old and transitioned at 42. I'm still with my partner (female) of 22 years and we have 3 daughters. I just wanted you to know that you can do it, youre not alone and there are others like you.

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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #8 on: May 10, 2021, 11:19:19 pm »
Hi Brooke, Welcome to Susans. I transitioned when I was 36. Then got into a relationship and got married a few years later. I'm glad you're taking it slow with your GF. When my then husband, transitioned and came out it was a bit of an adjustment despite knowing her past and what was extremely likely going to happen. It still shook me a bit and took time to adjust. I hope you and your GF grow closer from this as my spouse and I have. Anyways, I wish you luck during your journey. Hugs Mariah
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Re: Hello from newly out southern chick
« Reply #9 on: May 12, 2021, 10:48:23 am »
Hello all!  Thank you so much for your replies!  I'm so excited to get to know all of you!  I think most of us can relate to the loneliness when we finally reach that tipping point.

I'm very interested in those of you that have preserved your marriages/partnerships.  How did you handle things? I know I can't guarantee an outcome with my GF but I want to make sure that if things end that it's not because I treated her poorly.
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