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3 years on HRT and they still say Mr, Señor to me, should I give up?

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Hi, I'm new here. I hope you understand my English. I been very sad a while now. Almost 3 years now I been on HRT. I think this is a long time and I was hoping I should pass now without makeup and girl clothes. Yes, I still wearing my same old clothes and no makeup. Been scared to start and scared people laugh at me because I don't pass as a girl.
The last 6 months I got a lot of changes on body and face but still I get this Mr or señor from people in stores and restaurants for example. That makes me very sad.
3 years is a long time for HRT. Shouldn't i pass now without makeup?
My question is should I quite, is it a waste of time and money. I guess some won't pass, maybe I am one of them.
Or should I just start with makeup and change clothes and that will be better?
Please give me some advice.

Maid Marion:
There is more than looks to how people gender you.
How you walk is important.  It may help to learn how to walk in heels.  Even learning how to walk in 2 inch heels may be useful.

There is also mannerisms and social interactions.  Body language.  How your body responds in social interactions.


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First, your English is fine. I've lived in the US all my life and sometimes I don't speak English very well either! People who can communicate in more than one language have my respect.

It sounds like you are having difficulty passing in close-up situations, which can be hard for all of us. Hormones can help quite a bit, but some of us (like me) may need additional help. Learning how to use make-up really helps, but there is more to passing than lipstick, blush, and mascara.

Facial hair can play a big role. Even if you shave twice a day, it can be easy to see a facial 'shadow' of hair. If you have dark facial hair and don't want to use make-up, hair removal is very important. Some people have good luck with facial hair removal using medical-grade lasers. If you have light-colored hair or if lasers are not effective on you, the only permanent solution is electrolysis.

Your voice is also very important. If your voice does not sound feminine, seek out a voice therapist or find some information on the internet about training your voice.

Hairstyle can also play a big factor. There are many hairstyles to choose from, but in many places women usually have longer hair than men. If I see someone with very short hair at a distance, I usually assume they are male.

Clothes can be extremely important. If I wore no makeup, male clothes, tied my hair back, and put on a baseball cap, I would probably be misgendered often. You may have heard the saying 'clothes make the man', well it goes both ways. Male clothing hides a more feminine body shape. Finding clothes which compliment your body and accentuate your curves is one of the most important things you can do.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

Thanks for the reply. I have done a lot of work on my face. Remove my face hair with needle epilation. I went to Istanbul several times to do this. Once a month I do face treatment with dermaroller I bought from Istanbul. I have got very good results from the treatments and my skin is very soft and bright. This I done for almost 3 years now.
My body is very feminine and I got nice curves. I get a lot of looks from man and girls.
I don't look like my passport picture anymore. My face have changed a lot. But I was hoping to pass without makeup. But maybe this is to much to hope for?


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