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Sincerity and stealth

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ronniekylie90:
So, I was wondering for those who maybe are trying to live their lives, without letting the whole trans label define them.

I was having my eyebrows shaped yesterday, and the girl who was doing them, was super talkative so we started to discuss life, and relationships and I said that I had to start again in London, as my marriage with my ex husband broke down during the pandemic.
Then she asked if we had kids together from my ex. obviously I just said no and didn't go into details.
I'd say as I blend in quite nicely, it just didn't clock that I am trans (id say).

Whenever I get burny questions like that (or ive had a few ask if I was on the pill etc or if I had a miscarriage), I always feel very vulnerable, or icky.

I decided to only disclose me being trans to my closest friends and family and the lovers I tend to get involved with, obviously. the rest, I just don't. (unless I get very comfortable and then I would)...so it feels a bit like I'm half telling the truth. as non-disclosing can sometimes feel like I'm concealing, maybe?

does anyone else feel like that? or is It just me? is this feeling eventually going to disappear at some point?

I know these people have no impact in my life whatsoever, but still in the back of my head, I do have those nagging "imposter syndrome" thoughts sometimes.

ChrissyRyan:

--- Quote from: ronniekylie90 on June 16, 2022, 02:51:28 pm ---So, I was wondering for those who maybe are trying to live their lives, without letting the whole trans label define them.

I was having my eyebrows shaped yesterday, and the girl who was doing them, was super talkative so we started to discuss life, and relationships and I said that I had to start again in London, as my marriage with my ex husband broke down during the pandemic.
Then she asked if we had kids together from my ex. obviously I just said no and didn't go into details.
I'd say as I blend in quite nicely, it just didn't clock that I am trans (id say).

Whenever I get burny questions like that (or ive had a few ask if I was on the pill etc or if I had a miscarriage), I always feel very vulnerable, or icky.

I decided to only disclose me being trans to my closest friends and family and the lovers I tend to get involved with, obviously. the rest, I just don't. (unless I get very comfortable and then I would)...so it feels a bit like I'm half telling the truth. as non-disclosing can sometimes feel like I'm concealing, maybe?

does anyone else feel like that? or is It just me? is this feeling eventually going to disappear at some point?

I know these people have no impact in my life whatsoever, but still in the back of my head, I do have those nagging "imposter syndrome" thoughts sometimes.

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I think it is completely up to you as to who you disclose anything to, and when and to what level of detail.
This is a personal decision.

Chrissy

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