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Curious Individual needing advice
Cwillytr:
Hi everyone, I’m not sure if this is the right group but I’m going to give it a go. I’m a 24 y/o cisgender male as of now and lately I have been more and more curious about myself. I’ve recently wondered what it would be like to be with a man. However, I have at times pictured myself as a woman in these thoughts as well as just a “femboy”. Additionally, I have grown more attractive to feminine looking males, but I believe it may just be due to jealously of them living a life that I may want myself. I’ve started to try more feminine things lately including painting my nails and wearing female clothing. I am curious if there are others like me who have gone through similar situations and have advice for me.
tgirlamg:
--- Quote from: Cwillytr on October 23, 2022, 12:15:38 pm ---Hi everyone, I’m not sure if this is the right group but I’m going to give it a go. I’m a 24 y/o cisgender male as of now and lately I have been more and more curious about myself. I’ve recently wondered what it would be like to be with a man. However, I have at times pictured myself as a woman in these thoughts as well as just a “femboy”. Additionally, I have grown more attractive to feminine looking males, but I believe it may just be due to jealously of them living a life that I may want myself. I’ve started to try more feminine things lately including painting my nails and wearing female clothing. I am curious if there are others like me who have gone through similar situations and have advice for me.
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Welcome Aboard @Cwillytr
We can be quite skilled at hiding aspects of ourself until we come to a place in life where we are better equipped to deal with them or the urgency of self exploration becomes much harder to suppress… you may find some thoughts in my reply #2 in this thread resonate somewhat for you… or not!
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,259814.msg2465130.html#msg2465130
I’m just out the door right now but will reply with some more thoughts later today!
All good things to you!
Ashley 🙋♀️💕🌻
TXSara:
--- Quote from: Cwillytr on October 23, 2022, 12:15:38 pm ---Hi everyone, I’m not sure if this is the right group but I’m going to give it a go. I’m a 24 y/o cisgender male as of now and lately I have been more and more curious about myself. I’ve recently wondered what it would be like to be with a man. However, I have at times pictured myself as a woman in these thoughts as well as just a “femboy”. Additionally, I have grown more attractive to feminine looking males, but I believe it may just be due to jealously of them living a life that I may want myself. I’ve started to try more feminine things lately including painting my nails and wearing female clothing. I am curious if there are others like me who have gone through similar situations and have advice for me.
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Hi Cwillytr!
I don't know if I'll be able to help you very much, but I'll try.
My situation is not exactly like yours in that I have never been attracted to men (until MAYBE recently... it's a long story. I still don't know where I'm going to end up landing on the sexual preference scale. Estrogen is one heck of a drug.)
For me, my gender dysphoria has been marked by a weird "instinct" that drives me to be and desire to be more and more feminine. It started when I was very young. I always thought it was some sort of weird kink or something, so I just pushed it away as much as I possibly could. Once I got into my mid-forties, though, it became too difficult to stop. I started looking into support groups and eventually came to the realization that I was (and always had been) transgender.
Here's the thing, though. We're all different. You and I don't fit into the exact same place in the puzzle. That's cool. There may be others here that fit exactly what you're going through.
If I were going to make a wild guess based on what you have said, I would hypothesize that you may have homosexual tendencies and you are projecting the female role onto yourself because you have been trained in a "heteronormal" society. DO NOT TAKE MY GUT INSTINCT AS GOSPEL TRUTH, though... I could be WAAY OFF. It just seems to me like your situation is more of a sexual preference thing than a gender identity thing.
Hope it helps,
~Sara
Cwillytr:
--- Quote from: tgirlamg on October 23, 2022, 01:19:20 pm ---Welcome Aboard @Cwillytr
We can be quite skilled at hiding aspects of ourself until we come to a place in life where we are better equipped to deal with them or the urgency of self exploration becomes much harder to suppress… you may find some thoughts in my reply #2 in this thread resonate somewhat for you… or not!
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,259814.msg2465130.html#msg2465130
I’m just out the door right now but will reply with some more thoughts later today!
All good things to you!
Ashley 🙋♀️💕🌻
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Ashley,
Hi!! Thank you so much for the kind words. The link however wasn’t working for me :/. Also, I forgot to mention it but you can call me Nicky and i don’t mind to be referred to by female pronouns or they/them.
Cwillytr:
--- Quote from: TXSara on October 23, 2022, 01:19:35 pm ---Hi Cwillytr!
I don't know if I'll be able to help you very much, but I'll try.
My situation is not exactly like yours in that I have never been attracted to men (until MAYBE recently... it's a long story. I still don't know where I'm going to end up landing on the sexual preference scale. Estrogen is one heck of a drug.)
For me, my gender dysphoria has been marked by a weird "instinct" that drives me to be and desire to be more and more feminine. It started when I was very young. I always thought it was some sort of weird kink or something, so I just pushed it away as much as I possibly could. Once I got into my mid-forties, though, it became too difficult to stop. I started looking into support groups and eventually came to the realization that I was (and always had been) transgender.
Here's the thing, though. We're all different. You and I don't fit into the exact same place in the puzzle. That's cool. There may be others here that fit exactly what you're going through.
If I were going to make a wild guess based on what you have said, I would hypothesize that you may have homosexual tendencies and you are projecting the female role onto yourself because you have been trained in a "heteronormal" society. DO NOT TAKE MY GUT INSTINCT AS GOSPEL TRUTH, though... I could be WAAY OFF. It just seems to me like your situation is more of a sexual preference thing than a gender identity thing.
Hope it helps,
~Sara
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Sara,
Hi thank you so much for the kind words girl!! I do believe that I more than likely am starting to project feminine homosexual tendencies upon myself. But I also feel envious of females when I see their bodies and what they get to wear and being able to be with men. I’ve had thoughts before in the past of “what if” I was a woman and I was happy. But of course I may not fully know until I try things or try to be with a man and see what how comfortable presenting myself as can be. Also, I forgot to mention you can call me Nicky and don’t mind female pronouns or neutral ones.
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