Topic: Passing and gender dysphoria

[Nile]

Hi y'all,

I am 31 years old, living in The Netherlands and started transitioning a year ago (mtf).

Currently I'm having a hard time of finding a GP that would describe me hormones so everything is still pre-HRT which means I get a lot of gender dysphoria as of late and I'm just aching to start with hormones. Gender clinics waiting time here are more than 2 years and that is just crazy. Currently trying to find a solution in the meantime. Also not having a queer community or friend group (including transgender individuals) is making me feel quite lonely as of late.

Via the below link you can find some pictures of me. Do you think I look feminine/female or is it masculine? Do you still think that the hormones will have a significant effect on my face? How do you all deal with dypshoria?

Photos:

https://imgur.com/a/GnPoddt

[Peeptoe]

Hi Nile,
You look great, very feminine. Holland and Germany are in very similar situation when it comes to transitioning.  I've been looking for a therapist for over 6 months and anyone who is focusing on dysphoria is booked up to two years. Without psychiatric/therapist approval, there is no chance of getting hrt let alone surgeries. I started doing whatever is possible - hair removal and slowly doing social transition. I also know no other trans people, even though Hamburg must be full of them. There are done self help groups that you can find on Facebook and just getting out to meet people alike might do you good.

I wish you all the best in your journey.

[Northern Star Girl]

@Nile   
Dear Nile:
    In regard to your picture that you posted on Imgur, I think that you look absolutely terrific and very feminine with your hair and the appearance of your face....  I can not imagine that you would have many problems with passing visually... of course there is more to passing than just a picture.  Be sure to look at and read many of our members postings and topics around the Forums... good information that may be of interest to you.

    Gender Dysphoria and Passing are what many transitioners experience so you are not alone with how you feel about yourself.   As you read the many topics and postings here on the Forums you will find the stories of other members here that have dealt with these issues.

    Thank you for writing your first posting telling everyone here some things about yourself.

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done regarding your transition journey that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.
 
    Please allow me to warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    You can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
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[Northern Star Girl]

@Nile
Dear Nile:

OH, another thing....  Please feel free to stop by the Introductions Forum to very briefly tell more members a little about yourself and to let them know of your arrival on the Forums!
 
With more exposure to more members here you will be able to get more responses to your questions and concerns.

Wishing your well as you continue to be involved in the forums.

NOTE: Now, after all of this Greeting and Welcoming stuff, I will give you and others the thread back so that the conversation can continue.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

[amandam]

Hi Nile,

You look like an actual CIS female to me! <hugs>

[Pammie]

Hi Nile,

You look like an actual female to me! <hugs>

I think you mean cis female. “Actual “ is not nice, implying we aren’t actual


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[Pammie]

I think you look fabulous and most of us would love to look that feminine!


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[Anita B. Ting]

Nile -

I agree with all of the others. You are very beautiful indeed! I think most of us in the "still deciding whether or not to transition club" would start tomorrow if we knew we would look like you down the road. Many blessings and much happiness to you!

Anita

[Maid Marion]

Hi Nile,

Welcome!  You look good!

Marion

[Nile]

Thank you so much for the sweet responses. It gave me a bit of the reassurance I wasn't able to give myself lately <3

I think of course, not being born as CIS female means a lot of us are reaching for the stars if we're not willing to accept our trans/non binary identity. I'm still very much in the process of this and hopefully seeing my body change due to hormones will give me a little bit more peace of mind. Femininity and being female is of course not one-dimensional and can be expressed in so many different ways that has nothing to do with being born as CIS-female. I try to keep that in mind when I'm not being my own best friend at certain moments.

Hopefully the Netherlands will make some steps in the coming years because they are pretty <not allowed> when it comes to waiting times and GP's that are willing to go the extra mile for you.

[ChrissyRyan]

Thank you so much for the sweet responses. It gave me a bit of the reassurance I wasn't able to give myself lately <3

I think of course, not being born as CIS female means a lot of us are reaching for the stars if we're not willing to accept our trans/non binary identity. I'm still very much in the process of this and hopefully seeing my body change due to hormones will give me a little bit more peace of mind. Femininity and being female is of course not one-dimensional and can be expressed in so many different ways that has nothing to do with being born as CIS-female. I try to keep that in mind when I'm not being my own best friend at certain moments.

Hopefully the Netherlands will make some steps in the coming years because they are pretty <not allowed> when it comes to waiting times and GP's that are willing to go the extra mile for you.

@Nile



Nile,

I hope that things have been going your way this past year.  Let us know how it has been going for you.

Chrissy