So, excuse me for rambling a bit. Anyways, to set some back story I came out about my gender identity to my sister almost two weeks ago. She lives in another state where she's very active with... well... activism in a variety of progressive causes including transgender issues. So, needless to say my sister has been awesomely accepting and I've made plans to go down and visit her early next month.
I was originally going to tell my mom last Friday. However, one of my darling children needed to have a lego surgically removed from his bronchial tube (only my kids would inhale legos!). So, I had to postpone that talk until today.
I opened up the conversion with mom by mentioning my plans to visit my sister. This prompted my mom to recount the experiences of her last visit, which included playing boardgames with two trans women my sister is friends with and attending a PFLAG fundraiser. While you'd think this would be the perfect opening, in actuality while she was telling me this I suddenly had the worst fear: "OMG! What if she says something terrible about the trans people she met! How would I ever be able to tell her then!"
Thankfully my mom had nothing but nice things to say about the people she met. One thing I recall her saying was something along the lines of how they must really feel the way they do to go through the whole process of transition. She also talked a bit about being embarrassed about accidentally misgendering them... it was obvious that she really wanted to treat them with respect. :)
So, eventually it came time for me to tell her my news, and I just kind of blurted it out. Her reply was, "So, I have two daughters." ;D
I also pointed out that she was going to be 0 for 2 when it comes to naming children (my sister changed her name for different reasons), and that set her off to pondering about whether she's going to change her will again when I get my change... lol
Having now told my wife, my sister and my mother; only my kids are left out of the people I actually care about (well, okay my wife's sister's opinion matters to me, too, but I let my wife tell her and she appears to be accepting of it). I have some extended family on my dad's side, other people in my wife's family's and some acquaintances, but nobody I'd really miss if I never talked to them again.
Anyways, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world having the people that matter most to me be so accepting of me. ;D
Hey,
I'm so happy for you!! At least you know now youll definitely have a big supportive network.
Big hugs xox
I came out to mom less than two months ago. It went way easier than I ever expected. Then I could come out to the rest of my family.
Thanx for sharing a feel-good story. You are right acceptance by those that matters is a great feeling
I admire your bravery! I'm just now coming out to myself. It will likely be a while before I come out to anyone else. I'm glad your mom took it well.
Quote from: ReplacementSarah on April 20, 2018, 08:24:21 PM
Anyways, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world having the people that matter most to me be so accepting of me. ;D
Congratulations on coming out! Isn't that the greatest feeling, when those closest to us are accepting and supportive? Yay!
Sarah,
Glad for you that your coming out has gone so well. I no longer have my parents but I seriously doubt they would have responded nearly as well as you mom has. You are blessed.
Stevi
I came out to my mother 58 years ago and my parents sent me to aversion therapy. It has affected my life in negative ways ever since. It was a different generation. I finally came out to my wife of 20 years last fall. I wish you the best. It is never healthy to stay in the closet.
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Quote from: heatherreneehais on April 21, 2018, 09:22:39 PM
I came out to my mother 58 years ago and my parents sent me to aversion therapy. It has affected my life in negative ways ever since. It was a different generation. I finally came out to my wife of 20 years last fall. I wish you the best. It is never healthy to stay in the closet.
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