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What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« on: November 23, 2021, 08:26:50 am »
What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing as you transition or have finished transitioning, as you do not need them much or at all?


Did you give most or all away?

Do you keep some for some occasional use when you are with someone you have know but have not disclosed to him or her your true gender?  Maybe for work if you did not open up to them?

Do you keep only the androgynous items?

I suppose if one is not of one (1) gender then you may want both wardrobes to some extent.
 

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2021, 08:40:09 am »
We always donate if there is any value left in the item(s). My clothes slowly got replaced with what I like to wear.  I was at a crossroads of 'some in reserve' to keep up appearances when my wife gathered them up, got rid of them, and told me "It's time to commit to who you are"

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2021, 08:45:29 am »
I kept a few pairs of tennis shoes, socks, sweatshirts, and one pair of jeans. Everything else went to the Colorado Springs Rescue Mission, it took several trips. Removing 'his' clothes from our home felt quite liberating. I came out and went full time on 16 Feb 2018, since then I only wear women's clothes -- my clothes.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2021, 08:48:59 am »
I wore some of them for years and have no aversion to them. Men's clothing is often better made, which many women realize. Here's an example of that:

I was needing a new winter coat and was shopping at a Fat Face store. I'd donned and doffed several women's coats, but didn't love any of them.

Then I saw this waxy coat that looked like bullets would bounce of it and the saleswoman said, "That's a men's coat, but we sell as many to women as to men."

That's the coat I bought, to go with my men's hat and my other men's coat.

What I can't wear is men's pants. Their waist to hip ratio is wrong.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2021, 12:23:25 pm »
Goodwill for the most part.

There are several androgynous pieces of clothing (especially some high-quality loose-fitting t-shirts and fleece jackets and sweatpants) that I kept and still wear around the house or around the neighborhood.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #5 on: November 23, 2021, 07:19:28 pm »
I donated much of my previous clothing when it no longer fitted me because of my massive weight loss. The same goes when my hormones really developed my body.

If it doesn't fit, then donate it. :o ::)




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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #6 on: November 24, 2021, 07:25:33 pm »
It was all donated to local charities.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #7 on: November 25, 2021, 12:25:57 am »
Mine are in the guest room closet.
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #8 on: November 25, 2021, 03:10:32 am »
It has been a very very long time ago, but I do remember, I donated every single piece to public social aid.
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #9 on: November 25, 2021, 04:25:37 am »
It all went to charity or the bin, kept a pair of trainers that I just wore out and a very thick coat and my work stuff for when I go to my unit.
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #10 on: November 25, 2021, 08:22:23 am »
If the clothes were of some quality I donated them, otherwise I threw them away.  Hmmm...... I did keep my ski jacket as it is quite androgynous and cost about $400.  Though I have not gone skiing since my transition and four years later now I'm like, well maybe I'd like something different, so it's probably going to be donated soon as well. 

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #11 on: November 25, 2021, 05:09:32 pm »
The only things I think I have kept are my Navy dress blues, and a few other uniform items.  The rest I've either donated, or my kids use them as 'dirty work' clothes.
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #12 on: November 25, 2021, 06:32:00 pm »
What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing as you transition or have finished transitioning, as you do not need them much or at all?


Did you give most or all away?

Do you keep some for some occasional use when you are with someone you have know but have not disclosed to him or her your true gender?  Maybe for work if you did not open up to them?

Do you keep only the androgynous items?

I suppose if one is not of one (1) gender then you may want both wardrobes to some extent.
 

Chrissy

I've only recently had to start thinking about this myself; my "from-the-women's-department" clothing is catching up in quantity with my "from-the-men's-department" clothing lol. 😅

I think I'll just keep the former in my main bedroom, and just start keeping the latter in the dresser in my walk-in closet. 🤷‍♀️
 
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #13 on: November 26, 2021, 09:06:40 pm »
Way back when I got rid of my "guy clothes", I donated anything that was any good, and trashed the rest. I have a couple t-shirts from back then, from rock concerts, but then they are gender neutral anyways.
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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #14 on: November 27, 2021, 10:23:01 pm »
Undies binned. Although I kept them for years, wearing on occasion when I didn’t want to tuck or feel my bits pressed up as tightly against me as when I wore panties. Post-op now, they’re gone as there’s no need for them.

Old work clothes donated. T-shirts kept, and still worn. So sometimes externally I end up still dressing the same as when I was trying to pass myself off as a guy.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #15 on: November 27, 2021, 10:31:54 pm »
I don't know what I'm doing with them yet. They're in the closet, on the floor...

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #16 on: January 14, 2022, 02:13:09 pm »
Lots I donated to charity, some I sold on eBay as it was quite trendy and mostly branded (mid to luxury) so I managed to recoup some money.

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #17 on: January 14, 2022, 09:08:39 pm »
Lots I donated to charity, some I sold on eBay as it was quite trendy and mostly branded (mid to luxury) so I managed to recoup some money.

That seems very sensible!

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Re: What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #18 on: January 28, 2022, 05:25:33 pm »
I list my items on Poshmark and eBay. That way I get some extra money, so I can buy some cute clothes and shoes. Customers get great used items at a great price. I usually will search for my item on Poshmark to see if someone else has one listed and list it at a lower price. And on eBay you can search for sold items to see what a good price would be. Both sites let you accept offers. So if someone does not like your price. They can make you an offer of what they want to pay. Taking offers makes things sell faster. And then you know the customer feels they got a great price.


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What have you done with your “birth gender” clothing?
« Reply #19 on: January 29, 2022, 03:57:42 pm »
I list my items on Poshmark and eBay. That way I get some extra money, so I can buy some cute clothes and shoes. Customers get great used items at a great price. I usually will search for my item on Poshmark to see if someone else has one listed and list it at a lower price. And on eBay you can search for sold items to see what a good price would be. Both sites let you accept offers. So if someone does not like your price. They can make you an offer of what they want to pay. Taking offers makes things sell faster. And then you know the customer feels they got a great price.


That is a good idea @Nora Kay

Prices do vary widely.  Sometimes I put an item on my Watchlist and the seller send me an unsolicited offer.


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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  
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