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Life in the future - Do you have a plan - expectations?

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Steph:
I would be interested in knowing what your thoughts are on this topic, and what advice you would consider to be relevant.

From a quick read of the TS forums it is obvious that practically everyone is tied up with their immediate future, and probably rightly so... therapy, HRT, coming out, and the other issues that we know affect us in the, shall we say, early years.

But what of the future, post op, yes we have those who transitioned late in life, in their late 50's and 60's, but what are your plans past this age when we become elderly and we possibly need care.  Are there specific issues that we need to be aware of such as the need for HRT, continued dilation, hair loss, possible health complications due to HRT, etc. etc.

We often advise that we need a plan in order to transition successfully, and I think that this plan needs to extend past transition.  I have my thoughts on this but it would be very interesting to get input from our post op members as to their plans, if any, and of course thoughts from our other TS members.

Have at it folks.

Steph

Sheila:
Steph,
    I live everyday as a special day to me. I told myself that if I die on the way back from Thailand it would all be worth it. I would have died complete and whole. I was a woman to start with some abnormalities, but after the surgery I'm whole and complete.
    I took a part time job as a bus driver just to meet people, especially the school districts as they were one group that oppose gender identity. I'm now working with children and adults as myself and everyone knows who I am. I don't keep it a secret, but I don't scream it out either. I guess I'm making a case for TS's one person at a time. I still belong to various groups in town here that are connected with the city, county and law enforcement. They all know and in fact cheered me on when I went for my surgery. My expectations are that people will know that we are not monsters and that we do exist and that I'm proof of it. We are a cross cut of civilization and that we do have some bad apples in the barrel, just like anyother culture, race or gender. Treat us with respect and don't put the spot light on us. We are normal as anyone else. This will be my life and my future. If I land in a rest home then so be it. I may get hit by a bus going to work today, who knows. I know I won't try suicide anymore as I'm cured of that. The future is in Gods hands or who ever that thing is in the sky or maybe no one. Who knows. I'm an average woman with small expectations. I would love to hit the lottery but not planning on it.
Sheila

Melissa:
You know, I thought about this very subject and I decided that I could start making plans and living my life how I wanted right now.  There are few things that I am delaying until after surgery.  I am dellaying major expenditures for now just so I can save money, but there is no reason to not just be me.  I have some long term goals in mind and some of these goals will be easier to accomplish after surgery and documentation changes, but for the most part, I am doing stuff now that I always wanted to do as a woman.  I believe that surgery should not be an ultimate goal, but a milestone in life.  After we get past that milestone, there is still so much you can do.  What plans would you make if you had been born a GG?  Well, you should be able to achieve those plans (short of giving birth) after transition.  Then ask yourself which of those plans you can start doing right away.  There are so many aspects to life that I believe we will constantly reinvent new goals as we go along this path which we call transition.  The trick is to not lose focus of these goals, but to record them and hold them dear to our hearts.

Melissa

Robyn:
There's an old saying that applies to us as well as to everyone else:  "If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans."

That's why I try to say, "I intend to..."

Life after transition has been quite different from what I anticipated.  E.g., I have a husband rather than the expected lesbian partner.  I've worked much more than expected.  (I'm just a girl who can't say No.)

Although we have pretty close to free medical care (Medicare + TRICARE for Life), there will still be medical concerns.  As a postop who has been completely honest with her medical providers, I don't foresee a difference in meeting health problems from any other older woman, though. 

As a transactivist, I expect to continue advocating for equal medical treatment for TransElders, for all Trans people. 

Robyn

Steph:

--- Quote from: reikirobyn on October 30, 2006, 04:51:57 pm ---There's an old saying that applies to us as well as to everyone else:  "If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans."

That's why I try to say, "I intend to..."

Life after transition has been quite different from what I anticipated.  E.g., I have a husband rather than the expected lesbian partner.  I've worked much more than expected.  (I'm just a girl who can't say No.)

Although we have pretty close to free medical care (Medicare + TRICARE for Life), there will still be medical concerns.  As a postop who has been completely honest with her medical providers, I don't foresee a difference in meeting health problems from any other older woman, though. 

As a transactivist, I expect to continue advocating for equal medical treatment for TransElders, for all Trans people. 

Robyn

--- End quote ---

And this is what I was referring too Robyn.  I haven't seen any studies on the long term effects of HRT on TS.  Additionally is anyone aware of any complications that elderly TS have been exposed too.  How about complications due to an elderly TS being unable to dilate.  These are the issues I'm referring to and should we have plans in place in preparation.  I'm not talking about goals, milestones or living as a woman, I'm doing that now and will be for the rest of my life, this is a natural progression for most TS post ops.  I'm looking for information on elderly TS women.  Elderly women suffer from several illnesses in their later years, osteoporosis is one, even breast cancer etc, urinary problems etc.

Is there any information on this.

Steph

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