Sometimes when I see another woman play with her hair, I wonder if she is unknowingly or purposely sending a signal of some sort (maybe if she is with someone), or if she is nervous, or if it is just a habit, and so on. When I think she is attractive with pretty hair, sometimes I enjoy watching. No matter, in some situations, it is annoying and it seems like a case of unceasing fidgeting!
This behavior does then possibly have its plusses and minuses, depending on the situation!
Do you find this hair playing by someone else to be interesting or annoying behavior?
So, do you run your fingers through your hair (or wig), twirl it, or otherwise play with it, going beyond moving it away from your face? I do, sometimes! But I doubt that I would, or would continue to do so, if I realized that someone was watching me.
Now, the mutually desired touching and smelling another woman's hair has always been absolutely delightful. But that is not this topic, as that is you know, a bit different! :)
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 31, 2018, 05:56:23 PM
Sometimes when I see another woman play with her hair, I wonder if she is unknowlingly or purposely sending a signal of some sort (maybe if she is with someone), or if she is nervous, or if it is just a habit, and so on. When I think she is attractive with pretty hair, sometimes I enjoy watching. No matter, in some situations, it is annoying and it seems like a case of unceasing fidgeting!
This behavior does then possibly have its plusses and minuses, depending on the situation!
Do you find this hair playing by someone else to be interesting or annoying behavior?
So, do you run your fingers through your hair (or wig), twirl it, or otherwise play with it, going beyond moving it away from your face? I do, sometimes! But I doubt that I would, or would continue to do so, if I realized that someone was watching me.
Now, the mutually desired touching and smelling another woman's hair has always been absolutely delightful. But that is not this topic, as that is you know, a bit different! :)
Chrissy
I tuck my hair behind my ears
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Quote from: Arianna Valentine on October 31, 2018, 06:02:40 PM
I tuck my hair behind my ears
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I almost obsessively do this.
The amount of "twirl/playing" I do with my hair is directly proportional to the length. The longer, the more I absently mess with it.
Hugs,
Lacy
It is rare for me. Always getting it out of my face on my left side when eating, since I sweep my hair that way there is too much to put my hair behind my ear on that side, just run my finger from my forehead to my ear. I don't think that I fidget much but since I don't get on my phone either if I am waiting or standing in line I will push my cuticles back absently while trying to avoid looking directly at anyone. I never thought it was at all noticeable until a few months ago I was sitting in the doctors office, middle aged to older men all around and I noticed that men across from me and one of them beside me were checking their cuticles. After that I started to pay attention, sure enough, waiting in line at the bank, to get a table in a restaurant, sitting in the cafeteria if I start doing it soon someone else will too and usually more than one. I have been trying not to anymore but my boyfriend says that I will pull a curl down and let it go every now and again instead. Took me a while to catch myself, but my hand ends up on my chest, side of my palm resting on the side of my boob, finger tips in my hair, so then when I go to move my hand I grab a curl and pull it down as far as it will go and let it go. It is only about eight inches but it must be noticeable, and odd I guess. 😆 I keep waiting for a 50 year old, round, bald guy to reach up to tug a curl that he doesn't have. Anyway I do sometimes but I am trying to stop.
Haha! When do I not play with my hair? It's is annoying sometimes. I used to fiddle with it as a nervous habit but I mostly broke myself of that in my 20's but still catch myself doing it occasionally. I tend to do it more when flirting with or chatting up a guy and it's intentional sometimes but most of the time, it's kind of an unconscious thing but I try to remain aware of it.
At the neighborhood pub where I hang out, there's two guys and a couple girls I know that seem to want to play with my hair more than I do but I really don't mind that a bit. A girl friend I hang out with sometimes will not keep her hands off her hair as a nervous habit and it's annoying as hell and I try to at least not be as obnoxious as she is about it.
Picture on the left is the same color, what it looked like and is the same length it was when I was 13 and still known as a he/him/it. It was down to my waist when I graduated high school but I cut it off about to the length it is now shortly after. Both of these pictures were taken earlier this month and the color is a little off in both of them. It's never been more than maybe 3" shorter than this.
There's kind of a thing about older women and long hair but I really don't care. I'll be 64 in two months and as long as it keeps growing and is healthy, I'll keep letting it get longer again. With all the crap I've put it through in the last 50+ years, it's a wonder I've even got any left but I'm not complaining! It's one of my best features. Sue me if I play with it from time to time! :)
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Quote from: Lisa_K on October 31, 2018, 09:13:21 PM
Haha! When do I not play with my hair? It's is annoying sometimes. I used to fiddle with it as a nervous habit but I mostly broke myself of that in my 20's but still catch myself doing it occasionally. I tend to do it more when flirting with or chatting up a guy and it's intentional sometimes but most of the time, it's kind of an unconscious thing but I try to remain aware of it.
At the neighborhood pub where I hang out, there's two guys and a couple girls I know that seem to want to play with my hair more than I do but I really don't mind that a bit. A girl friend I hang out with sometimes will not keep her hands off her hair as a nervous habit and it's annoying as hell and I try to at least not be as obnoxious as she is about it.
Picture on the left is the same color, what it looked like and is the same length it was when I was 13 and still known as a he/him/it. It was down to my waist when I graduated high school but I cut it off about to the length it is now shortly after. Both of these pictures were taken earlier this month and the color is a little off in both of them. It's never been more than maybe 3" shorter than this.
There's kind of a thing about older women and long hair but I really don't care. I'll be 64 in two months and as long as it keeps growing and is healthy, I'll keep letting it get longer again. With all the crap I've put it through in the last 50+ years, it's a wonder I've even got any left but I'm not complaining! It's one of my best features. Sue me if I play with it from time to time! :)
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I love older women with long hair. I love older women still basking in their femininity. I'm just about to turn 50 & I would kill for hair like that - especially the wavy look. After growing my hair for a year its getting down to the back of my neck & quite wavy & yes I'm starting to play with it!
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I don't play with it as a habit or a fidget.
I do fiddle with it with intent, though. I frequently need to sweep my bangs out of my eyes, tuck it behind my ears, or smooth the back. When I get into the car, I check it in the mirror. And, of course, I check it in every mirror I walk by. ;)
My wife says I do but it's just to get it out of the way of my face, pursue straps, coat or what have you.
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Apparently if your 16 it's ok otherwise it's "for CS stop it! Your NOT a child"! If hair is long fussing with it just seems to come with the territory . . . and then there's those toxic people who make ya nervous and just can't seem to look the other way!
Wrapping pony-tail too high on back of head is another no-no "biggie" :police: And for some reason tucking up under a cap only makes one look more girlish. ;)
I say if ya have really nice hair then FLAUNT IT! At least that's what my truck driving 30 something young boss said . . . now why would he even mention it? ???
I used to always have my fingers in my hair because it was new to me. Now that it's gotten a bit longer (still not completely at my shoulders yet though), I sort of see it as a blanket for my head. I will sometimes grab one of the wavy strands and maybe fiddle with it a bit, but I really try to avoid doing that even because it causes frizz for me. I actually tell people to touch my hair or run their fingers through it because it's soft and fluffy lol
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Hey, if I can't have fun with my hair, why grow it?
It's funny how small things can matter sometimes but hair played a pretty important part of my life growing up. It was the one most physical thing I could to be like other girls and to further separate me from the boy I was never really seen as in the first place but thinking about this in retrospect, it wasn't like I understood any of that when I was a child. I'm not even sure I understand or can explain it now or how anyone understood it way back when but somehow my mother, step-dad and grandparents just did.
From the time I entered kindergarten and began to be treated differently because of my gender, I realized how fundamentally wrong my place in the world was and that others did not see me as I knew myself to be. Having the natural personality, temperament, behaviors and interests typical of other girls, the whole boy thing never jived with me as it just didn't fit with who I was and this was obvious to the whole world the second you got to know me so right off the bat I was seen as other which was fine with me, I was different but things weren't being interpreted the right way. I wasn't a boy that acted like a girl, I was a girl that had to look like a boy because I had a male body and I was crushed by what we would now recognize as both body and social dysphoria. All I knew was that life hurt and that it just felt really terrible being not enough boy to be seen as one because I wasn't and didn't want to be seen that way but yet not girl enough to be seen as one of them either like I should have been.
Again, this was all without any real concept of what was happening or why things were like they were but by the end of the 2nd grade, I was deeply troubled, very unhappy and more than extremely uncomfortable locked into a physicality to which I did not belong and I honestly don't know or remember what all went down, what was said or how it happened but not having hair like other girls just made me feel naked and exposed and wrong, icky and entirely embarrassed. After some seriously depressive meltdowns and out of control behavior, somehow my family understood and the boy's haircuts stopped forever. What it took for this to happen, I really don't know and I didn't really start thinking about some of my questions until I got way older and my folks were long gone and not around to ask.
By the end of the 3rd grade, my hair was causing problems with school dress codes disregarding the fact that my gender atypicality now had a visual component further setting me apart socially and ostracizing me even more for my differences. It was hard to deal with but I was beginning to feel better about myself and more able to tolerate the world. To my 8/9 year old mind, besides the whole clothes thing that didn't become a bigger issue until I got older, having longer hair was the most physical way I could be like other girls and it became a symbol or my badge to the world that I was not a boy and again, somehow my family understood the importance of this to me in spite of the problems it or the controversy and havoc it caused.
Mid 1960's world did not tolerate boys whose hair did not conform to the prescribed standards. With a lot of involvement from my folks, some schools would tolerate it for a while and others did not. Between that and my quiet, gentle and innocent nature, I was bullied so much that I was considered the disruptive troublemaker so we had to move many times trying to find a school that didn't want me to leave or the environment wasn't so hostile it became dangerous. I was put in therapy in 1965 when I was 10, not to change me or make me normal but rather to help with the way the outside world treated me.
After being in 14 different schools, before I started junior high (7th grade/1967) we moved to a different state hoping for less problems but by this time, my hair was a couple inches below my shoulders and overall, what gender I was had become hard to determine but I was really tired of all the hassles and my folks were determined to put down roots and take a stand so when I was sent home my first day and told not to come back without a haircut, take a stand is what they did. I wasn't privy to all the details or how things worked out but they got a lawyer and threatened to sue the school board and I got sent to another counselor. I missed the first eight days of school and when I did go back, all the teachers and staff at least were aware of how I was allowed in and there was a lot of thinly disguised animosity toward me and of course the other kids were absolutely brutal. Two days later I was expelled proper for fighting a gym teacher that tried to drag me into the boy's locker room/showers. I ended up getting sent to another counselor and somehow that got worked out too so I kept my long hair and spent 7th and 8th grade PE class folding towels in one of the coach's offices instead of having to participate, take showers or go in the boy's locker room. This was a big win for me.
Before I even started high school in 1969, my parents preemptively met with them twice and joked with me that was to warn them I was coming. Humor and teasing about my situation was how they diffused the seriousness of things because I did have so many problems and things were crushingly difficult. I don't remember if they had changed the standards or if exceptions were made for me but in high school, my hair never got me in trouble, not with the school anyway.
By the time I graduated in 1973, I'd been on HRT for a year, had obvious breasts and my hair was to my waist or elbows somewhere and I had kind of a toned down, no makeup hippie chick aesthetic for school being as much as I could get away with because I was still supposed to be a boy but I had been passing and accepted as a girl outside of school for a couple years by then with my hair still being a big part of that as it had always been my biggest flag to the world of who I was. Boys just didn't have hair like that.
With school now over and me living "full time" the rest of my feminine expression was released and there was no way I could have ever passed as a boy even had I wanted to considering I never really did anyway and not only just my hair but now also my body and everything else from not only what I did with my hair to the stereotypical things like clothes and makeup I was no longer restricted from by trying to stay in school found me easily and comfortably blended into the world as just your regular young woman, girl next door.
About six months later, as I said in my earlier post, I cut off to about the length it is now and it's never been shorter than a couple inches than that. With other things filling in and taking its place, it wasn't quite so important but it is still a big part how I see and feel about myself. It was the first real thing I could do to be more female as that little kid nearly 55 years ago before I even knew what that meant or how far it would go.
Writing about and remembering this stuff, sometimes I can't believe my life has been so weird or how I ever managed to grow up like I did? It doesn't seem possible and if I hadn't lived and experienced these things myself, I probably wouldn't believe it either. It's all quite surreal or like some twisted karma of being a grand cosmic mistake for being born as a boy in the first place but being blessed with understanding and intuitive parents to ahead of their time to make up for it. The flying spaghetti monster must have been looking out? :)
Now I do love when my significant other whenever I actually have one plays with my hair
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I do. I have really fine hair and it will tangle at the ends. Unless I have it in a ponytail or a hair clip, I end up running my fingers through it to get the tangles out of the end.
My wife finds it quite an annoying habit. :D
Quote from: josie76 on November 02, 2018, 06:22:27 AM
I do. I have really fine hair and it will tangle at the ends. Unless I have it in a ponytail or a hair clip, I end up running my fingers through it to get the tangles out of the end.
My wife finds it quite an annoying habit. :D
It certainly is important to keep your hair detangled, with no split ends.
I've learned not to touch curls... if I do I will either get tangled, or my hair will get "HUGE". Neither is a great outcome.
Sometimes I can feel my hair move ever so slightly when I walk, that is pleasant.
Having my hair being blown about in the wind is okay, sort of, but then I have to comb it, big bummer!
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 03, 2018, 08:59:05 AM
Sometimes I can feel my hair move ever so slightly when I walk, that is pleasant.
Having my hair being blown about in the wind is okay, sort of, but then I have to comb it, big bummer!
Chrissy
I hate when the wind blows and ruins my hair! Sometimes I just want to ride in the car with the windows down dang it!
Quote from: RealLacy on November 05, 2018, 12:11:43 PM
I hate when the wind blows and ruins my hair! Sometimes I just want to ride in the car with the windows down dang it!
Omg I so agreed I can't do the wind blown look so the wind just needs to stop when I'm driving
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I do constantly when my hair is down (putting it behind my ears and other ways) but usually, wear my hair up in a bun and pony. It's getting really long.
I both knowingly and unknowingly do it.
Here is a few examples of knowingly messing with my hair.
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Knowingly the hair has been prepared with heat sprays to straighten or curl hair, or damp hair to set loose waves, or damp plaits to wear as a style for the day with the added benefit of providing tight kinks and curls for the style of the next day.
Knowingly the hair is prepared and protected. And playing with the hair causes minimal harm
Unknowingly, especially at work when my nervousness heightens on certain calls I will twist and kink my hair into tight knots. This does plenty harm.
Or combing it in a rush also can cause damage.
Nervous hair pulling is no good. And rushing hair care like brushing or drying hair can also cause alot of harm.
Be kind to your hair. I find my hair to be a very important aspect of my being. Knowing it was always there and just waiting to grow it out kept me sane and away from the rope when I had to be a man
I look after mine quite well now in thanks for what it got me through 💕
I really wish I was coordinated enough to braid my own hair. I'm still at the point where I might as well just tie knots in it and save myself some time.
I think it is cool to see some of those Pantene hair product commercials where a woman has very beautiful, shiny, healthy looking long hair. So gorgeous hair. :)
All my life I have been attracted to women, so as mtf being a lesbian does seem so natural a path. Ahhh, that beautiful hair! Long or short, of course. Plus, it is the whole woman, inside and out, that truly counts. Certainly though, great hair can make a woman get noticed.
Chrissy
I often find myself twirling a curl around my finger, never thought much about it but playing with my hair is something that I have enjoyed for decades. I guess my thought on the subject is that if you have it, enjoy it!
Tia Anne
So along with playing with my hair like pushing it behind my ears or you know just out of my eyes or whatever I also find myself light shaking it like looking up and then shaking my hair slightly and I'm doing that quite often as well
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I play with my hair, probably more than I should- but I have a lot of anxiety issues, so I'm always fiddling with something (much to the annoyance of my wife). I have mostly broken the habit of brushing it out with my fingers in public, tho... nobody likes it when you shed broken hairs all about the place, and since mine are bright blue, it's kind of obvious when I'm the culprit :-\
I twirl my hair in the least attractive way that sometimes make knots and whatnot. I've been doing it since I was little as a self-soothing thing.
I do like to turn my head and feel my hair move.
I do not do that on purpose when I am out and about with onlookers.
I do like putting some behind my ears too.
A longer wig, maybe to about the top of the boobs, is fun. You can move or gently toss your hair with your hands to your back, place it behind your ears, or from one side to another. You can also wear barrettes and ponytails. Sometimes I put the ponytail through a baseball cap.
These are such little (maybe big) pleasures we can enjoy, huh ladies? Oh, yes.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 14, 2018, 10:39:58 AM
I do like to turn my head and feel my hair move.
I do not do that on purpose when I am out and about with onlookers.
I do like putting some behind my ears too.
A longer wig, maybe to about the top of the boobs, is fun. You can move or gently toss your hair with your hands to your back, place it behind your ears, or from one side to another. You can also wear barrettes and ponytails. Sometimes I put the ponytail through a baseball cap.
These are such little (maybe big) pleasures we can enjoy, huh ladies? Oh, yes.
Chrissy
I love caps, and being able to pop a pony through them instantly turns them femme in my opinion! It's nice not having to give up little things you like in order to feel feminine!
Lacy
Quote from: RealLacy on November 14, 2018, 10:51:56 AM
I love caps, and being able to pop a pony through them instantly turns them femme in my opinion! It's nice not having to give up little things you like in order to feel feminine!
Lacy
Oh yes, I know! So nice. :)
I especially like the deep red rose, fuchsia, and lilac caps!
Chrissy
found myself doing that (playing) as waited for page to load, brush my fringe aside a lot as well
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on November 05, 2018, 11:15:57 PM. . . also find myself light shaking it
lol after pulling, shaking back and forth (with hand) ever try suck/chewing on twirled end of hair/ponytail? Soothing/moisturizing those split ends (with an oral fixation)?
Am trying to cutdown on 'smoking' . . .
Sister and 'ex' are
*shedding* big time apparently menopausal cis women don't think much about "
hormone replacement" I've offered help but no . . .
( ps: Julia soon as a tad longer want to come to Denver and let you style it exactly like you see in my *avatar* 8) ;D )
Omg yes!
I have been running my fingers through my hair for the past half hour or so.
Not sure why I am doing this right now, as I am not anxious.
The best explanation why I am is at this moment, playing with it is enjoyable. :)
Chrissy
I'm not sure if it's considered playing with that but I do find myself constantly tucking it behind my ears
If you can't accept yourself, how can you expect others to accept you?
Ever since Jr. High.
I've always been a passionate hair-player, though, alas, not as much as I used to when I had more of it, I suppose. Back when mine was elbow length I must have done ever braid style I could think of. Back in the ole days I was a big roller setter, sometimes doing teases and whatever. About the only popular style I could never pull of was the Farrah Fawcett '70s flip, which required more hair than I ever had growing out of my head. I always loved that look, though. I've also cut my own hair many times, which is not so difficult if you've got two fixed mirrors and take your time.
Edit/PS: Rachel_Christina, I love all the different looks you do. You and I seem to be kindred spirits in the hair passion department.
What is even more fun is touching and playing with another woman's hair.
In nice ways.
Chrissy
Does eating my hair with my meals count? :laugh:
Quote from: Devlyn on December 19, 2018, 06:36:53 AM
Does eating my hair with my meals count? [emoji23]
As you put hot sauce on it.. Yes.
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Quote from: Megan. on December 19, 2018, 06:42:56 AM
As you put hot sauce on it.. Yes.
"Frank's Red Hot Sauce... I put that $#/? on everything" :laugh:
Some people believe that when a woman plays with her hair or throws it back, that she is sexually attracted to the guy she is with and looking directly at. I wonder if this "sexual attraction theory" also would apply to a woman looking at directly at another woman that she is with, or perhaps it just happens between women with no sexual attraction being involved.
What do you think about both of these "preening" possibilities?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 20, 2018, 05:56:32 PM
Some people believe that when a woman plays with her hair or throws it back, that she is sexually attracted to the guy she is with and looking directly at. I wonder if this "sexual attraction theory" also would apply to a woman looking at directly at another woman that she is with, or perhaps it just happens between women with no sexual attraction being involved.
What do you think about both of these "preening" possibilities?
Chrissy
I think that it would apply to a woman looking at a woman because I've looked at a few women and caught myself playing with my hair because I found myself attracted to them and hope that they would notice
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on December 20, 2018, 05:58:05 PM
I think that it would apply to a woman looking at a woman because I've looked at a few women and caught myself playing with my hair because I found myself attracted to them and hope that they would notice
Interesting. In this situation, gal with guy or gal with gal, if playing with hair or throwing hair backwards to expose more of the face and neck is a preening motion, then I would also think that tucking one's hair behind the ears may also be.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 20, 2018, 06:26:15 PM
Interesting. In this situation, gal with guy or gal with gal, if playing with hair or throwing hair backwards to expose more of the face and neck is a preening motion, then I would also think that tucking one's hair behind the ears may also be.
Chrissy
I would actually think that tucking your hair behind your ear would be a preening motion because you are trying to open up your face so the person can actually see it and if you add a soft smile then that can influence the situation a bit
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on December 20, 2018, 06:29:57 PM
I would actually think that tucking your hair behind your ear would be a preening motion because you are trying to open up your face so the person can actually see it and if you add a soft smile then that can influence the situation a bit
I must be in a constant preening mode than! My hair is still so short that I can't even put it behind my ears, it is above my ears! My face can always be seen, including my ears!
And I smile a lot, because I am a pretty happy person!
Quote from: Dietlind on December 20, 2018, 09:11:57 PM
I must be in a constant preening mode than! My hair is still so short that i can't even put it behind my ears, it is above my ears! My ace can always be seen, including my ears!
And I smile a lot,because I am a pretty happy person!
All of us are beautiful peacocks and we deserve to be looked at and admired
Quote from: Arianna Valentine on December 20, 2018, 09:15:52 PM
All of us are beautiful peacocks and we deserve to be looked at and admired
I like the way your signature is now! Nobody can mistake it anymore.
Quote from: Dietlind on December 20, 2018, 09:18:36 PM
I like the way your signature is now! Nobody can mistake it anymore.
That's what I thought but anytime I welcome new people and to the forms they think my signature is talking about them I don't know why I haven't figured it out either
Pre coming out, I never had my hair longer than my ears. Always bald fades for me.
But I've always wanted dreadlocks but never thought I'd actually get them. When I came out I thought, why not dreads now? I had to grow my hair for a year just to get them started. They're now almost shoulder length. I'm sooooo proud of them! They're a symbolic and spiritual experience for me that coincides with coming out and being authentically me.
All that to say, yes I mess with my hair all the time! Probably half the time I want to. The other half I need to separate hair to go into the right dread or it will be one giant mess.
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Quote from: Arianna Valentine on December 20, 2018, 09:19:49 PM
That's what I thought but anytime I welcome new people and to the forms they think my signature is talking about them
It's such a good quote. I'm not surprised it has that reaction from people!
Quote from: Allison S on December 22, 2018, 08:15:24 AM
It's such a good quote. I'm not surprised it has that reaction from people!
I'll see now I'm getting so many responses that the same kind of keep the quote I think I'm going to be in able it
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