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Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« on: September 19, 2022, 05:56:38 pm »
Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?

I must be crazy to want just a few more new clothes as I have enough and there are better uses of money for sure.  It is just as I shop, I seem to find more clothes that are appealing that are also priced reasonably.  It seems to be more fun now than ever to wear new outfits.

This is a want and not a need.  I have to literally force myself not to try some things on in the dressing rooms or to order online.  I find it hard to say “no” more than ever the longer I transition. 

I have had to remind myself that in few years I may need a new car or about some planned vacation time, then it is easier to say no. I am very good at sticking to a budget so if I exceeded the clothing budget and still want some new clothes, I have to see if it makes sense to slide some funds from another spending category to wardrobe.

How about you?  Have you experienced this?  Seems like a minor dilemma or nuisance but it is real.  Fortunately I can deal with it.


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Re: Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2022, 06:14:37 pm »
Initially, if something fit and wasn't too atrocious, I bought it. I would 'raid' Ross, TJ Maxx, Nordstrom Rack, and Marshalls every weekend. Eventually I had enough clothing that I could be more discerning. Now that I have a better sense of style (some people question this), there are times when I will go shopping for clothes and return home empty-handed. Building a wardrobe isn't cheap, but eventually your purchases should taper off. However, even with a respectably-sized wardrobe you may often find yourself saying 'I have nothing to wear'. Moods change, styles change, seasons change, there is almost always a reason to bring home something new.

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Re: Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2022, 06:52:39 pm »
I don't have enough yet. I have no winter clothes to this point. I do have my misses coats. Even with those I want feminine colors so I may get another one this fall. Same with my pants and jeans no feminine colors yet. Most of my women's clothes are neutral male mode clothes since I am not out to my family. That won't survive the fall at the rate my transition is going. I have not had long sleeves in years since I gave away my old male clothes on my first transition. I am not to the point I have to rein it in yet. I still have no bras, no belts, and almost no shoes. I use a single pair of flip flops. I have only like 4 dresses and 3 skirts, 4 or 5 pair of shorts. Jeans is what I have the most of mostly in male mode colors. Many holes in my wardrobes. I have to sneak clothes home in my bag and put them away. I buy only a few things at a time or I can't zip up my bag to hide them.

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Re: Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2022, 08:24:39 pm »
Initially, if something fit and wasn't too atrocious, I bought it. I would 'raid' Ross, TJ Maxx, Nordstrom Rack, and Marshalls every weekend. Eventually I had enough clothing that I could be more discerning. Now that I have a better sense of style (some people question this), there are times when I will go shopping for clothes and return home empty-handed. Building a wardrobe isn't cheap, but eventually your purchases should taper off. However, even with a respectably-sized wardrobe you may often find yourself saying 'I have nothing to wear'. Moods change, styles change, seasons change, there is almost always a reason to bring home something new.

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I think I understand what you mean by “you may often find yourself saying 'I have nothing to wear.’”
I am not sure by “often” but at times you want to perhaps wear something new.  This is hard to explain why if you have a nice wardrobe; but, it does happen.

I can say that I am fortunate that I am not into buying luxury designer labels for fancy dresses, purses, etc.
In fact, I have none.  I look for well made clothing though.

Chrissy



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Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #4 on: October 11, 2022, 03:38:22 pm »
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I think what you have to do is to say to yourself that you are not going to buy anything, just shop.
Then leave!

But, when shopping, it is hard not to buy something that is just right for you.

So, just do not go shopping for clothes!  LOL.  At least, not often!


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Re: Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #5 on: October 11, 2022, 05:13:42 pm »
@ChrissyRyan   @Jessica_Rose  @Kaleig_hC

Here is my answer to this thread's question:
     Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?

While shopping can be addictive, especially clothes shopping... I think that
many NEWER transtioners can go shopping and see styles, colors and sizes
that they are curious about and want to buy them and bring them home....
Of course, in most department stores, the Women's section is 6 times the size
of the boring Men's section.... and Women's clothing choices are manifold... colors,
styles, variety. 

Speaking just for me... "it does get to the point of enough is enough" ... and particularly
in these difficult economic times I need to stop and think do I really need it, or can I afford
it or justify another purchase... and will it fit in my overfilled closet!!!! ::)

I have way too many clothes and like some of you have mentioned for yourself, I have
been donating or even selling clothes that I no longer need or wish to keep... some of
them still have tags on them.

As time goes on and I become aware of the styles and fit that I like, it becomes more
common to come home from shopping empty handed as @Jessica_Rose mentioned.

Pre-transition, pre everything, as a man, I would go to a hardware store and buy
tools and other items that ended up filling my toolbox, workbench and pegboard wall. 

Men and Women do not necessarily have the same desires when going shopping!!!!!

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Re: Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?
« Reply #6 on: October 11, 2022, 06:05:41 pm »
@ChrissyRyan   @Jessica_Rose  @Kaleig_hC

Here is my answer to this thread's question:
     Have you ever found it difficult to NOT buy some new clothes?

While shopping can be addictive, especially clothes shopping... I think that
many NEWER transtioners can go shopping and see styles, colors and sizes
that they are curious about and what to buy them and bring them home.... 
Of course, in most department stores, the Women's section is 6 times the size
of the boring Men's section.... and Women's clothing choices are manifold... colors,
styles, variety. 

Speaking just for me... "it does get to the point of enough is enough" ... and particularly
in these difficult economic times I need to stop and think do I really need it, or can I afford
it or justify another purchase... and will it fit in my overfilled closet!!!! ::)

I have way too many clothes and like some of you have mentioned for yourself, I have
been donating or even selling clothes that I no longer need or wish to keep... some of
them still have tags on them.

As time goes on and I become aware of the styles and fit that I like, it becomes more
common to come home from shopping empty handed as @Jessica_Rose mentioned.

Pre-transition, pre everything, as a man, I would go to a hardware store and buy
tools and other items that ended up filling my toolbox, workbench and pegboard wall. 

Men and Women do not necessarily have the same desires when going shopping!!!!!

HUGS,
Danielle


Danielle,

I can relate to the full closet.  Plus I think it has been about two weeks since I was really tempted to get something new.  That is good. 

Chrissy
Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  
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