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Midlife crisis at 30 years old

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Wild Rose:
I join this forum because I remember reading this forum when I was much younger. I don't know what just hit me but my age hit me today and I am 30 years old. It's not that I feel old but I am disappointed in myself for wasting my whole 20s away, which were pivotal years of my life on a career that wasn't going anywhere. I did it to pay my bills and not be consider a 'loser'.

I am in my final year at college, and it's dawning on me that my window of time to achieve all my life dreams are coming to a close - this decade, especially by 35, I need to achieve these dreams.

It also spurred out of my realization that I been fooling myself, my family, and all that about my existence as a guy. I don't know, I feel like I missed out a lot on life already, but is this normal to feel at his age?

I feel like if I don't change something than my "time" will run out and people are going to look at me as someone who is too old for a better life. I realize that I only got a finite amount of time, and I got a finite windows of opportunities before it's all over. I regret a lot right now. I feel like I'm coming out of the midlife crisis because it struck me hard the beginning of this week but I realize I got to change a lot if I want to be who I want to be in life.

Is 30 years old too late to have the life I want?

When did you have a midlife crisis or when do you think is a normal age for this to happen?

davina61:
The welcome crew will be along soon but it's never too late dear, I was 61 when I had my "crisis"

Margrit:
Hi Wild Rose

First thing's first:
Welcome to the forums :)

Well, I would say, a crise can show up in every age.
From my point of view it doesn't matter how you name the crises, important is how you handle that situation and what you make of it.
May be go and visit someone to talk and reflect is something for you?

Best wishes
Margrit 

Rakel:
Good morning Rose,

I knew I was different as a teenager, but I did not transition until much later in life, mainly due to the mis-information at the time. There are many of us who transitioned late in life, as I did in my mid 60's. It is never too late to transition. The only thing I regret is not following my heart when I was much younger.

At 30 years of age, you are old enough to be responsible for your own decisions. You should have a means of self support. Between 20 and 30 is really a good time to do what you need to do in order to live your life as you wish.

Transitioning at 30 years is not that old. The only drawback that many of us late transitioners must deal with is all those years of Testosterone. Thankfully, today's FFS techniques and hair removal and restoration can do a lot to erase what Testosterone has done to us. Hormone therapy can do wonderful things when done properly.

The single most important thing to do is to accept yourself as you are and then make the changes you need.
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Margrit:

--- Quote from: Rakel on October 30, 2022, 05:19:01 am ---Good morning Rose,

I knew I was different as a teenager, but I did not transition until much later in life, mainly due to the mis-information at the time. There are many of us who transitioned late in life, as I did in my mid 60's. It is never too late to transition. The only thing I regret is not following my heart when I was much younger.

At 30 years of age, you are old enough to be responsible for your own decisions. You should have a means of self support. Between 20 and 30 is really a good time to do what you need to do in order to live your life as you wish.

Transitioning at 30 years is not that old. The only drawback that many of us late transitioners must deal with is all those years of Testosterone. Thankfully, today's FFS techniques and hair removal and restoration can do a lot to erase what Testosterone has done to us. Hormone therapy can do wonderful things when done properly.

The single most important thing to do is to accept yourself as you are and then make the changes you need.
______________________________________________________________________________________

Having said that, welcome to the forums. When a new member first posts online, we post links to important information, which I will post below.

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Hi everyone :)

What a interesting post in general!
Yes Rakel is definitely right, it is never too late to transition…
When the time is right, it is there and only you can feel when the time has come for you.
For some of us it is earlier and for others it is later in life.

Best wishes
Margrit

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