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MyStarz:
I seem to be a little stuck. I could say I don’t know what I am going to do, but I think I do know. It’s just getting myself to start it back up. A little wiser this time.

In August of 2018 I started HRT. And at about 2 years I just quit. I don’t know why. But I can tell you what happened. I had ankle replacement surgery and it went rather well. I went from not being able to walk to not having any pain in my ankle at all. But after surgery it was like a light switch. I wanted nothing to do with transitioning, hormones, women’s clothing and everything InBetween.

My thinking at the time is because of complications with the pain blocker, I woke up after surgery in the most pain I have ever been in my life that I can remember. And I thought the amount of pain I was in changed me. I don’t know why is coming back, but it is and it seems like I don’t want to transition anymore. But I want the HRT back.

Body wise last time nothing really changed. I think that is because I gained weight. I did get some breast growth but I thought that was mostly fat. Apparently it’s not. Now that I am about 50 lbs lighter, my breast are not going down they are defining. They used to look like man boobs next to all the fat. But now it’s a big wow to me. Now in a t-shirt I have the perky things saying hi to the world. Does not really bother me. And as a matter of fact I am worried about losing size as I head toward another 50 lb loss. I love my breasts and that part for some reason my wife accepts.

Last time no amount of HRT would cure my erections 100%. I was on full dose. Blockers. E and P. Honestly anytime I wanted it would still work. And I think I hurt it by tucking.

Last time I was not 100% on board to completely transition and this time I am way far away from wanting to. I know it can change down the road. I mean I was still weighing the option of complete transition last time.

So the plan. Get back in touch with the doctor and tell my wife I was wrong. It did not stay away like I thought it was going to. Hopefully all I will need is a blood test and an appointment. I have to get this going again. The stress is killing me.

So right now the only plan I have is to restart and buy some sport bras. Present male and dress at home occasionally.

Ya I’m stuck. Stressing myself to death. Re reading all this I sound a little nuts to me. I know my wife can see my breasts and a couple of days ago I said I was a freak and she told me I am not. Just so stressful. Feel like a fool for stopping. Even more for telling my wife it’s never coming back. I don’t know what I was I thinking. I got this. It will be fine.

Thanks for listening to my ramble. Just had to get it out. I am back here for a second round of support.

Starz

Maid Marion:
It may help to find someone who you can talk to in person.

Which reminds me that I've sometimes had conversations in which guys would discuss very personal issues about life and family.  And I was able to discuss all sorts of stuff with my wife.  Interestingly enough, while she saw a therapist, she didn't think I needed one.

Marion

Meghan:
Just like Marion's said you need another person to talk with and help with your decision what to do forward

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Northern Star Girl:

--- Quote from: MyStarz on June 04, 2021, 09:07:50 pm ---I seem to be a little stuck. I could say I don’t know what I am going to do, but I think I do know. It’s just getting myself to start it back up. A little wiser this time.

In August of 2018 I started HRT. And at about 2 years I just quit. I don’t know why. But I can tell you what happened. I had ankle replacement surgery and it went rather well. I went from not being able to walk to not having any pain in my ankle at all. But after surgery it was like a light switch. I wanted nothing to do with transitioning, hormones, women’s clothing and everything InBetween.

My thinking at the time is because of complications with the pain blocker, I woke up after surgery in the most pain I have ever been in my life that I can remember. And I thought the amount of pain I was in changed me. I don’t know why is coming back, but it is and it seems like I don’t want to transition anymore. But I want the HRT back.

Body wise last time nothing really changed. I think that is because I gained weight. I did get some breast growth but I thought that was mostly fat. Apparently it’s not. Now that I am about 50 lbs lighter, my breast are not going down they are defining. They used to look like man boobs next to all the fat. But now it’s a big wow to me. Now in a t-shirt I have the perky things saying hi to the world. Does not really bother me. And as a matter of fact I am worried about losing size as I head toward another 50 lb loss. I love my breasts and that part for some reason my wife accepts.

Last time no amount of HRT would cure my erections 100%. I was on full dose. Blockers. E and P. Honestly anytime I wanted it would still work. And I think I hurt it by tucking.

Last time I was not 100% on board to completely transition and this time I am way far away from wanting to. I know it can change down the road. I mean I was still weighing the option of complete transition last time.

So the plan. Get back in touch with the doctor and tell my wife I was wrong. It did not stay away like I thought it was going to. Hopefully all I will need is a blood test and an appointment. I have to get this going again. The stress is killing me.

So right now the only plan I have is to restart and buy some sport bras. Present male and dress at home occasionally.

Ya I’m stuck. Stressing myself to death. Re reading all this I sound a little nuts to me. I know my wife can see my breasts and a couple of days ago I said I was a freak and she told me I am not. Just so stressful. Feel like a fool for stopping. Even more for telling my wife it’s never coming back. I don’t know what I was I thinking. I got this. It will be fine.

Thanks for listening to my ramble. Just had to get it out. I am back here for a second round of support.

Starz

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@MyStarz
Dear Starz
    Please know that I am not trying to hijack your post but first I wish to Officially Welcome YOU to Susan's Place.
    I am happy to see that you have signed up as a member of Susan's Place and have submitted your first several postings. 

    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you are.
 
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Northern Star Girl:
@MyStarz
Dear Starz :

OH, and another thing....
If you feel so inclined please feel free to stop by the Introductions Forum to tell more members about yourself!
 
With more exposure to more members here you will be able to get more responses to your questions and concerns.

Wishing your well as you continue to be involved in the forums.

NOTE: Now, after all of this Greeting and Welcoming stuff, I will give you and other readers the thread back so that the conversation can continue

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

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