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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by davina61 - Today at 03:14:53 AM

Yes if you get invited to the wedding you will have to buy a posh dress, something else to worry about (just kidding dear!!)

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Fun and Games / Re: Single Word Association Ga...

Last post by davina61 - Today at 03:08:09 AM

worms

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Fun and Games / Re: Two Word Association Game ...

Last post by davina61 - Today at 03:07:27 AM

owl  howl

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Member Blogs / Re: Courtney's life begins her...

Last post by Paulie - Yesterday at 11:24:59 PM

Dear Courtney,

Thanks for sharing your Keystone story, I love happy endings.

Warm Regards,
Paulie.

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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by imallie - Yesterday at 10:23:49 PM

I said something similar when invited for my parents' 50th wedding anniversary. I don't want the attention on me asking questions and such. That wasn't the point of getting together. Turns out my parents didn't even want a family celebration. They went alone to dinner, drove through Rocky Mountain National Park (their favorite), and were home by dark.

Sounds like a lovely way to celebrate a long successful marriage, Lori!

One thing that has been on my mind, mostly because next up is telling our friends, is that one of my oldest and dearest friends (we each served as best man at each other's wedding if that tells you anything) has a son who is getting married this summer.

That seems "fraught" to say the least. But I am not going to waste time now worrying about it. Those were the kinds of things, however, that before starting therapy, back when I thought I would shoulder this burden on my own for the rest of my life... that I would list as the "reasons" I could not tell anyone.

Because admitting who I am and taking steps to live that way would make life messy and complicated.

But what I've come to realize?

When I look back at my life up to this point, most of my favorite memories either start, finish or at least involve "messy" and/or "complicated."  And so long as I always make sure to keep the feelings of those around me at top of mind, I shouldn't fear it.

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Arts & Entertainment News / Re: Judith Butler Knows What M...

Last post by LoriDee - Yesterday at 09:58:18 PM

I don't know the total number of athletes in schools in South Dakota, but we only had one that was transgender. And yet Queen Kristi Noem issued Executive Orders to ban transgender athletes from girls' sports. The NCAA then informed the Queen that since her policy violates the NCAA policy of inclusion and non-discrimination, they would no longer hold any competitions in this state. The legislature panicked because our state lives off sales tax revenue (no state income tax). The state would lose millions of tourist dollars. Queen Kristi gave in and dropped the EOs.

All over ONE transgender athlete in school sports.

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Member Blogs / Re: Courtney's life begins her...

Last post by LoriDee - Yesterday at 09:41:41 PM

That is a wonderful story, Courtney. I know that feeling of putting on a wig and seeing that woman in the mirror. Wow, she is gorgeous! Oh, that's me. I see me in there!

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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by LoriDee - Yesterday at 09:34:35 PM

I said something similar when invited for my parents' 50th wedding anniversary. I don't want the attention on me asking questions and such. That wasn't the point of getting together. Turns out my parents didn't even want a family celebration. They went alone to dinner, drove through Rocky Mountain National Park (their favorite), and were home by dark.

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Member Blogs / Re: A day in the life of Jessi...

Last post by Jessica_K - Yesterday at 08:51:45 PM

It's 2:30am and I am wide awake again.

I know I am depressed and this is why I cannot sleep. Things here in the UK are getting worse and worse. Every day the press are doing hatchet jobs against trans people, they are now going after the doctors that help, attempting ton force them to stop and storing up the mob to shut them down.

The latest is going after one of the rare GP's that proscribe HRT and blockers to under 25's. The whole practice is pro trans, but The Telegraph picks on the tdoctor that just happens to be trans himself implying he is corrupting the children. Day after day it's relentless.

MP, are calling for a public enquiry into the adult trans care with the obvious fit up that was done by the Cass report to ban trans care for adults. They are going after the gender rights act, the UK human rights act. It's open season on trans people who just want to be left alone.

There is no one on our side, and those that are hounded by the press and the government. It's big business from the US that's funding the hatred. The same that has taken over the right wing GOP states.

I waited so long to start to live my life as I wanted. I thought the tide had turned, gay marriage had pushed the way. Rights for trans people meant I would not lose my job, be discriminated against, forced out of my house, these were the things of the past. But it's all likely to come back.

And guess what? Some of the worse anti trans people are gay and lesbian. You would really think that with what they went through would mean they were sympathetic to us.

I really hope this all goes away, never happens, all blows over in time. But time is not on my side.

I am glad I have here to write my story. One day I will not be here and at least I have it written down.

Jessica

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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by imallie - Yesterday at 08:21:51 PM

Two nearly immediate responses - both really loving and wonderful. So that's nice.

As much as anything it's nice they were emails to the both of us (which was the goal of the way this version of the email was crafted) and hopefully will not blow up my wife's day tomorrow. Love and support are great, but hopefully she isn't inundated with sibs trying to call.

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Oh by the way, speaking of people reaching out to my wife...

My niece (she of two weekend's ago gender reveal) reached out to her today to discuss the baby shower. And she said to tell me that I'm more than welcome to come and she'd love to have me there if I wanted to be there... and all wonderful stuff.

My wife always describes those things as being about as much fun as a root canal. So while I greatly appreciate her thinking of me, of course I would really have no interest in going. Plus, in all honesty, my going would do nothing but draw attention from my niece... and while I know she is inviting me, that's still not very nice.

A year from now? Were the same invitation offered? It might be a different discussion and result. But for now it's a clear "very flattering to be asked, but I don't think it's a good idea."