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When you notice someone (an adult) who you think might be transgender
Lady Sarah:
--- Quote from: TXSara on September 14, 2022, 06:19:32 am ---Hi Sarah! I never knew you were in my neck of the woods! If you're in rural Texas, you've probably got it a lot worse than I do. I'm guessing East Texas (Livingston, Longview, Jasper, any of those), so you're probably having to deal with a lot of bigotry.
Please let me know if you ever come up to the DFW area (McKinney) -- we can meet up for coffee!
~Sara
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Your guess is quite a bit off. I live between Abilene and San Angelo. Those cities are where I see trans folk on the odd occasion I see any. In the smaller towns FtMs are more prevalent.
I tend to avoid major cities like the plaque. I don't even like driving through them, much less having to walk among the crowds next to such tall buildings. Ahem... country girl here. I'd rathersmell cow patties than smog.
Gina P:
A few years ago I saw a trans woman at a camping expo. Probably in the early stages of transitioning. This being several years before I came out I wanted to ask her some questions about her transitioning but could not think of an appropriate way to approach the subject with a complete stranger. Anyway she caught me looking at her several times and I could see by the look in her eyes she was uncomfortable about me looking and we took different paths around the event. Probably just as well. Fast forward to now, I would be uncomfortable talking to a complete stranger in public about something so personal.
Gigi
TXSara:
I have actually thought about wearing a transgender symbol on a necklace where it would be obvious to someone else who was TG. That way they would know that it's totally cool with me if they come say something. I want to pass, but I'm also not ashamed of who I am. I'm definitely not trying to go in stealth mode.
I hate the idea that people might miss out on a possible connection for fear of offending me...
Just a thought I have had... not sure if I'm going to do it. We'll see.
~Sara
ImAllie:
Prior to coming out to my wife we were at a minor league baseball game this summer when a couple asked to share our table in the dining area pre-game, and it was instantly clear to me that one of the partners was a trans woman.
Since I wasn’t out to my wife I obviously couldn’t even consider saying anything anyway, but I very much wish I could have spoken with her.
But in thinking about it after the fact? Even if I were out? I think it’s very much like going up to a woman with an enlarged belly and saying “oh when is the baby due” and having her say “I’m not pregnant”… I don’t think it’s your story to tell unless the trans person initiates the discussion.
Sara’s idea is a good one, though. It would be nice if there were a “green light” symbol that people could wear that basically meant “feel free to talk to me about being trans”… but short of that? I don’t think I’d ever risk doing something that had even a possibility of harming or feeling hurtful to someone I don’t know.
Allie
Kaleig_hC:
--- Quote from: ImAllie on October 01, 2022, 08:55:29 pm ---Prior to coming out to my wife we were at a minor league baseball game this summer when a couple asked to share our table in the dining area pre-game, and it was instantly clear to me that one of the partners was a trans woman.
Since I wasn’t out to my wife I obviously couldn’t even consider saying anything anyway, but I very much wish I could have spoken with her.
But in thinking about it after the fact? Even if I were out? I think it’s very much like going up to a woman with an enlarged belly and saying “oh when is the baby due” and having her say “I’m not pregnant”… I don’t think it’s your story to tell unless the trans person initiates the discussion.
Sara’s idea is a good one, though. It would be nice if there were a “green light” symbol that people could wear that basically meant “feel free to talk to me about being trans”… but short of that? I don’t think I’d ever risk doing something that had even a possibility of harming or feeling hurtful to someone I don’t know.
Allie
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Christians actually have such a "green light". This is in the form of the Holy Spirit. If the Spirit of God wants me to say something, he can give a word of knowledge about the person's situation. Word of knowledge is one of the gifts of the Spirit. He can tell you about issues a person is dealing with that you have no way of knowing otherwise. Me personally, I operate in a strong healing annointing. If somebody has the faith to receive healing, Spirit of God will lead me to do so. Otherwise, I leave them alone.
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