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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1020 on: June 27, 2021, 11:36:59 am »
It's really hard when organized people like you run afoul of chaos like this. I sure hope they get it together.

My sister moved to Tucson some years ago and they had a hard adjustment to the casual time schedules down there.

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1021 on: June 30, 2021, 07:41:43 pm »
It took longer than it should have, but as of 4:00pm MT today (Denver time zone), Susan and I finally have a new home.

This weekend I will be driving down once again, with a car full of things we don't want the movers to handle. The car will stay in our new garage, and I will fly back to Colorado Springs. The packers are scheduled to arrive next Wednesday, with loading on Friday. We don't have a firm delivery date yet, but Susan, Prince and I will arrive at our new home on Sunday and camp out until our goods arrive. Internet service, and a refrigerator, are supposed to arrive Monday.

In addition to a new house, Susan and I get a fresh start. Hopefully my past will remain in the past, and our future can be whatever we want to make of it.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1022 on: July 01, 2021, 11:05:36 am »
So exciting for you! We will miss you in the physical presence but I hope to still see you online from time to time as you feel comfortable.

I hope the packing and loading go well, and have a good quick trip down and back.

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1023 on: July 07, 2021, 06:11:16 am »
My trip down to Arkansas went well. I now have all the keys and garage door openers secured, and I changed the code for the garage door. Our real estate agent gave us a Roomba-style robot vacuum as a house-warming gift!

I had two electrolysis sessions this week, and I've been planning on some return trips for more -- one 3 - 4 hour session per month would probably work. I located one electrologist within an hour's drive of our new house, but so far she hasn't responded to my email.

The fun starts today. The packers won't arrive until around 2:00pm this afternoon, so Susan and I have some time to set aside the things we will want to take with us. Delivery may not occur until a week after loading. We loved this house when we first moved in and it has served us well, but now it is time to go. Only three more nights until we leave...

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1024 on: July 07, 2021, 12:11:57 pm »
Best of luck dear, may it all go smoothly (thats the face and house move!!)
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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1025 on: July 07, 2021, 12:19:16 pm »
You get to camp in your own, old, house for 3 nights. Then drive down and camp in your new house for ?? nights. It's all an adventure. Enjoy the process. The end goal (being all moved in) will come soon enough, all in its own time.

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1026 on: July 08, 2021, 06:03:38 am »
Thanks Davina & Randi!!!

The packers arrived around 12:30 yesterday and made some headway. Today they are bringing reinforcements to make sure it gets finished. Susan and I plan to load up our car this morning. I'll probably box up my computer this evening, and I may let them move it too. We have several houseplants Susan wants to take, so it's going to be a tight fit. I already backed up our photos and important files to an external hard drive (which I took to our new house). The next few days are going to be quite hectic, but soon we will be home.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1027 on: July 08, 2021, 07:12:42 am »

Jessica Rose best wishes on the new home!  I hope it all goes smoothly as well.
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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1028 on: July 26, 2021, 05:42:32 pm »
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Dear Jessica...

YOUR SPECIAL DAY is tomorrow... on Tuesday July 27th.

Wishing YOU ...
....a very :icon_flower: :icon_flower: Happy Birthday :icon_flower: :icon_flower:
I hope that your special day includes time with family and friends...
... with  Candles and CAKE.


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HUGS and best wishes on your special day and birthday.
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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1029 on: July 27, 2021, 02:02:54 am »
Happy birthday, have you got settled in yet?
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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1030 on: July 27, 2021, 03:17:16 pm »
These last few weeks have been challenging...

The movers completed their task late Friday night (9 July). As soon as the movers left, Susan and I began cleaning the house and repairing / repainting a few areas that were damaged during the frenzy. We didn't sleep that night. Around 8:30am Saturday we had a junk hauler visit and haul away old boxes and items the movers wouldn't pack. Later that morning a friend came by and picked up any food we had in our refrigerator. After making sure the house was in good condition and that we weren't leaving anything behind, around 1:00pm we waved goodbye to our old house and hit the road.

After spending the night in Elk City OK, we arrived at our new home around 3:00pm Sunday and set up camp. On Monday (12 July) our internet service was installed, in the afternoon we discovered that our new refrigerator would not arrive until the 27th... of August! I made a trip to our local Home Depot and loaded a 10cu ft refrigerator into our CR-V and took it home. Later that day we received some bad news, one of my aunts has passed away. On Tuesday I went back to work from the only quiet place I could set up my laptop, a closet! Later that week we got a delivery date from our movers -- 21 July.

The movers arrived around 11:00am on July 21st and began unloading. That was a really rough day, and not just because of all the damage they did to the walls in our new house. We also had a few items totally destroyed, damaged, or missing. We still have a lot of boxes to go through, and we're hopeful the missing items will appear.

So far all is well. The few neighbors we have met seem nice, and we have not had any issues with the locals. We are finally sleeping in our own bed again, and loving the huge shower in the master bath! I will be attending my aunt's funeral in San Antonio next week, and the following week I will head back to Colorado Springs to clean out my old desk. I have already set up two appointments with my electrologist for that week, since I have not had time to find one near our new home. We still have a lot of work to do, but we are slowly settling in.

...and yes, today is my birthday. Thanks Danielle and Davina for the warm wishes!

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1031 on: July 27, 2021, 11:11:06 pm »
Happy Birthday Jess!

Nice you are in your own comfy bed. So much chaos and discomfort can be ameliorated by a good night's sleep.

Funny you'll be visiting our electrologist week after next. She's been giving me some of your old appointment slots so I can do extra. That week you might be getting some of my slots because I'll be away!

I hope your moving in continues to go well.

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1032 on: August 16, 2021, 09:22:50 am »
On August 2nd I drove to San Antonio for my aunt's funeral, she was my mom's older sister. I talked to a few relatives, and some distant relatives remembered me from my mom's funeral early last year. My dad traveled to the funeral with my brother, but dad didn't want to hang around for the reception and he asked me to drive him home (a 7hr drive). I had been hoping to attend the reception after the funeral, but after talking to relatives for about 20 minutes, we were on the road to my dad's house. We got in around 8:30pm and I spent the night there. The next morning I hit the road early and got home around 10:00am.

The following weekend I was on the road again, this time to Colorado Springs so I could clean out my old desk. I left home on August 7th and spent the night in Elk City, OK. I arrived in Colorado Springs the next day and met some friends for a late lunch. My friends were parents and coaches involved with a softball team I had taken photos of for the last seven seasons. We stayed in the restaurant nearly three hours talking primarily about softball! I really do miss taking photos at their games...

I was the first person in the office Monday. My desk was exactly as I had left it, including a note I had written on my whiteboard before we were all sent home -- 'I shall return'. I saw five other people that day, but the numbers dwindled as the days passed. On Friday I only saw one other person on my floor. There are normally hundreds of people in the building. While in town I visited Kris (my electrologist) three times. I hadn't seen her in five weeks! After about eight hours of electrolysis and conversation through the week we were all caught up. Finding a good electrologist can be difficult, but I can't visit Kris every week anymore. She volunteered to open her shop on a Saturday for me, so I have planned a quick trip back in late September.

One of the softball moms invited me and a few other friends to dinner Wednesday evening, she even made some fresh chocolate chip cookies! It's always nice spending time with good friends.

Thursday afternoon I visited one of our old neighbors. She had been taking care of some plants for us, along with a few boxes of things the movers wouldn't take. After loading everything up, we talked for an hour or so and shared a fresh peach pie she had baked. We had been neighbors for 15 years, and that was by far the longest conversation we ever had.

On Friday I packed up all the personal items in my desk and started the drive home. It was a bit emotional for me, leaving my office for possibly the last time. After driving through some torrential rain, I spent the night in Elk City once again. I made it home Saturday afternoon, just in time to mow the yard!

Susan and I are still going through boxes and trying to get our home set up. Right now we are just trying to empty all the boxes and find a furniture configuration that works, eventually we will find the time to rearrange things more appropriately. The day I left for Colorado Springs our wedding photos arrived. Susan and I plan to look through them later this week, and maybe even post a few here...

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1033 on: August 30, 2021, 11:47:25 am »
As promised, a few photos from our wedding...

The first photo is our youngest daughter escorting me down the aisle. I think she looks simply amazing in that dress! My necklace and earrings, along with Susan's brooch, were on loan from my dad. He had them custom made for my mom during a visit to Thailand while stationed in Viet Nam during the mid-1960's. Sadly, we lost my mom to cancer early last year. Wearing the jewelry was our way of honoring her memory. The knife we used to cut the cake was from our first wedding, 37 years ago. Our wedding was held on what would have been my parent's 66th wedding anniversary.

Our wedding was also somewhat historic. The venue started hosting weddings in 2014, and over 800 weddings have been celebrated there. According to our wedding coordinator, this was the first wedding of it's type they had ever hosted.

I realize how lucky I am. Hopefully, one day stories like ours will become more common.

Love always -- Jessica Rose



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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1034 on: August 30, 2021, 01:51:19 pm »
Jessica --

WOW!  You look absolutely stunning!  I'm sure it was really special to have your daughter walk you down the aisle.

I probably should know this (and I would if I weren't too lazy to read previous posts), but was this a renewal of vows with your wife of many years?  Is this a new relationship that came into being after you transitioned?

Either way, congratulations!!

~Sara

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« Reply #1035 on: August 30, 2021, 02:16:06 pm »
Thanks Sara! In addition to our youngest daughter walking me down the aisle, our oldest daughter walked my wife down the aisle. Both of our daughters even signed as witnesses on our new wedding license. The wedding was over all too quickly, I wish with the day could have gone on forever...

Susan and I were first married way back in 1984, as husband and wife. I went full-time in Feb 2018, and Susan took my transition quite hard. There were many days when I was certain she would leave. Eventually she realized that I had become a better version of the person she had married all those years ago. The state we lived in allows couples who are currently married to legally re-marry each other, including a new marriage license. We had many reasons to get remarried. One was simply the legal aspect of proving our marriage, I didn't want to be forced to 'out' myself ever again. Since we didn't have to dissolve our first marriage to get remarried, I joke with Susan that she is now technically a polygamist!

Love always -- Jessica Rose

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« Reply #1036 on: August 30, 2021, 03:45:37 pm »
Jessica --

That's wonderful!  I can only hope that my wife and I make it through this the way you and Susan have.  It's a daily struggle for her.  I love her more than anything, and I don't ever want to do anything to cause her pain.  You give me hope!

~Sara

PS -- Don't you wish you could make your hair look like that EVERY day?  ;D

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« Reply #1037 on: August 31, 2021, 08:01:34 pm »
Jessica --

That's wonderful!  I can only hope that my wife and I make it through this the way you and Susan have.  It's a daily struggle for her.  I love her more than anything, and I don't ever want to do anything to cause her pain.  You give me hope!

~Sara

PS -- Don't you wish you could make your hair look like that EVERY day?  ;D

That's why I continue to post occasionally, to give others hope.

I never wanted to cause my family any pain, but once I realized the source of my anger I knew transition was my only hope. It took six weeks to build up the courage to tell Susan, and her initial reaction broke my heart. I hoped she would stay with me and learn to love the person I would become, but if she decided to leave I was prepared to give her anything she wanted. The only thing that was non-negotiable was my transition. I have asked Susan why she stayed after everything I put her through, and she always answers 'because I love you.'

And yes, I wish my hair could look like that every day!

Moving has unearthed many items we hadn't seen in quite a while, including some old photo albums. I have never posted any photos from my younger days, until now. A person can change quite a bit in nearly 40 years. Pre-transition photos can be painful for me to look at, but maybe this will also give someone hope.

Love always -- Jessica Rose


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Re: Jessica's Rose Garden
« Reply #1038 on: September 01, 2021, 06:12:02 am »
Jessica Rose, the wedding photo of you and Susan dancing is so beautiful. 
Thank you for posting your continuing story

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« Reply #1039 on: September 17, 2021, 08:08:17 pm »
Thanks @Maddie !!!

I picked up a few things at the grocery store today and decided to get a bouquet of flowers for Susan. As I was checking out the selection, an old man walked up to me and said:

"All them flowers ain't half as pretty as what you are."

Some days I question my appearance -- not just if I am pretty, but I wonder if people see me as a woman. I thanked him, but I doubt he realizes how much he brightened my day.

Friends. All my life I thought I had friends. My dad was in the military. I was in the military. We moved quite often. I have called eight different states 'home'. Every time we moved I made a new set of friends, while my old friends faded into distant memories. I finally realized that those people, as nice as they were, weren't actually friends. It wasn't their fault, it was mine.

I'm planning another Colorado Springs trip to visit my electrologist, Kris. She normally works Monday - Thursday. She offered to open on Saturday, her day off, and spend the entire day working on just me. I also contacted my stylist, Amy. She works Monday - Thursday, plus Saturday. I was hoping for an appointment early Saturday morning, before my appointment with Kris. Amy suggested I come in Friday afternoon, her day off, and she would spend as much time with me as needed. I realize I am their client, but how many people would give up their personal time to care for a client? Kris and Amy aren't doing this just because I'm a client, they're doing this to help a friend. Friends care about the health and well-being of each other, friends share in each others joy and pain. Friends keep their friends in their thoughts.

I don't think it was a coincidence that I started making friends when I began my journey. First there was my original electrologist, CJ. Next was Amy, my stylist. Slowly but surely, others followed. Now I have friends who will volunteer their time off to help me, and friends who will travel thousands of miles just to spend a few hours to celebrate a wedding. After all these years I finally understand what it means to have, and to be, a true friend.

Love always -- Jessica Rose