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So what surprised you most during your transition - pleasant, unpleasant or both

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ImAllie:
Curious as to what things people encountered or are encountering (if in the midst of it currently) during transition that they didn’t expect — be it physical changes, emotional or mental ones, senses, etc …. 

Would love to hear the stories of the things that caught you off guard. Hopefully some of them were in a good way, but even those that were unpleasant will be interesting and instructive if you’re willing to share with us.

Thanks!

Love,
Allie

Northern Star Girl:
@ImAllie
Dear Allie:
Once I went Full Time.... I was amazed how men around me wanted to carry heavy boxes and bags for me, open doors for me,  held my arm when walking on icy sidewalks.... offers to do some snow shoveling for me and other things...

Then, of course, being hit on by men ... and some women.   When I relocated here in my small town as a Full Time woman, and started my CPA business in January of 2017 ... I kinda stood out as a newcomer and as a blonde, blue eyed woman I was the talk of the town.... enjoyable but perhaps a little unsettling at the same time.

A lot of that stuff is at the beginning of my first Blog thread
                 I am the HUNTED PREY: Danielle’s Chronicles

Here is the very first posting in that thread:
       https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,236395.msg2123029.html#msg2123029

HUGS,
Danielle

Allie Jayne:
A pleasant surprise for me was the support of the people around me. Part of the reason I put off transition for so long was the fear I would be rejected, but my family, coworkers, and community were super supportive. My ex couldn't stay married to me, and that is fair, but we are still good friends.

One nasty surprise came in the form of breast pain. I used to run a dive club from my home, and go scuba diving most weekends from my dive boat, but 6 months after starting Estrogen, I found my breast pain under water pressure at depth was unbearable, so I had to cease my diving activities. This was a major change in my lifestyle I had not expected, and one which lasted another couple of years.

Hugs,

Allie

Gina P:

--- Quote from: Allie Jayne on December 10, 2022, 12:38:15 am ---One nasty surprise came in the form of breast pain. I used to run a dive club from my home, and go scuba diving most weekends from my dive boat, but 6 months after starting Estrogen, I found my breast pain under water pressure at depth was unbearable, so I had to cease my diving activities. This was a major change in my lifestyle I had not expected, and one which lasted another couple of years.

Hugs,

Allie

--- End quote ---
   I can totally understand the breast pain Allie. The least pressure gives me a sharp stabbing pain that causes me to gasp for air. Happens at night when I roll over in bed or lean on something when working. I wonder if there is a hard plastic form that could be worn under a wet suit that would keep the pressure off the breasts for girls in a similar situation.

   As for me the biggest surprise so far is the acceptance and kindness of my family and friends and others that know that I'm trans. As others my fear was my biggest hang up.
     Gigi

Oldandcreaky:
The Good: When I was in the male role, I was often described as "weird." No more.

The Bad: I have family members who still blunder from time to time and use "he." They've had 40 years to adapt.

The Ugly: I haven't trusted anyone with the story of my past for years. Tell and they talk. Then the people that they tell talk. Down the gossip chain, soon utter strangers have penetrated my most intimate space without my consent. There are never apologies. They all feel entitled.

I've even had some say, "I feel closer to you," while I couldn't feel further from them.

I said a couple times, "If we're so close, reciprocate. Tell me something about you that imperils your career, your finances, and your safety."

Nada, of course.

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