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How often do you typically cry (outside of tragic events, just in normal course of your life)?

I don't remember the last time I cried
17 (12.5%)
At least once a week
47 (34.6%)
At least once a month
37 (27.2%)
Every few months or longer
21 (15.4%)
I don't remember the last time I cried
14 (10.3%)

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Offline Aiden

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Re: Crying
« Reply #120 on: September 01, 2008, 03:26:40 pm »
Thanks.  don't think even saw the I's lol
Every day we pass people, do we see them or the mask they wear?
If you live under a mask long enough, does it eventually break or wear down?  Does it become part you?  Maybe alone, they are truly themselves?  Or maybe they have forgotten or buried themselves so long, they forget they are not a mask?

Offline Lisbeth

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Re: Crying
« Reply #121 on: September 02, 2008, 09:16:27 am »
Sadly, for some of us in life situations that we cannot change, this sounds like a very peaceful option.

*nods* Yes, it does.  But try to think who in your life would be hurt by you being gone.  And then concentrate on what you can change instead of what you can't.


What do you do if your relationship falls apart on the one thing you can't change: the past?  *cries*
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Re: Crying
« Reply #122 on: February 02, 2020, 04:09:57 am »
Since crossing over, not so much crying but tearing up a lot, once a month at least I'd say.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #123 on: February 10, 2020, 03:05:06 pm »
Every few months or so. I was always taught that expressing negative emotions was bad and ended up not expressing anything whatsoever.

Needless to say, it results in occasional crying outbursts at night. They last several minutes then stop, but are quite rare. I can take up a beating before needing to vent through crying (which does more harm than good imo as my face is literally blank and unfazed 98% of the time due emotional stress and it seems to be intimidating and making people avoid me though I'm friendly as heck lol).

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Re: Crying
« Reply #124 on: February 10, 2020, 04:19:54 pm »
I cry more than anyone I've ever known. I can cry several times during a tv show. I can cry watching a stranger cry. When I was a teacher and I was proud of a student, I'd cry.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #125 on: March 01, 2020, 09:35:40 am »
I don't remember the last time I cried (outside of reaction to death).  I have come out to myself but have not started HRT.  Since coming out, I try to cry and can't.  For the first time in my life, I actually want to cry!

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Re: Crying
« Reply #126 on: April 09, 2020, 12:03:38 am »
I cry a lot. I cry at the drop of a hat. Movies make me cry, books make me cry, music makes me cry.
Lately I've been crying at least once a day and in the past week I've probably not gone more than a couple hours between sobbing fits.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #127 on: April 09, 2020, 12:48:28 pm »
I don't remember the last time I cried (outside of reaction to death).  I have come out to myself but have not started HRT.  Since coming out, I try to cry and can't.  For the first time in my life, I actually want to cry!

I'm happy to say this has changed.  I cry everytime I see my therapist.  But I'm usually crying because I'm feeling an intense emotion, not sadness.  Yesterday, I did cry over something sad, but it still felt good to let it out. 

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Re: Crying
« Reply #128 on: April 09, 2020, 12:49:49 pm »
I cry a lot. I cry at the drop of a hat. Movies make me cry, books make me cry, music makes me cry.
Lately I've been crying at least once a day and in the past week I've probably not gone more than a couple hours between sobbing fits.

How do you feel afterward, sad or happy?  Did this build up for you over time?  Or was it always like this Angela?

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Re: Crying
« Reply #129 on: April 11, 2020, 04:43:44 pm »
Crying is impossible. Even if I wanted to over something in my life, I couldn't. I can't say it's a nice feeling. Crying in general never felt nice to me either. However if alone and on board with "letting it out" tears aren't forthcoming.

100% down to the T. Ironically, it makes my eyes wetter, there is more fluid in them, but crying spontaneously isn't possible any more.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #130 on: April 11, 2020, 05:06:12 pm »
Crying is impossible. Even if I wanted to over something in my life, I couldn't. I can't say it's a nice feeling. Crying in general never felt nice to me either. However if alone and on board with "letting it out" tears aren't forthcoming.

100% down to the T. Ironically, it makes my eyes wetter, there is more fluid in them, but crying spontaneously isn't possible any more.

Totally my experience as a man.  It took a LOT to make me cry and when it did happen it was hard as hell.  Physically, emotionally exhausting.  And no one could see me do it.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #131 on: February 23, 2021, 08:54:40 am »
I rarely cry heretofore.  I have been more emotionally aware tho since coming here.  Actually my eyes are tearing as I write.  I feel much anger directed at me. Feel depressed like I might not see anyone ever again.
Crying because of American Films (and Canadien) is the reason i do a doubletake before getting involved.  I don't think it counts, girls.
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Re: Crying
« Reply #132 on: February 24, 2021, 03:21:34 am »
As a child, I was always told "don't cry or I'll give you something to cry about." Always holding back those tear added to me feeling like I was broken. Now I cry at a happy or sad moment. About once a month, I need to be alone and have a good cry just move out all the emotions and allow for new.

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Re: Crying
« Reply #133 on: February 24, 2021, 11:31:51 am »
All the time. Last year has been rough.
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