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I warmly thank you for being out there.

It is nice to know there are people like I was not too long ago, reading and researching. This is not a step in life to be taken lightly. I realize now, I was bitten rather lightly by the dysphoria bug, compared to some of our wisest and most epic posters.

Transition is not for everybody. If it is for you, you WILL know. It may not be your time. It may never. Transition may not even be why you are perusing this place. It does not matter. Thank you for your interest. I hope you learn something from our awesomely unique community.

Us trans folk are easily misunderstood. In the LGBT community, we trans folk include all trans LG and B into our T as well as QA... XY and Z. We are not as easy to categorize. We are not easily understood from an outsider's perspective. There aren't as many of us, yet we are the mirror image of cis folk. We have unique members of the Trans community who fit into each and every letter of that acronym... and yet, most of us just wish to fade into the crowd. We do not look for a soap box to preach from. We just wish to go our own way, help a few newbies, and then go on with our own life as if we had lived this way all along.

So, guests. Thank you for visiting. Feel free to make an account. We accept most anybody. There is a learning curve here. Be prepared to say the "Wrong" thing a few times. Do not let it bring you down. We will let you know if and when you do. Feel welcome though. Listen. Pay attention. Learn. Enjoy. Remember, we were all guests once, except for Susan... and even Susan was a newbie somewhere.

A very nice post, Tori. I hope you've given someone the little boost they need to create an account and help us help others. Hugs, Devlyn

'Twas the only Christmas gift I could afford.

Thank you.

:)

It's a wonderful gift. Hugs, Devlyn

I feel like a girl right now.

:)

Thank you.

Great post!  We were all guests at one point.  I started lurking here back in 2008.  At that I was 19 (I think) and was ready to start my transition.  Suffice it to say, I had many difficulties which led me to delaying my goal.  Now, I'm back and a member.  It's weird, but this site was very helpful to me as a guest even though it took me forever to face the music and move forward. 

Well, thanks, I just started my transition and need a lot of help moving forward . I appreciate the warm welcom

I love the post Tori.  It's terribly important to talk to the Guests once in a while, and let them know we're giving advice to them as we provide it to the girls who already have an account.  I adore the girls here, but feel a little jealous at times, and envious about some of their progress as it compares to mine.  ;)
But I'm so glad I'm here.

I read these treads long before signing up on Susan's, and I felt inferior to the girls who had the will to become part of the discussion.  And then one day someone else posted a thread asking Guest who lingered, or loitered about to join in.  It still took a few weeks for me to set up that first account way back in April or May of 2012, but once I was online here my eyes opened, I asked questions, and got honest answers.  The girls here never said I wasn't genuine, or true to my gender.  And they never berated or accused me of anything else.

So yes.  Guests, please open up and ask us questions.  We'll happily give answers.

K

Hi!  Regarding Tori's post to the visitors ... I would also like to invite you to visit the "androgyne talk" section .... There are many of us out there who started there while figuring out if full-time transition was in the cards, or BA or SRS ... or whatever.  Tori is right ... You will know, maybe not today, but some day.  And this step in life is not to be taken lightly, that is why there are so many categories in this site ... non-transitioning, pre-op, post-op, androgyne, etc.  Explore them all and you may find that there is a niche that fits you perfectly today!  Roberto

Quote from: Tori on December 26, 2013, 05:55:55 AM
'Twas the only Christmas gift I could afford.

Thank you.

:)

And a precious gift it is!

This is the place I come to when I am anxious or afraid.  Even before I felt comfortable enough to join the conversation.  I felt accepted by the women here, and even a little bit pretty just by reading and accepting your generosity.
Thank You

It is time to give this ancient thread a bump.

Guests, feel free to join the community!

Welcome, all of you!!!

 :eusa_clap:

Nice and is needed, well done Tori  :-*

L Katy

I, too was a long time lurker.

This place gave me the courage to jump into the pool, and thanks to you ladies and gents I am now well on my way to being who I really am.

When I first considered transitioning, I was a Guest for about a year before creating an account. Then I posted a couple of times, chickened out because  I thought I didn't have anything to add, and went into hiding during the rest of my transition.

I didn't realize that just asking questions is important - everyone benefits from the answers. :)

So. Guests, please feel encouraged to create an account and ask away! Even if your question has been asked and answered many times, there is value in having it "bumped to the top" for newer folks to see...

Excellent post, Tori.

I was a guest for quite some time, and even though I finally signed up and all, more than a year after I had started HRT actually, I still consider myself a guest, even though this year is going to be my 5th anniversary since I signed up, because when I'm here, I spend way more time reading and learning stuff from so many different people and different lives and experiences, than the time I spend posting stuff myself, because I still know so very little compared to the immense knowledge-base poured out into this great web site, throughout the years it has existed.

I think this topic should be a Sticky Topic both on here and all the other main forums on the web site. They could use this very one post from Tori, or create their own version, from a member of the specific forum, with similar welcoming and inviting words. IDK how to request formally for a topic to become a Sticky Topic, so this response is my vehicle to do that. I hope others do it as well!

Cheers

Bibi B.

Quote from: Tori on March 10, 2015, 12:09:49 AM
It is time to give this ancient thread a bump.

Guests, feel free to join the community!

Welcome, all of you!!!

Instead of bumping the thread up I think it should be made a sticky topic. Pin it up there for all guests to see

Thanks for the feedback. I guess I could ask to have this stickied but I kind of feel weird asking to get my own thread sticked, and since I am not a global mod or admin, I probably shouldn't do it myself.

Haha, Tori, I was thinking the same thing about the sticky. Not sure about the etiquette. I'm happy to ask a global mod to do it. PM me with who you think is best?

I would like to thank all of the guests on this forum for browsing here and right now I would like to ask all of you to consider membership.   With a membership, you can contribute to the discussions, ask and answer questions, consider subscribing or donating to help with our monthly operating costs, or even volunteer your time as a staff member.   

As a community, transgender people have made significant advancements in recent times, but until we are given proper recognition and rights worldwide, there are plenty of battles ahead of us.   There are some battles that must be fought in courthouses, state assemblies and in federal jurisdictions, but the battle against ignorance can be fought right here.

Please sign up, sign in and join the party.   The more voices we have, the louder they will be heard.

And I want to thank you Jill for adding this as a Sticky It should serve the forum well.

Thank you Tori for your insight to make a topic as this.

Thanks Izzy. You inspired me to bump it, and you don't even know it. Well, now you do.

Thanks Tori for starting this topic, and to Jill for making it a Sticky topic.

I was a guest here for only a few weeks, and not a regular lurker at that. It was more like I would google something I was curious about, and more often than not a Susan's thread would be right up there with an answer, or at least with someone having asked a similar question before. Soon enough, I figured that it would be better to just join in here. :)

I am still far away from transitioning and in a very different place and context than most others, but I have always felt welcome here. Also, the quality of discussion and general helpfulness of people here is something hard to find anywhere else on the internet.

Your words are wonderfully kind and full of love!

Exactly what I needed to hear today!

:-)

Thank you.

Until today, I guess you could say I was "lurking" lol
But I felt a wonderful warmth here as I begin my life (finally)

Great post! I just signed up yesterday, and I only just found out about this site three days ago. I'm still a long way from having things figured out but already this site has helped me so much to not feel alone or different or like there is something wrong with me. I'm so glad this site is here, and I'm so very thankful to all of you who are helping me gain the courage to discover who I really am. Thank you! :)

Welcome, both of you. :)

This place rocks.

Been a lurker on this site since 2006. I used to browse it under the covers of my bed, on my psp. The good ol' days. Finally decided to make an account. Hey  :)

Welcomed you in one of the threads you posted into earlier...

Glad you have joined us  ;D

Katy xx

Quote from: Dankster on October 27, 2015, 03:17:46 AM
Been a lurker on this site since 2006. I used to browse it under the covers of my bed, on my psp. The good ol' days. Finally decided to make an account. Hey  :)

Hokey smokey! Give me a minute to heat up the Longest Lurker branding iron!  ;D

Welcome to Susan's Place, Dankster!

Hugs, Devlyn

Hey Tori, thank you for na welcome. M new to this site but not transition. I look forward to making some new friends an learning some new perspectives. :)

Hi FluffyPunk, welcome to Susan's. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

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nice name

Thank you StephanieC. Do ye run a Veterans grouppe here?

There is a role call page for veterans on the site. It is also for those currently serving. Hugs
Mariah

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,96755

Quote from: FluffyPunk on November 25, 2015, 06:54:02 AM
Thank you StephanieC. Do ye run a Veterans grouppe here?

Great post i found this site earlier on this eavning and made an account i look forward to getting to know all you veterans and newbies alike :D

Yay! Welcome!!!

That was a great post Tori.  I lurked here for about six months in 1997 and one day I created an account, tentatively made a post and was here until life got in the way a few years later.  I've looked in occasionally since then but decided, for a multitude of reasons, to sign up again a little over a month ago.  So yes to the guests, create an account and jump in.

Awwws Tori, what a lovely post!  :D

I signed up almost as soon as I found this site a couple years ago after I discovered my male mask had a whacking great crack in it one Halloween evening! (nb: metaphor, not literal :P )

I phase in and out because the cogs are moving excruciatingly slowly for me and I don't have lots to add right now, but there's still plenty to learn and hopefully this year everything will fall into place and I can finally start exploring all of this in more than just theory!

Since being here, I've felt nothing but warmth and love from everyone!  This is not the first time I've said this, but I can't say it enough.

To all my sisters, brothers, and all the colours of the rainbow inbetween, thank you all for existing!


:laugh:

A very nice post.  I too was a lurker.  I searched this website for almost two years as a guest and learned a lot.  My wife, for the most part has been very supportive of my desire to become a woman.  She has put up with a lot of my purging.  This month I confided that I felt ready to begin my transition and today I joined this website.  Thanks to all who participate.

Just like Tori said I am still virgin at this idea about transition my self. That why I join this forum hope to learn along with my journey of transition to became Luanne.

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Welcome to the forum Launne, we are glad to have you here. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: luanneph on February 02, 2016, 02:40:36 PM
Just like Tori said I am still virgin at this idea about transition my self. That why I join this forum hope to learn along with my journey of transition to became Luanne.

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Quote from: Mariah2014 on February 02, 2016, 02:57:12 PM
Welcome to the forum Launne, we are glad to have you here. Hugs
Mariah

Thanks so much Maria. I feel like I just return to my new home with my new life.

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I had srs in 1988. No internet or online back in those days. Had loving family for emotional support. I wanted to say, it is very touching seeing this forum and support for everyone transitioning or post srs.

loves to everyone my name is Myka. Im looking for some helpful reviews for some upcoming operations and Im excited to meet all of you. I currently live in Bozeman Montana and work at the University as well as attend classes. Really hopeful for my transition and moving forward and finally freeing the bird here. Unforuntately i think i was bitten by the bigger of the bugs :) thankfully...

[/size]Hello, I'm new to this group. My name is Brenda Jean Louise. My Partner and I live in Waterbury, Connecticut. We're both Post Op M2F's. Call us transbians. LOL We both had out SRS in 2003. Not too happy with the Presidential election results here, and are toying with the idea of relocating to Canada. We are in our mid 60's. I was born and raised in Montreal. My parents and I moved to the US back in 1964. Just wanted to say hello to all of you.

Hi Brenda,
   Happy to meet you and read your post. I have to say I love the term "transbian."
Monica

Hi Monica,
Yeah "transbian" term gets a lot of laughs at LGBT socials. LOL. Great to hear from you. Ever since 2000 I've been involved in trans-activism. Here in Connecticut, we finally got our basic human rights legally guaranteed us. Might I ask where do you live?
Brenda

Hi Brenda,
   I am from just across the sound from you, Long Island, but I live in Maryland now. Thank you for your activism. I wonder, what form does your activism takes? You sound like you have an interesting story. Would love to hear more.
Monica
You want rights and you want them legal? Whatttt??? My sorry sense of humor gets away from me sometimes. My apologies. :)

Well, my activism is in many areas, like attending local demonstrations, giving testimony to Senators and Congressmen, appearing several times as a speaker within Connecticut state legislative sessions involving human rights, and volunteering as video camera crew or photographer at LGBT events. Both my partner and I managed to turn a key Republican Congressman's standpoint on a federal LGBT student protection bill from a no to a yes. As far as human rights goes, there needed to be a law on the books that clearly and legally defined transgender rights in employment, housing, and public protection from hate crime persecution, and transgender affirming restroom usage privileges. I was a victim of a wrongful termination of employment and rampant discrimination in the workplace. I won my case and added my testimony about these issues in front of a legislative committee hearing.

Monica, seems I can't reply through the message system because of a weird Verification question that does not respond to my answer. So what I wanted to say in reply to your message. Well. here in Connecticut it was more easier to go to stores and restaurants, but you still ran into idiots from time to time. They would catch me off guard and my emotion would get crushed by what they had to say publicly, or hear that hideous laugh behind your back. Then there was always the snide register clerk who would look you straight in the face and call you "sir" in earshot of the rest of the folks waiting behind you. But now that seems to happen much less now because of the law defining our human rights against transgender discrimination. Store management makes sure their clerks will be disciplined for their negative activity against us. The police are good to us and give us the respect that we are due. Our Governor is very transgender friendly. I spoke before the Legislator Committee 4 different times on the issue of the Transgender Bill of Rights. If you google my name 'Brenda Jean Louise' you will see what I said on the last appearance. 'PDF Brenda Jean Louise 125 Parklawn Drive, Waterbury, Ct.'
I'm in google for some other things I commented on as well. I also do nature photography and video work at a public access studio.

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I'm sorry, I wrote before I read. I promise I'll write within your guidelines. Thanks for the response. Glad to meet you. I've been out 24/7 as transgender since 2000, and post-op TS since 2003. I say this because I'm not some kind of lurker or troll.

Not a problem. Your posts have been good or you would already know about it and we allow a fair amount of freedom on the site. Just some members are a bit more difficult to catch up with than others. I never posted an introduction in the introduction areas but instead did it in the voice area as that was what I was interested in. My surgical date was 1982 so I have a few years on you but we have far to few post ops on the site so more area always welcome.

Your totally fine. We just give those links to all new members once we discover a new member hasn't received them. The 15 posts is just a rule as far as to allow access to certain features. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: tgbrendaj on December 03, 2016, 10:03:29 PM
I'm sorry, I wrote before I read. I promise I'll write within your guidelines. Thanks for the response. Glad to meet you. I've been out 24/7 as transgender since 2000, and post-op TS since 2003. I say this because I'm not some kind of lurker or troll.

Thank you Mariah.

Dena, Thank God for the internet. Before 2000 I was deeply closeted, but I knew I was a girl inside since I was 6 years old. I never knew how to get in touch with the trans community here in Connecticut until I saw a posting in a local free newspaper that gave the location of a nearby LGBT Community Center, and an open invitation to come to a LGBT get together. I went and finally met a down to earth M2F who invited me to a Transgender Group that met monthly in the LGBT Center. When I attended the group, I was amazed how many people there were. After that, Brenda came bursting out of her shell. LOL After that, I helped many girls to come out and live. I gave loads of protective information to them so as to prevent them from any harm. When I went on the internet I found it to be a great tool to meet area trans folk and arrange the group to have parties and dinner meetings at a local Gay bar/restaurant.

Hi Brenda,
   Sorry, I was out of town. I really liked your letter. You are an inspiring person and I hope you will stick around here at Susan's. I have been extremely lucky not having experienced the nasty comment or laugh (maybe a stare or snicker a time or two.) Either people here are conservative but tolerant,  or I pass better than I think I do. I am also fortunate to work in a school for kids with special needs, so my workplace has been wonderful as far as being accepting. Guess when someone gets nasty it will hit hard. I have an eye to educating people as well. I am very open to questions from people. I think it is the best way to gain allies and show folks that we are real, feeling people who bleed red blood like everyone else.
Moni

Wow. What a great place to work. And how great is the fact that they accept you and encourage you to continue working there. Being a teacher has it's rewards when you help a student connect and learn. Waterbury has a lady that won the teacher of the year award, and she went to Washington with her son to personally meet the President and Michelle Obama. I once visited my sister who lived in Raleigh NC. All of the stores were were very polite to me so far as clerks go. And back then there were no bathroom issues whatsoever. As far as passing, your avatar picture tells me your real good in the passing department. As for me, being 5' 12" with very large paws and football player feet, passing has not been one of my specialties. But as I have progressed with my HRT, things seem to have progressed. I was privy to a special class of M2F speech therapy being done and a University in New Haven CT. It covered pitch, pronunciation, vocabulary, feminization and facial emphasis while talking. I rarely get 'sired' much now. But when I do, it still bugs me. I agree about teaching cisgendered people about being transgendered whenever I get the opportunity to. Especially to medical staff I meet. They all listen with interest and walk away more knowledgeable on the topic. We have 2 other M2F transsexual people who board at our home. One is involved with IT, and the other is an Episcopal Minister. People know we call our place Trans Central. LOL I plan to be a permanent guest at Susan's. Oh yes, I forgot to tell you that today I got a call from my older brother, who wanted to make peace with me and offer an olive branch of acceptance. We talked for two hours and traded email and street addresses. Blew me away with joy. Take care.
Brenda

I don't want to take over this tread, but since you don't have enough posts to PM, I will ask you a question if you care to answer it. As you said you are planning to be around Susan's. You have done a lot in your transition and done a lot for trans people. Do you still get dysphoria feelings? It is something that I realized, very recently, that is really bothering me. What happens if I get through all that I can do to match body and mind? Do I still get that awful feeling of discomfort? Is it gone from your life or does it still bother you? I thought I had quieted it down when I went full time, but now it seems to be raging back, not socially but body wise. If you don't want to answer it is okay.
   I am so happy to hear that your brother is coming around. That is fantastic. I hope you are not estranged from anyone else you love.
Moni

When I first started to transition, I figured I wanted to do the HRT (hormone replacement therapy) which included a pill that got rid of my testosterone, and a set of pills to give me the estrogen. I did this through the careful monitoring by an endocrinologist. I also went to a GID psych, at first to get a letter informing my Connecticut DMV that I was undergoing HRT and transitioning under the real life test guidelines. This was also for the Doctor recommendation, and after changing my name to a female name, the DMV would change the gender on my driver license (Connecticut doesn't require the surgery). Now as far as the transition went, there were just too many things to think about before I got the operation. Actually, I welcomed any reservation thoughts in my mind and considered them till I felt the OK to continue further on my journey. Getting the full SRS vaginoplasti is a serious step. There is post-op health related issues, living an irreversible life as a female with all the positive or negative perks that happen to cisgendered females, and willingness to get the operation regardless of the outcome being successful (90%) or problematic (10%). There's no way to sugarcoat the decision, it's an easy one ounce you've considered all the angles and are good with them. Now as far as the dysphoria issue was for me, I felt better continuing with the transition. But that's me. The way I see it, there is breast augmentation surgery (if needed), facial feminization surgery (if needed), getting an orchidectomy (cutting down the need for spyronolactone, and heavy estrogen medication), and if you still need to make yourself further congruent do the vaginoplasti (the big step). I remember when I said "the prayer" to myself one night when I was 14. I prayed to God to work a miracle on me and that when I woke up, I would discover that being a male was all a bad dream. I wanted to have my genitalia removed and enjoy living full time as a woman. By the time I was 50, I was 24/7 transitioning, at 52 it was time for the SRS. Alas, I did have some post-op difficulties. Being a progressing type 2 diabetic, my new genitalia suffered nuropathy. Vaginal stenting was very hard to do because of skeletal pubic bone problems. But all and all I'm happy and would do it again. I hope that has been helpful to you.
Brenda

After some thought, I will continue to the post-op section of Brenda. Occasionally I will see a cisgendered female who makes me ask myself, "Who am I kidding". I feel like a guy that's a girl, that's a guy, that's a girl (I heard that statement from Kate Bornstein at one of her talks.) Here's where I needed to take stock in who I am. I love technical things, motorcycles, a good campfire, Swiss army knives, wrenches and power tools. I like to build things, and do car and appliance repairs. My career was as an Electro-mechanical Manufacturing Engineer. On the other hand I like to dress up, wear makeup, and go to dances. In reality I consider myself as a soft butch woman. And that I am. Partnered with my very feminine post-op TS. I'm not a perfect 10, and I'm not the bag lady on the street. I'm somewhere in the middle and I'm very happy. Coming to that conclusion, I snap out of my pity party and carry on. I hope that helps you as well.
Brenda

Brenda,
   Thanks for that response. I am only full time since June. I had FFS with which I had problems, some of which still need to be resolved. I have no doubt I want GCS and it is scheduled. My patience with having what I consider a birth defect between my legs is gone. My patience  is spent after all the years of hiding. I am basically very happy though. I just had a bad bout of dysphoria lately. I think it made me question if I will ever be free of that type  of feeling on a day to day basis once my operation is done. I am amazed  at how comfortable I feel socially. I didn't see that coming. I thought that might be an on going battle but it wasn't. To be honest, in trying to gather info from others who had GCS, I think I  read too much. I am happy for others who are getting their surgery, but I started to feel like mine was a million miles away. Call it jealousy or childish, whatever, but it triggered something for me. So I was curious about your experience. I know all the logical things that I should do, but this is an emotional thing and is not logical. I think we all have pity parties at times. I am trying to bring mine to a close fairly quickly. Enjoyed hearing more about you. Take care.
Moni

Before I had my SRS, I used to get depressed when others I knew got their's. Once I had mine done, there was no more depression for me. Hey, take it easy, and it was fun talking with you. Seasons greetings BTW.
Brenda

Thanks Brenda!   Enjoyed chatting with you too. See you around. Happy Holidays to you!
Moni

Tori,
     It heartens me to know that there are others whose dysphoria was not crippling.  It helps me with some of my doubts.  I have only been on the transition journey for several weeks and at times the doubts which take the form of these moments where there is a deafening lack of a desire to transition.  They have so far been fleeting and the more I learn about myself and what is in front of me, the more determined I am to continue.  Just knowing that not all of us absolutely hated our bodies helps me so much.  I never hated my body (was never crazy about it but never hated it), I just want so much more, I want womanhood so badly I can taste it.

         -Julie

I was a guest some 20 minutes ago but based on this post have joined you all in my journey. Taken me a long time but starting hrt hopefully this week. 

Many thanks Charley

Charley,

Welcome to our little corner of the universe.

The original post really sums it up.   Great people and debate - they help me daily with their thoughts.

Nikki

Quote from: charley on April 02, 2018, 04:01:55 PM
I was a guest some 20 minutes ago but based on this post have joined you all in my journey. Taken me a long time but starting hrt hopefully this week. 

Many thanks Charley

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 Jessica, NikkI

Thanks for your welcome and the links. Being based in the UK the resources are there if you look hard enough but Susan's Place eclipses them all in my opinion.

I will introduce my self in time after I have settled in.

Goon night and God bless

Charley xx

Quote from: charley on April 02, 2018, 04:30:38 PM
Jessica, NikkI

Thanks for your welcome and the links. Being based in the UK the resources are there if you look hard enough but Susan's Place eclipses them all in my opinion.

I will introduce my self in time after I have settled in.

Goon night and God bless

Charley xx

@ Charley:  Welcome aboard.   
When you have settled in, I will be waiting for you in the Introductions Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,8.0.html)
See you there when you are ready.
Danielle

Quote from: BeverlyAnn on December 12, 2015, 01:14:54 PM
That was a great post Tori.  I lurked here for about six months in 1997 and one day I created an account, tentatively made a post and was here until life got in the way a few years later.  I've looked in occasionally since then but decided, for a multitude of reasons, to sign up again a little over a month ago.  So yes to the guests, create an account and jump in.

Hi BeverlyAnn. I joined a few hours ago.  I tried a few times and it did not take, but finally I am in.  I went to check out the mtf ts topics and found this.  I just discovered this while doing a google search, so I never lurked. I have been pre op since 1990. Lots of ups and downs.

You look familiar. Ever been in Portland or SF Bay Area?

With love, ReubyLouise

Quote from: HappyMoni on December 04, 2016, 07:44:26 PM
Hi Brenda,
   Sorry, I was out of town. I really liked your letter. You are an inspiring person and I hope you will stick around here at Susan's. I have been extremely lucky not having experienced the nasty comment or laugh (maybe a stare or snicker a time or two.) Either people here are conservative but tolerant,  or I pass better than I think I do. I am also fortunate to work in a school for kids with special needs, so my workplace has been wonderful as far as being accepting. Guess when someone gets nasty it will hit hard. I have an eye to educating people as well. I am very open to questions from people. I think it is the best way to gain allies and show folks that we are real, feeling people who bleed red blood like everyone else.
Moni

Hi Moni, I think you look better than I do. As long as you appear confident and look like you belong where you are, no one will question it. I attended a community college for several years and I was a club officer to two clubs and at one time a senator, elected by the students.  I never had a problem with any of the girls. I was just one of them. I always say you only have one life to live. So live it and don't hide it.

With love, ReubyLouise

Thanks Tori for posting this and for all the other members and guests posting on here. I have really enjoyed it.

With love, ReubyLouise

Tori - Your opening post was amazing.  I never read this thread because I was never a guest.  I joined on my first visit having been on a different forum in the past.

I wish every guest read your opening post.  It was everything I have always wanted to say to guests.  I am glad that as of this posting there are 31,000 views.

Well done.

Quote from: KimOct on February 25, 2019, 02:31:27 AM
Tori - Your opening post was amazing.  I never read this thread because I was never a guest.  I joined on my first visit having been on a different forum in the past.

I wish every guest read your opening post.  It was everything I have always wanted to say to guests.  I am glad that as of this posting there are 31,000 views.

Well done.

Thank you for bumping this up Kim.
I am like you, I had not read it!  And it is so very true!

Thank you Tori for writing this!

With all the crazy things that happen in my head since I was younger, it's amazing to see people who seem to understand what this feeling is. Some days I feel like I can't go on. Life is a lie and I can't change it. Why was I so stupid to not have just pushed through my feelings as a teenager taken the steps when I had an opportunity to. I was afraid to death then and frankly looking back had almost nothing to lose. Now I have my family to lose, that's very scary. In the end you can't go back and change the past. All you can do is keep moving forward with today. Thanks to all who post and let me see there are others.