What it's like to be non-binary and have a feminine body
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Story by By Silvi Vann-Wall (19 Feb 2024)
"Excuse me, miss?" "How can I help you, ma'am?" "And what would the lady like?"
I hear phrases like these every day, and as someone who is not a miss, ma'am, or a lady, they make my intestines curl.
I'm non-binary. I came to terms with this recently, after living socially as a woman for many years — but I think I knew from a very young age. I just didn't have the right words for it.
Nowadays, I use they/them pronouns, and I try to let people know that upfront — but a funny thing tends to happen when people look at me.
You see, their eyes always trend downwards, scoping out what you might call the 'traditionally feminine' body I live in.
You might also call it my 'massive boobs'.
When this elevator-eye assessment is complete, I like to think that a little switch flips over in the cis person's brain to a 'SHE/HER' setting.
I am misgendered constantly, and it's all thanks to a part of my body I can't control.
If you're not sure how to refer to me, you can always ask! An awkward conversation is definitely preferred over prolonged chest-staring.