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miss understood
« on: July 12, 2021, 03:24:01 pm »
Hi Everyone!
This is my first post.  I was at a party last weekend and there was this guy that was on his soapbox ranting and raving about gays and trans people and how they are poisoning and corrupting our nations children.  My significant other was there and her and I didn't say anything as we were guests but she knew that it affected me as I stood up and walked away from the discussion.  She later told me that she wanted to throttle this guy for the way he was talking.  I told her that it wasn't worth the energy as he was just ignorant.  My significant other and my ex know that I cross dress but nobody else and I didn't think it would be appropriate to come out in that setting, let alone to some guy that we just met.  I cant stop thinking about it and it really upset us.  How do all of you handle the negativity of our clueless society?
Miss Mash

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #1 on: July 12, 2021, 03:36:08 pm »
Hi Everyone!
This is my first post.  I was at a party last weekend and there was this guy that was on his soapbox ranting and raving about gays and trans people and how they are poisoning and corrupting our nations children.  My significant other was there and her and I didn't say anything as we were guests but she knew that it affected me as I stood up and walked away from the discussion.  She later told me that she wanted to throttle this guy for the way he was talking.  I told her that it wasn't worth the energy as he was just ignorant.  My significant other and my ex know that I cross dress but nobody else and I didn't think it would be appropriate to come out in that setting, let alone to some guy that we just met.  I cant stop thinking about it and it really upset us.  How do all of you handle the negativity of our clueless society?
Miss Mash

Honestly, sweetie, I just chalk it up to "the smallest dogs bark the loudest".

The thing I've found with people who actively evangelise against people is that they're super in the closet themselves. What they're actually hating is that some people have the courage to do the things they daren't do themselves. And they project this onto people who actually do have the guts to get out there and be themselves.

Most of society don't care. It doesn't affect them. It's the extremes who make it their thing... it's more about them than it is about you, hon. As the old saying goes: "Criticism tells us more about the critic than the criticised." And with trans issues, this couldn't be more true.

How do I deal with it? I feel sorry for them. That they either are so conflicted, or have so little going on within their own lives that they have to make a point to harass other people who are doing nothing to them.

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #2 on: July 12, 2021, 03:57:33 pm »
Hi Everyone!
This is my first post.  I was at a party last weekend and there was this guy that was on his soapbox ranting and raving about gays and trans people and how they are poisoning and corrupting our nations children.  My significant other was there and her and I didn't say anything as we were guests but she knew that it affected me as I stood up and walked away from the discussion.  She later told me that she wanted to throttle this guy for the way he was talking.  I told her that it wasn't worth the energy as he was just ignorant.  My significant other and my ex know that I cross dress but nobody else and I didn't think it would be appropriate to come out in that setting, let alone to some guy that we just met.  I cant stop thinking about it and it really upset us.  How do all of you handle the negativity of our clueless society?
Miss Mash

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Dear Miss Mash
    First thing!!! ... I wish to Officially Welcome YOU to Susan's Place.
    I am happy to see that you have signed up as a member of Susan's Place and have submitted your first posting. 

    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you wrote about.
 
    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.

You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.   Other members will be along shortly to give you their thoughts about your questions and concerns that you mentioned in your very first posting.
   
    There are informational and important LINKS that I have included below.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask....

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
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Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that all new members should be familiar with:
 
Things that you should read
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***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
The Ramblings of a Northern*Star Girl
A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #3 on: July 12, 2021, 03:59:10 pm »
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Dear Miss Mash
One more thing......
If you feel so inclined please feel free to stop by the Introductions Forum to briefly tell more members about yourself and to let them know of your arrival to Susan's Place.!
 
With more exposure to more members here you will be able to get more responses to your questions and concerns.
Wishing your well as you continue to be involved in the forums.

****NOTE: Now, after all of this Greeting and Welcoming stuff, I will give you and other readers the thread back so that the conversation can continue on.
 
Again, I am glad to see that you have joined Susan's Place.  I will be eagerly looking for your future postings around the Forums.

If you have any questions you can contact ME via email    northernstargirl@susans.org
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***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
The Ramblings of a Northern*Star Girl
A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 41

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #4 on: July 13, 2021, 02:50:49 pm »
Thanks for the words of encouragement Sephirah!  Sorry, I just needed to vent to someone that understands.  Thank you Danielle for the warm welcome and yes I will set up an introduction post as I surely value all of your opinions.  BTW Danielle it's Miss Mash not mish mash (although that's how I feel sometimes)! :)  have a great day everyone!!!!

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2021, 03:55:26 pm »
That's what we're here for, sweetie.

*massive hugs* Never apologise, okay? Whatever is eating you up, get it out. You can guarantee there will be people here who've gone through the same things you're going through. You're among friends here. :)

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Re: miss understood
« Reply #6 on: July 13, 2021, 05:08:00 pm »
Thanks for the words of encouragement Sephirah!  Sorry, I just needed to vent to someone that understands.  Thank you Danielle for the warm welcome and yes I will set up an introduction post as I surely value all of your opinions.  BTW Danielle it's Miss Mash not mish mash (although that's how I feel sometimes)! :)  have a great day everyone!!!!

@missmash
Dear Miss Mash:
Thanks for bringing to my attention my error.... all corrected now.
There are times that my fingers type faster than my brain thinks!!!!

Again, Welcome !!!!
Danielle
***SEE MY LINKS BELOW
The Ramblings of a Northern*Star Girl
A New Chapter: ALASKAN DANIELLE's Chronicles
I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles
Things change re: ALASKAN DANIELLE
Positive Mindset... put away negativity

Started HRT:   March 2015
Went Full-Time    December 2016
Quit my male-mode job and relocated to a very small town in Alaska in January 2017
I'm a blonde, blue eyed woman, Age 41

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