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Title: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 02:16:07 PM
Just wanted to let everyone know I went full time on the 7th which was just short of 8 months hrt!!So far so good [emoji4] no misgendering yet but I have gotten a few wtf looks but that's okay!

Had an old high school friend (I graduated in 2010 see pic below) happen to be my waiter last night and he didn't recognize it was me! He knew my parents though so he asked me if I was Josh's ( my old name) sister and how Josh was lol!

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Northern Star Girl on September 21, 2018, 02:19:51 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 02:16:07 PM
Just wanted to let everyone know I went full time on the 7th yay!! So far so good :) no misgendering yet but I have gotten a few wtf looks but that's okay!

Had an old high school friend as a waiter last night and he didn't recognize it was me! He knew my parents though so he asked me if I was Josh's ( my old name) sister and how he was lol!

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@Courtney.lane408
Wow-whee............ this is terrific news ...
... You look absolutely beautiful as Courtney,
you have so much now to look forward to now that "Josh" is gone.

I will be eagerly following your updates here on the forums as you feel free to post them.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: EdLynn on September 21, 2018, 02:43:13 PM
I can't imagine anyone mis-gendering you if you look like that! <3

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Another Nikki on September 21, 2018, 03:18:56 PM
Congrats!  You will be fine :)
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: KathyLauren on September 21, 2018, 03:43:07 PM
Congratulations on going full-time, on getting correctly gendered, and on your old high school friend/waiter not recognizing you!  You are on a roll!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Veronica A on September 21, 2018, 03:55:47 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 02:16:07 PM
Just wanted to let everyone know I went full time on the 7th yay!! So far so good :) no misgendering yet but I have gotten a few wtf looks but that's okay!

Had an old high school friend as a waiter last night and he didn't recognize it was me! He knew my parents though so he asked me if I was Josh's ( my old name) sister and how he was lol!

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wow, i would nto be able to tell at all. :)
Title: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 04:14:30 PM
Quote from: Veronica A on September 21, 2018, 03:55:47 PM
wow, i would nto be able to tell at all. [emoji4]
Thanks! I really need to even out the tan line on my arms, way to much golf as a guy this summer!


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: cluck1992 on September 21, 2018, 07:10:46 PM
Congrats!!

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Laurie on September 21, 2018, 07:27:26 PM
Congratulations Courtney ! Going full time is a huge step and I am happy for you that you were able to do this. You look wonderful and happy too!

Hugs,
   Laurie
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Charlie Nicki on September 21, 2018, 07:40:31 PM
Congratulations! You look great.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: TonyaW on September 21, 2018, 10:35:06 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 04:14:30 PM
Thanks! I really need to even out the tan line on my arms, way to much golf as a guy this summer!


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First,
there is no such thing as too much golf.

Second,
The tan lines are a little higher up (womens sleeves and shorts tend to be shorter) but I still got golfers tan this year,  my first full season as Tonya.

Third,
Congratulations on full time.

Fourth,
If the 2010 picture is what you looked like the last time your waiter saw you, no way he would have recognized you.

Last,
Everyone you golf with that you come out to will ask you if you're going to hit from the red tees now.  I told them I would when they can out drive me.

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 10:47:59 PM
Quote from: TonyaW on September 21, 2018, 10:35:06 PM
First,
there is no such thing as too much golf.

Second,
The tan lines are a little higher up (womens sleeves and shorts tend to be shorter) but I still got golfers tan this year,  my first full season as Tonya.

Third,
Congratulations on full time.

Fourth,
If the 2010 picture is what you looked like the last time your waiter saw you, no way he would have recognized you.

Last,
Everyone you golf with that you come out to will ask you if you're going to hit from the red tees now.  I told them I would when they can out drive me.

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Thanks and I bet they are! I have been playing from the whites since I still drive it like 230 at least for now which have already lost 30 yards from last summer when I was hitting it 260 it's a cool way to measure muscle loss progress. And yeah the tan line are just kinda manly right now lol that's what I meant darn long men's polos. I think transition has actually been good for my golf game I finally feel no pressure to try and hit the ball hard and I'm just swinging nice and easy and it works haha! Shot a 76 today⛳️


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Sonja on September 21, 2018, 11:12:30 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 02:16:07 PM
Just wanted to let everyone know I went full time on the 7th which was just short of 8 months hrt!!So far so good [emoji4] no misgendering yet but I have gotten a few wtf looks but that's okay!

Had an old high school friend (I graduated in 2010 see pic below) happen to be my waiter last night and he didn't recognize it was me! He knew my parents though so he asked me if I was Josh's ( my old name) sister and how Josh was lol!
@Courtney.lane408  - As stated in the fabulous thread - you look amazing! BUT now I'm really curious..What did you or your parents say to the waiter? "Yes I'm his sister Courtney" ?  Love the dress and the colour it really suits you!

Sonja.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: TonyaW on September 22, 2018, 08:10:51 AM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 10:47:59 PM
Thanks and I bet they are! I have been playing from the whites since I still drive it like 230 at least for now which have already lost 30 yards from last summer when I was hitting it 260 it's a cool way to measure muscle loss progress. And yeah the tan line are just kinda manly right now lol that's what I meant darn long men's polos. I think transition has actually been good for my golf game I finally feel no pressure to try and hit the ball hard and I'm just swinging nice and easy and it works haha! Shot a 76 today[emoji466]️


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Hey Courtney, 

76 is awesome.

I'm actually hitting my driver a bit farther than last year (19 months HRT now). I'm 56 so my distance loss was during the previous 5 years or so due to age rather than HRT.  Nothing extensive, but I kept up with regular weight workouts last winter to try to offset the HRT effects on my golf game.

I can still pop one 250 now and then but 230 is a good drive for me also. 20 years ago 250 was an average with  275 or so a top.  I couldn't chip back then so my handicap is lower now. Way lower this year because when I changed my name they changed my classification to female also.

And oh yeah, what did you say to the waiter?


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Allison S on September 22, 2018, 10:16:03 AM
I wanna know the waiter's response too, if you did tell him lol
Great job with going full time! Wish my hair was naturally straight

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Title: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 22, 2018, 10:59:09 AM
Okay so since everyone is asking [emoji4] the convo went down like this.

He comes to the table and it's hello ladies, can I take your order miss ect, and I'm like trying to contain my smile because I realize he doesn't know it's me. So I had just finished eating my salad but we are waiting on our food still and he comes over to fill our water and as he is filling up mine he goes,

Waiter:"So I have to ask, are you a [lastname] girl, like are you Allison's sister?

Me: "Yeah I'm her older sister! "

Waiter: "Oh nice I knew your brother Josh in high school, were you like a couple grades below us?

Me:" ahhh no I was in your grade"

Waiter: " oh really are you and josh twins I never remember you did you go to like a different school, how is josh by the way?"

Me: " ahh Actually he is really good but he is me haha lol awkward smile. Hey Alex how are you lol"

Waiter: gets super red is like omg omg I had no idea you look great I thought you looked similar random babbling that is hard to make out

He was so nervous every time he came back haha I was like ahh don't be sorry you just made me so happy you have no idea but he was petrified lol.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: KathyLauren on September 22, 2018, 11:11:44 AM
Wow, Courtney, that story is great!  The poor guy must have been embarassed as heck, but so affirming for you!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 22, 2018, 11:12:20 AM
Also I'm gong to my first pride today so nervous!!(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180922/ca9f2baad3ec5ce44d964c9e2b8a7f05.jpg)


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: TonyaW on September 22, 2018, 11:22:31 AM
You handled the conversation with the waiter flawlessly.  I think you'll do fine at Pride. 

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Laurie on September 22, 2018, 12:00:25 PM
  Great story Courtney. I bet you have a huge grin evertime you think about it.

Hugs,
  Laurie
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: amandam on September 22, 2018, 12:55:34 PM
Your before and after pics, wow! It's just amazing.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: randim on September 22, 2018, 01:36:24 PM
Courtney, your transformation is simply amazing.  You come across as a 100 percent lovely young lady.  Congrats!  76 huh?  (20+ handicapper ponders)  I, I, I'm afraid I might hate you.  :laugh: 
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: HappyMoni on September 22, 2018, 01:56:44 PM
Congratulations Courtney, I am very happy for you. I loved your story with your waiter. You handled it beautifully. Don't worry about that low golf score, with some practice, I'm sure you can raise it. Enjoy the PRIDE!
Moni
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Allison S on September 22, 2018, 02:37:37 PM
Aw I wonder if he was so flustered because he was thinking how he would ask you out the whole time lol
Now I kinda feel like coming out.. But I guess I don't have to

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Alice (nym) on September 22, 2018, 03:57:15 PM
wow... just wow... what an inspirational post and story. I don't think I will ever stop being amazed at the people I've come into contact with this week.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Veronica A on September 22, 2018, 05:33:42 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 04:14:30 PM
Thanks! I really need to even out the tan line on my arms, way to much golf as a guy this summer!


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never even noticed, ladies play golf too.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Veronica A on September 22, 2018, 05:40:56 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 10:47:59 PM
Thanks and I bet they are! I have been playing from the whites since I still drive it like 230 at least for now which have already lost 30 yards from last summer when I was hitting it 260 it's a cool way to measure muscle loss progress. And yeah the tan line are just kinda manly right now lol that's what I meant darn long men's polos. I think transition has actually been good for my golf game I finally feel no pressure to try and hit the ball hard and I'm just swinging nice and easy and it works haha! Shot a 76 today⛳️


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i love the game myself, tho i gen use blades when i play (what they called here, the head is like just slightly bigger than the ball, mad Dads old set.. :) .. i dont use woods, will only use them when i am flawless with my irons..not there yet..

at the moment i get 300~325 with my 2 iron, 5 iron anywhere from 180~225 ish or soo :)  most of them straight as an arrow.. keep in mind tho i am 6ft 4, 170lbs .. and blades are unforgiving if you try to power swing them, and these ones were made for tall people... my short game tho.. pah...i never got my handicap, i hate absolutely hate being the centre of attention soo never got it done.., i play for fun and relaxing and honestly dont care about my handicap.

looking great, me all filled with envy :)
Title: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on September 23, 2018, 03:14:06 PM
Quote from: HappyMoni on September 22, 2018, 01:56:44 PM
Congratulations Courtney, I am very happy for you. I loved your story with your waiter. You handled it beautifully. Don't worry about that low golf score, with some practice, I'm sure you can raise it. Enjoy the PRIDE!
Moni
Thanks everybody pride was amazing!!!Afterwards we went to a comedy club which was great, and another trans women there even recognized me from that same before and after picture I posted here that I had posted on >-bleeped-< at the same time as well that blew up and went to the top. That was totally cool and such a small world.

After that we went to a lesbian / queer bar in Richmond called babes that was so packed and fun epically since it was pride. That was my first time like going out on the weekend as myself, all I had done so far since coming out was like hang out at friends , go to dinner, go shopping ect and I was so scared! Thank god I had some friends around me to tell me to stop worrying and that I am being crazy thinking I don't pass and I was hot which helped lol. that or maybe it was the shots friends kept buying me to celebrate me coming out. They are way too nice to me.

I met so many new trans people my age and queer people in general, saw a couple old high school girls and a guy who didn't recognize me until I told them so that was fun haha! End up going home at like 3 am after partying all night with a friend of a friend who made me feel so pretty it hurts lol I think I got more compliments last night than my entire life combined before then! Is this even real life haha!?!? [emoji304]❤️[emoji4]last night was the first time I have ever felt truly okay with who I am and that it's okay for me to be queer and I was just so happy.  Deciding to transition 9 months ago was by far the best decision I have ever made in my life!

Now to beat the hangover and get a tattoo with my mom and do some shopping!


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: JulieAllana on September 24, 2018, 12:53:35 AM
Wow Courtney,
      You are stunningly beautiful, if only most of us could be so lucky.  You are indeed hot.  Congratulations on going full time.  May you find happiness and love in the coming years as a gorgeous lady.

      Hugs,
            Julie
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Sonja on September 24, 2018, 05:46:17 PM
@Courtney.lane408  - Thanks for sharing Courtney - great stories and well done on going full time - you rock!

Take care,

Sonja.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Allison S on September 24, 2018, 07:20:21 PM
Sounds like so much fun [emoji4] you're going to have many wonderful times I'm sure! Having supportive friends and people around is so important...

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Sonja on September 25, 2018, 08:18:33 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 23, 2018, 03:14:06 PM

Now to beat the hangover and get a tattoo with my mom and do some shopping!

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@Courtney.lane408 WAIT WTF? What tattoo?  You're getting one along with your mum? Wow - got any pics?

Sonja.
Title: Full time!
Post by: jkredman on September 30, 2018, 06:17:37 AM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on September 21, 2018, 04:14:30 PM
Thanks! I really need to even out the tan line on my arms, way to much golf as a guy this summer!


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Courtney:

Congrats & you're gorgeous.

I learned that playing golf  while wearing a bra kept my back straighter.  So I had to adjust my stance.

That said, after playing golf as a guy and a gal, I think us ladies have the advantage because of the bra. 

For that means that if I find myself in a situation where I have to play a round in guy mode - I'm still wearing that bra!!!

Again congrats and you're gorgeous.

Kate




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Title: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
Quote from: Sonja on September 25, 2018, 08:18:33 PM
@Courtney.lane408 WAIT WTF? What tattoo?  You're getting one along with your mum? Wow - got any pics?

Sonja.
Well I ended up chickening out and didn't get one so I ended up just going with my mom to get  hers but yall are gonna love this she is the best mom ever.

So my mom only has one tattoo,one small blue and one small pink butterfly like on her hip that she got about 6 years ago when me and my sister went off to college to signify like her children growing up and going off into the world kinda thing.

So she tells me the other week she is gonna get a tattoo and since I had been talking about getting one I should come to and we can get them together. So we get there and then she starts explaining to the girl what she wants and I just started balling. She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Charlie Nicki on October 01, 2018, 11:51:43 AM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
Well I ended up chickening out and didn't get one so I ended up just going with my mom to get  hers but yall are gonna love this she is the best mom ever.

So my mom only has one tattoo,one small blue and one small pink butterfly like on her hip that she got about 6 years ago when me and my sister went of to college to signify like her children growing up and going off into the world kinda thing.

So she tells me the other week she is gonna get a tattoo and since I had been talking about getting one I should come to and we can get them together. So we get there and then she starts explaining to the girl what she wants and I just started balling. She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!


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Aww that's very sweet!!!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Jin on October 01, 2018, 11:57:31 AM
Way to go Courtney,
You are a stunning woman and your light hearted response to an old aquaintance must have been fun to watch him stammer!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Faith on October 01, 2018, 12:01:53 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
Well I ended up chickening out and didn't get one so I ended up just going with my mom to get  hers but yall are gonna love this she is the best mom ever.

So my mom only has one tattoo,one small blue and one small pink butterfly like on her hip that she got about 6 years ago when me and my sister went of to college to signify like her children growing up and going off into the world kinda thing.

So she tells me the other week she is gonna get a tattoo and since I had been talking about getting one I should come to and we can get them together. So we get there and then she starts explaining to the girl what she wants and I just started balling. She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!


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balling? me too now, that's so awesome! I know I overuse awesome in my posts, but I mean it.
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: KathyLauren on October 01, 2018, 01:11:13 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!
OMG, you have the best mother!  What a wonderful thing to do!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: TonyaW on October 02, 2018, 08:25:27 AM


Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
So she tells me the other week she is gonna get a tattoo and since I had been talking about getting one I should come to and we can get them together. So we get there and then she starts explaining to the girl what she wants and I just started balling. She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!


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That is just plain awesome amazing and wonderful. 

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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Clairetheanalytical on October 02, 2018, 02:49:59 PM
Omg what a TRANSformation! Honestly Courtney you're total goals.... I'm at around 8mths on HRT and still very much in the closet. If I can get results like you I'll be sooo happy, you pass 100% so stunning! :D

Congrats on starting your new life girl!
Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Courtney.lane408 on October 02, 2018, 04:36:28 PM
Quote from: Clairetheanalytical on October 02, 2018, 02:49:59 PM
Omg what a TRANSformation! Honestly Courtney you're total goals.... I'm at around 8mths on HRT and still very much in the closet. If I can get results like you I'll be sooo happy, you pass 100% so stunning! :D

Congrats on starting your new life girl!
Awh thanks I hope you get where you want to be to! And that's okay everyone does this at their own pace! Excited for you when you do get to go full time :)


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Title: Re: Full time!
Post by: Sonja on October 08, 2018, 08:46:56 PM
Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on October 01, 2018, 11:45:52 AM
Well I ended up chickening out and didn't get one so I ended up just going with my mom to get  hers but yall are gonna love this she is the best mom ever.

So my mom only has one tattoo,one small blue and one small pink butterfly like on her hip that she got about 6 years ago when me and my sister went off to college to signify like her children growing up and going off into the world kinda thing.

So she tells me the other week she is gonna get a tattoo and since I had been talking about getting one I should come to and we can get them together. So we get there and then she starts explaining to the girl what she wants and I just started balling. She is there to get the blue butterfly changed to pink..... since she now has two daughters!!


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@Courtney.lane408

Wow your mum sounds really nice - that is super awesome! 

and now time is counting away! - not long till your consult!  next week?

Take care,

Sonja.