Topic: Not safe to transition now

[Dargoon]

I had a recent conversation with my father about the possibility of me transitioning and he shared his concerns over what might happen to me if I do so. I also looked for more information about it and noticed that the discrimination in my country is still high. I will probably need to find other safer ways to cope with this desire to live as a man until I make a decision or find a safer place for the transitioning process.

The reason I put this in the Non-Transitioning and Detransitioning part of the forums is because I don't truly know if I will ever manage to live as a man, but I want to find ways to deal with the gender dysphoria. It honestly hurts me a lot to pretend to be something I am not.

I was assigned female at birth and have been identifying at least partially as a man for some years.

[Northern Star Girl]

@Dargoon
Dear Dargoon:
I feel badly for your situation, but for sure you have to stay safe and in your situation where you live...
... you and your father have to make the hard decisions regarding your transition plans.

Please continue to do some reading of other members postings and topics here on the Forums.   There are undoubtedly other members here on the Forums that are in similar situations.

I see that you registered and joined Susan's Place and the Forums back almost 8 years ago in 2014 and that you have just started posting again....
Please allow me to give you my warm Re-Welcome here.
I am so very glad to see that you have now posted and shared your thoughts and comments once again.

I will be looking forward to reading more of your posting as you feel free to share.
If you have any questions about the Forums you can feel very free to message me.

Warm Regards,
Danielle    northernstargirl@susans.org
Global Moderator

[JamieH]

what country?  Some are more hostile than others, but I don't think any are even close to where they need to be.

Some things you can do to somewhat ease dysphoria in your own safe space might include dressing more masculine, binding, letting some body hair (pits legs etc) grow out a bit....use men's scented deodorand/cologne etc.  Not gonna totally alleviate dysphoria but may help take the edge off.

[Northern Star Girl]

@JamieH
Dear Jamie:
Unless the member Dargoon wishes to freely share his exact location, it is probably best if we don't ask. 
There could be resultant dangers for him, so he has to be very careful.

Thank you for posting some of your suggestions regarding how he may deal with some of his dysphoria.

Thank you for sharing on his topic/thread.
Danielle

what country?  Some are more hostile than others, but I don't think any are even close to where they need to be.

Some things you can do to somewhat ease dysphoria in your own safe space might include dressing more masculine, binding, letting some body hair (pits legs etc) grow out a bit....use men's scented deodorand/cologne etc.  Not gonna totally alleviate dysphoria but may help take the edge off.

[Dargoon]

what country?  Some are more hostile than others, but I don't think any are even close to where they need to be.

Some things you can do to somewhat ease dysphoria in your own safe space might include dressing more masculine, binding, letting some body hair (pits legs etc) grow out a bit....use men's scented deodorand/cologne etc.  Not gonna totally alleviate dysphoria but may help take the edge off.

While disclosing the country I live in probably wouldn't cause me any issues, I can say for certain that LGBT people in general are constant targets of violence, but on the bright side our existence is not illegal and transphobia is a crime. I have been doing those more masculine things. It definitely helps a lot. The thing that bothers me mostly right now is how visibly feminine my body looks and I can't think of many ways to deal with it aside from transitioning. I plan on getting a binder once we move to another house where I will get more privacy. The other thing bothering me the most is just how not a single person I know calls me by my preferred name and pronouns. I just wanted to meet some people who would acknowledge my male side and address me as such even if I didn't look masculine one bit.