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General Discussions => General discussions => Topic started by: Jessica on July 13, 2018, 08:55:13 PM

Title: Surgery and friends
Post by: Jessica on July 13, 2018, 08:55:13 PM
Hi friends 🙋‍♀️ I wanted to bring up a subject that may have an understanding following here.
Will you or do you have a friend that will be needing surgery in the future?
I'm certain some of us do, if not up close and personal, at least on line.
It can be extra hard for people that have lost relationships, support or mobility.
What can be a blessing, is for a friend to reach out to someone that may wish they had the energy to make a healthy meal, to get to an appointment, to hold someone's hand.
I understand of course that we are spread far and wide here at Susan's Place and only some are able to do something in person.  But if you're able to help someone after a surgery, with a meal, with a ride, with a hand, it would be a tremendous help to them.

Hugs and smiles, Jessica 💁‍♀️
Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: Dena on July 13, 2018, 10:18:20 PM
I have Phoenix covered for those who ask. While I still work, with sufficient warning I can usually rework my schedule. In addition I make sure I obey all the rules of the hospital so I am always welcome and can stay as late as needed. The hospital is good and takes care of your needs but 8-10 days in the hospital can get pretty boring without company.
Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: JudiBlueEyes on July 13, 2018, 10:23:47 PM
Great Idea Jessica!   Not everyone gets the support they desire or need.  I had reached out to a couple of friends when they had surgery.   
Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: Jessica on July 13, 2018, 10:40:38 PM
Just dropped this off to a friend (cis-female) who had a double mastectomy two weeks ago.

(https://i.imgur.com/UHcpJ93.jpg)

Saltimbocca, roasted squash with red onions, asparagus ravioli w/ pesto, baguette, side of Caesar salad, and...
Lemoncello/catalope Panna Cotta.  Homemade lemoncello as an aperitif digestif.

(https://i.imgur.com/2Wm5pBv.jpg)
Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: Northern Star Girl on July 14, 2018, 02:16:49 AM
@Jessica
Dear Jess :   A very kind action and wonderful thing to do for your friend...  from what you described and also looking at the meal that you prepared for them... you are to be commended for having a heart for helping and comforting.  (the visual presentation of your food preparation looks absolutely amazing... nicely done Chef Jess)

This is obviously a tremendous encouragement for not only your friend, but also for those of us that are learning about your kind and sympathetic heart for others in need.
You have set the bar very high and at the same time giving your readers wonderful ideas of how to help the ones that they know in similar situations.   You are a great example.... THANK YOU.

Thank you for your posting.
Wishing you well as always...
HUGS and HUGS,
Danielle
Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: Cindy on July 14, 2018, 03:07:49 AM

A lovely post and thought Jessica.

I was most certainly buoyed by the online support from everyone here and by visits from dear friends that I have made here when I had my cancer surgery.

Title: Re: Surgery and friends
Post by: Jessica on July 14, 2018, 09:02:27 PM
@Cindy @Alaskan Danielle

Doing a kind act for anyone is the face of humanity at it's best.  In these days of what appears to be "me" centric, it's even more vital to help one another.  Cindy points out that even an online hello can mean the world to a person in need of any contact with another living soul.  It is as easy as that to raise spirits of those that may find it difficult to even move about.  And there are meal services that can delivery a meal to a distant friend, as a way to lend a hand while they are recuperating. 
So Danielle says the bar is set high, I say the bar is too low and it takes all that are able to lift us up to a higher standard.

If you are someone that may find yourself in need of help after surgery, reach out to friends far and wide, you may be surprised how much can be done. 


Hugs and smiles, Jessica