Topic: Who do you tell?

[CosmicJoke]

Hi everyone. I'm making this thread mostly for the purpose of discussing who you tell that you are transgender. To be honest the only person I bothered telling was my love interest. I met him at a mall about 8 or 9 years ago. When I told him he said "I could understand that." We haven't really made anything happen yet but we still do keep in touch.
Besides that I don't personally feel any need to tell anyone. Every once in a while I get friend requests on FB. These people might know I am trans and want to be friends. That's fine with me, but I don't feel like it's unfair on my part to not tell.

[Northern Star Girl]

@CosmicJoke   
Unless I meet others from out of town, I am fully out as full-time in my very small town...
...and just about everyone in my town knows of my transgender status.

When meeting strangers, there is no need to make an announcement... but if they
are seemingly clocking me and a conversation develops I will sometimes offer my story.

Danielle

[Jessica_Rose]

I would only consider telling someone who I may become intimate with. Other than that, no one else really needs to know.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

[sarahc]

I don't proactively tell people I haven't met before. But occasionally the conversation will go a certain way, and I have no problem disclosing it. Same thing goes for my clients.

All my friends and family know.

Sarah

[Sephirah]

@CosmicJoke   
Unless I meet others from out of town, I am fully out as full-time in my very small town...
...and just about everyone in my town knows of my transgender status.

When meeting strangers, there is no need to make an announcement... but if they
are seemingly clocking me and a conversation develops I will sometimes offer my story.

Danielle

Lol, Danielle, I've seen tons of avatars you've put up. If people clock you... like... ever... then they have to be either occult levels of psychic or make a guess so lucky that they should immediately go and buy 35 lottery tickets.

[Rakel]

I am out to family and friends mostly, however medical professionals need to know my medical history, so I tell them when appropriate.

For everyone else, I am just me and my medical history is none of their business. 

I guess you could call my preferences a sort of semi-stealth. It is not a secret if you know me.

[KathyLauren]

I don't usually tell anyone.  It's not a secret, and if the subject comes up, I'll be honest.  I just don't think it is usually relevant.

The one time recently when I did bring it up was when I was getting my first mammogram.  In the interview, the technician asked me if I still had my uterus.    I had fun with it for a couple of seconds: I said, "I have never had one of those."  I watched as she did a double-take and said, "Oh???"  Then I explained that I was trans. 

[Allie Jayne]

Before I had to transition, I told my mother when I was a child, and both of my wives before we got married. As these women were sharing their lives with me and everything that happened to or affected me, they had to be aware of who I truly was before any commitment was sealed.

Since beginning transition, I could no longer hide myself from anyone. Even when I lived closeted, I really didn’t hold back my feminine nature from those around me, so I was excluded from male acceptance, and faced glass ceilings at work, but I was able to relate well with women. People could sense I was different, but didn’t figure out exactly how!

Hugs,

Allie

[Jessica_K]

The one time recently when I did bring it up was when I was getting my first mammogram.  In the interview, the technician asked me if I still had my uterus.    I had fun with it for a couple of seconds: I said, "I have never had one of those."  I watched as she did a double-take and said, "Oh???"  Then I explained that I was trans. 

I am about to have my first mammogram, it should be interesting

I am out to all family other than two grandchildren (5) to everyone else I am female, trans has not ever come up.

As I cannot dress female at home I do not have problems keeping up appearance for the grandkids. I suppose the next question will be when I will tell them than I am really their grandma.

Jessica xx

[traci_k]

As I'm moving into social transition it's mainly need to know basis. I've told my siblings but they have yet to meet Melissa. My few very close friends know. I've just started coming out to folks I know in the campground as I'm presenting more female there and don't want any surprises.

As for more distant family and friends I'm thinking to drop an announcement on FB. If I lose some of them, well that's life.

[Kaleig_hC]

I am not out yet. I am mostly telling people that I know that will support me and not out me to my family before it is time. I have told the waitresses at a couple of restaurants I go to. I told the manager at the Gamestop I buy that I buy my games from since she has no problem with it. I have to be stealth at this point.

[Rachel]

I am out at work and the construction PM's and vendors I work with all know.

I go to a LGBT (mostly trans) primary care. They were there all the way during my transition. I would say 98% are trans there.

The community I am with are poly pan so no need to disclose there. Some of us go to cis events but there are so many poly pan events I choose not to go to them. I like to go to events with black men there.

I never tell anyone. Not that I am ashamed but because it does not come up.

There is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She is 32, tall and dark skin tone. We have been very close in the past. She has said she gets clocked as trans in public and asked by people. She is stunningly beautiful and cis female. If I could look like her I would not care if I got clocked every day.

So when I go to an urgent care I eventually disclose because they ask about last period and am I pregnant. I then say I am trans and sterile. 

So I disclose when it is medically necessary. The guys ( and sometimes woman) I am with never ask.

I never get asked when using the bathroom or trying on clothing at stores.