Did/Does your family and friends support your "choice"?

Family and friends, 100% Supportive!
13 (26.5%)
Just family's support
4 (8.2%)
Just friend's support
10 (20.4%)
A little bit of both, but not 100%
18 (36.7%)
No support from friends or family
4 (8.2%)

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Did you have support?
« on: March 17, 2009, 11:34:05 pm »
I have absolutely no support from family, nor my rl friend. Her husband jokes about it, but he never really said anything seriously. My mom is mostly against it, my brother lets me talk about it but thinks I should be committed (to the psych ward). My sister said she needs therapy because of it. Lol. And I'm still terrified to tell my dad.

So, I wanted to know how many people had/didn't have support from friends and family when it came to being LGBTCetc. lol.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #1 on: March 18, 2009, 06:58:12 am »
I haven't told everyone yet, so I can't reply yet..
Did tell my mum though, her reply was a "boy or girl, you're still my child" sort of thing.. I got support there.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #2 on: March 18, 2009, 07:03:01 am »
with exception of a couple of peoples who really have no part in my life i have had 100%

my mum said the same, your my child and changed her cellphone that day to fit the new me and even become upset when i tried to walk away for their future sake.

Everyone has gone over the to top be helpful and i thank the fact i had good relations to begin with, i feel this is what made it work in my case.


Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2009, 07:34:00 am »
I said a little of both, but not 100%.  Most of the people at work are supportive, there are a few that just can't get their little brains wrapped around it.  One of the girl's husband is 100% supportive and get upset when he comes into the store and I am not working.  ::)

My friend Peggy is 100% supportive.  No pronoun mistakes and corrects my ex, when the ex makes mistakes..

My ex is supportive, but still makes pronoun mistakes.  But then again she had 20+ years of the other one.  I am not banned from her home and she does call my by my name.

My landlord is accepting.  The occasional pronoun mistake.


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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #4 on: March 18, 2009, 08:28:00 am »
My mother is very supportive. She even buys feminine gifts for me. I have one good GG friend who goes out of her way to be cool about it. Other friends don't even act as though they notice. The people who freakout obviously were not and are not friends.


Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #5 on: March 18, 2009, 10:13:23 am »
Thats kewl. ^.^ lol, I'm jealous.  :P But still very interested.


Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #6 on: March 18, 2009, 09:14:45 pm »
My entire family, ex-boyfriend, people that knew me at the time, all and everyone supported me 101% when I transitioned...and yes I am quite aware that I was very fortunate! 

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #7 on: April 11, 2009, 08:19:20 pm »
i have a few friends support i guess. some friends don't even know i was born female.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #8 on: April 12, 2009, 09:49:14 am »
Just friend's support

Yep that says it all.



Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #9 on: April 13, 2009, 06:09:15 pm »
Lately, my mum's been really supportive.. when I first told her though, we just completely ignored the issue for almost 6 months. Everytime I tried to bring it up she'd change the subject. She's cool now though.. I think she just needed a bit of time to adjust.

I've told a couple of my close friends, and their response is pretty much the same as my mum's was.. except that it's been nearly 2 years. I guess the problem is that they don't really understand what it means. :( It gets frusterating sometimes when I want to talk, but it isn't really fair for me to force them to make this their problem as well.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #10 on: April 13, 2009, 07:53:45 pm »
I was very lucky in that not only did I have support from family and friends, my employer supported me as well.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #11 on: April 14, 2009, 12:32:14 am »
I don't have support from my family. Some people online are supportive of me. That's pretty much it

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #12 on: April 14, 2009, 12:36:42 am »
I cut my entire family off years ago, so they're not an issue. I've had full support from my therapist, the trans community on Susan's and in my town, and work.

My partner...is bearing up as best he can. He was supportive in the beginning (when I came out of the closet as possibly transsexual and decided I needed therapy) but became more and more stressed as time went by. We are still together, but I don't really look at our relationship as being mutually supportive. I can't really help him with his process, and he can't really help me with mine. It's hard to explain, but "supportive" is not a word I would use to describe what we're doing for each other.

Frankly, I'm not sure what we're doing for each other. I just dropped a bomb on him tonight--wasn't intending to; it just slipped out--and now I'm kicking myself. I expect things to get a lot more rocky from here on in.
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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #13 on: April 14, 2009, 12:48:24 am »
My sister was suportive after the initial shock of it all.  But my family practically drove me to move out of state.  In fact, mom, wrote me a note telling me to move.  I did have a couple of friends but I lost them when I moved to California.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #14 on: April 14, 2009, 10:21:04 pm »
My bra supports me.  Ha ha, it's a bad joke, laugh.  Now vomit.
The friends I've come out to support me; my parents don't (my mom's beter than my dad though).  My eldest sister does, my brother and I never talk about it, and I haven't told my older but not eldest sister yet (I didn't tell my brother either, but a certain patriarchal man I know has a leaky mouth).

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #15 on: April 14, 2009, 10:29:49 pm »
I can never quite tell with my family  ???
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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #16 on: April 14, 2009, 10:41:00 pm »

As far as my family goes, My Mama was supportive of me,
to a point in the begining but during the last three years her
support has increased to 1000%. She sends me fem gifts
though she can't afford them. My youngest brother, I couldn't
ask for a sweeter baby bro(36 years old). He holds doors for
me and NEVER slips with the pronouns or name. My sister and
I have not spoken in over twenty years (completely different
story, not going into it.) and my brother who is a year younger
than I, told my Mama, "I never want to see that faggot again."

My Ex told me after I "came out" that it made her physically
ill to even look at me and my step children told me they were
supportive of my decision but "for the sake of the children"
(my grandbabies), requested that I not come around anymore. ::)
At the start, people that I worked with, when on a one on one
basis, were supportive but as time went on things chilled to
the point of avoiding contact or blatant distain.

At this point, three years later, I'm with a different company
and only two people know the deal, one of coarse, is my Boss,
who is completely supportive and the other is a friend/coworker
who is also my room mate, 110% support there, He kicks me in
the butt when I get down on myself or when I screw up and I
do the same for him. ;D Other than that I do have a few friends
that know (mostly also TG) and a few that don't.

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #17 on: March 22, 2019, 04:31:28 pm »
if they are not supportive, then they are not my friends....  :)

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #18 on: March 26, 2019, 04:47:35 pm »
I voted: A little bit of both, but not 100%

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Re: Did you have support?
« Reply #19 on: April 06, 2019, 11:01:01 pm »
Depends what you mean by support.

If you mean by it people around you being instantly positive, encouraging and ready to accept, then only about 4 people I know have done that.

If you mean by it people being at first slightly confused, hesitant, and asking me if I knew what the hell I was doing because they were "concerned", or being silent for a while and eventually just playing the game, then yes, I had a lot of that.

If you mean not too thrilled but eventually having to tolerate it and saying little of it because they eventually realized that's just what I am, some of that.

On the whole I got "tolerance", and eventual acceptance as far as I know. Quite a few people tactically omitting it from conversation to save themselves ridicule from other people at work, or peripheral family members. Never had a huge amount of enthusiasm from people for it though. I suppose that is to be expected. Most people who know me are well aware of my misfit nature before so it's hardly some "great loss" to most of them. If they want to pretend or omit to save themselves hassle I don't care, not my business. Couldn't force them not to anyway.
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