Im not gonna lie, there have been a few guys who I thought were cute. One while I was working on day. There was another guy I couldnt stop looking at while I was out one day. He was kinda like well hot. I left soon after. I def wanted to talk to him while I was there.
Usually Im into females but every so often there is a guy Ill really like.
Nowt wrong with that is all I will say :)
Quote from: Larisa1983 on February 18, 2018, 06:56:05 AM
Im not gonna lie, there have been a few guys who I thought were cute.
I find myself doing the
SAME THING!
Positively
SHAMEFUL for a girl my age! I suppose sexual orientation in large part has 'to do' with past experience, if any(?), have found 'gay guys' to be a good first starting point!
Guess you aren't quite as gay as you first thought, lol. But you're in good company.
Quote from: Kiera on February 18, 2018, 07:17:24 AM
I find myself doing the SAME THING!
Positively SHAMEFUL for a girl my age! I suppose sexual orientation in large part has 'to do' with past experience, if any(?), have found 'gay guys' to be a good first starting point!
Ya the one guy I couldnt stop looking over at him. I had to try to stop because it was gonna freak him out but he was just so cute!! I got over him once I left. He was like perfect like that gentleman type like a nick jonas type!
I had to watch myself so I didn't gawk at hot guys once I started dating Tristan. It wasn't that I thought they were hotter than him or that I wanted to hook up with them it was just force of habit. I've always stared at really hot guys even before I transitioned which could be touchy if the guy I was hawking knew I was a boy. Lol. I don't know what it is about some women who openly stare at other women's men. No matter how hot a guy is I don't look at him if he's with a woman. But I notice women staring at Tristan and even smiling at him and acting flirty when they see I'm right there! WTF?
I've always preferred men slightly more than Women. Nothing wrong with playing on both sides of the fence.
I used to only look at females now I am looking at male more than female. Some of the girls I work with notice me checking out some of the males that show up at my work. The laugh at me and say stuff like (so do you like what you see, ya he is cute you should go talk to him, look no ring. I was caught bitting my lip day dreaming and starring at a really cute guy
Quote from: Larisa1983 on February 18, 2018, 06:56:05 AM
Im not gonna lie, there have been a few guys who I thought were cute. One while I was working on day. There was another guy I couldnt stop looking at while I was out one day. He was kinda like well hot. I left soon after. I def wanted to talk to him while I was there.
Usually Im into females but every so often there is a guy Ill really like.
I always thought transgender had nothing to do with sexual preference. That most don't change their sexual preference just by transitioning. If you were totally sexually attracted to only females, no time thought of guys that way, that transitioning don't automatically change your sexual preference or does it??
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From high school through my thirties I had a close friend and we went everywhere together. When I got married, I missed him. We would go out together ostensibly to check out the girls but I never danced with any of them. I was just happy to be with him. I never thought of him sexually at least overtly. My first wife did not like that I was always talking about him and thought that she should be the center of my attention. I never realized just how off putting this would be.
I'm bisexual and lean far more heavily to females however I am attracted to a certain male body part. I for the most part am not attracted to men in the least however I know that hrt can change things. I suspect I will become much more bi. like 50/50 instead of the 80/20 I am now.
Ive never liked mens smell. I love the way female smell so we'll see lol
--Sasha
I have no interest in men at this time I don't see this changing but if it does it does it would seem natural then so if it happens i will accept it I am transitioning for me and not for who I like
bobbisue :)
I think it is great how different we all are. 😊 I love the way men smell, always have. Even as a teen when I was afraid that I might be gay, I loved it. Hated that I loved it actually. Lol, I spent so much of my life hating the way men made me feel. What a waste of time. 😁 There was a guy that I used to compete against, complete jerk when it came to sportsmanship and no one liked him. His voice made my insides churn. He would stand behind me to watch me play after our match was done, lean down and look over my shoulder, UGH! The churning turned into a warmth that spread out and intensified until my face was on fire. This gorgeous a hole did not belong in a room full of nerds.
Yep, I like men. 😊 I don't feel guilty or evil about it anymore either.
Nor should you! ;)
I read posts here like this and about other girls here getting excited about dates with guys etc, but I can't ever picture myself in their place. I'm happy for them but it's just not me. I still like girls only, one in particular, after a year of HRT.
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Women are nice to look at, but I love daydreaming about my future husband.
I was never attracted to guys and was only interested in girls until I was over a year and a half into my transition. I was 55 before I ever had a thought about a guy. I haven't been with a woman in about a year now but have been with a number of guys. It's funny how many young guys want to be with an older woman.
Before transitioning, I was attracted to both men and women, but men more so. Since starting hormones I've definitely noticed a stronger attraction to men so I personally think that hormones can play a factor in sexual orientation if there is already some fluidity there in the first place.
Quote from: AprilRyan on February 21, 2018, 05:00:45 AM
Before transitioning, I was attracted to both men and women, but men more so. Since starting hormones I've definitely noticed a stronger attraction to men so I personally think that hormones can play a factor in sexual orientation if there is already some fluidity there in the first place.
That's what I am afraid of
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Why are you afraid. If there's no attraction now you might not ever be but once on hrt if you do become attracted you might not care. There's no shame in it. If you do have some talk with a therapist :)
-- Sasha
There's no shame in being a greedy bi/pan sort of person.
Unless of course you're afraid of losing attraction to someone you're already committed to. In which case I wouldn't be terribly afraid.
When you've had rice you want noodles next time
I never ever not even once thought about liking a guy. But.......... That was before HRT. Now I dunno.. There is this beautive native american flute player who just makes my insides turn to jello. I would die to have his arms wrapped around me. His name is Alexandro Querevalú. Here is one of his youtube videos.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93wGaGFUnTs
Love
Bobbie LeAnn
Quote from: I Am Jess on February 21, 2018, 02:42:18 AM
It's funny how many young guys want to be with an older woman.
(https://i.imgur.com/a8d4K7d.jpg)
Love
Bobbie LeAnn
Let me be honest... I am pansexual. I find people of various genders attractive. ;)
I'm bumping an old(er) thread here...
I don't think I have an attraction to females. But I am attracted to men and males who express their femininity without altering their physical bodies. I'm not attracted to a crossdresser, but a few pieces or clothing is okay. I also like guys who can appear slightly andro or metrosexual. But I tend to attract men that are tall and muscular- which is fine since I'm 5'7" and soft bodied, so the contrast makes me feel more feminine.
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I am attracted to people... just so happens most of the nice people I meet are women. Men tend to be more selfish.
I have realised since transitioning that I have always dated women who were strong and quite masculine in their energy. I didn't understand it before. But I think now it makes sense. I couldn't date a really feminine girl because I was the one wanting to be feminine. Now I have a fantasy that I want a male partner because he would hold me and be stronger than me and I could be the feminine one. But not because I find them sexual attractive as such. But when I was about 10 I used to muck around with boys (be naked) but was not biased as I would have mucked around with a girl if there was one in my circle. So I think If the opportunity arises and I Can sustain an attraction and connection with a man I will kiss one. I find it so fascinating . (It's like catching a unicorn) It's like my own sexuality is a mystery to me and I am uncovering it . although 45 years on I need to get a move on.... lol. When I think about me with a man I giggle.... How amazing this world is and these things we live inside.... out bodies...... Love to you all..... -Cloé
P.s. the best part about being a trans woman is I have now given my self permission to be whoever I am and try what ever I need to do express my inner most being......
Pre-transition I did not realize that there were as many women out there that are attracted to other women.
Since I came out full-time almost 2 years ago I have attracted several suitors and romantic interests, both men and women.
I have dated both guys and gals and I can say that all things being equal I do not have a preference for either one.... the guy that I am dating is a sweet and considerate fellow, he was sweet on me before he knew I was a trans-woman... and the 2 gals that are interested in me are equally sweet and considerate.... it is difficult to say whether I like gals more or guys more.... both have their unique qualities (as I do).
It's all in the personalities and things and views that we have in common.
Danielle
Quote from: afantasticwoman on October 28, 2018, 05:54:11 PM
I have realised since transitioning that I have always dated women who were strong and quite masculine in their energy. I didn't understand it before. But I think now it makes sense. I couldn't date a really feminine girl because I was the one wanting to be feminine. Now I have a fantasy that I want a male partner because he would hold me and be stronger than me and I could be the feminine one. But not because I find them sexual attractive as such. But when I was about 10 I used to muck around with boys (be naked) but was not biased as I would have mucked around with a girl if there was one in my circle. So I think If the opportunity arises and I Can sustain an attraction and connection with a man I will kiss one. I find it so fascinating . (It's like catching a unicorn) It's like my own sexuality is a mystery to me and I am uncovering it . although 45 years on I need to get a move on.... lol. When I think about me with a man I giggle.... How amazing this world is and these things we live inside.... out bodies...... Love to you all..... -Cloé
P.s. the best part about being a trans woman is I have now given my self permission to be whoever I am and try what ever I need to do express my inner most being......
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Quote from: afantasticwoman on October 28, 2018, 05:54:11 PM
I have realised since transitioning that I have always dated women who were strong and quite masculine in their energy. I didn't understand it before. But I think now it makes sense. I couldn't date a really feminine girl because I was the one wanting to be feminine. Now I have a fantasy that I want a male partner because he would hold me and be stronger than me and I could be the feminine one. But not because I find them sexual attractive as such. But when I was about 10 I used to muck around with boys (be naked) but was not biased as I would have mucked around with a girl if there was one in my circle. So I think If the opportunity arises and I Can sustain an attraction and connection with a man I will kiss one. I find it so fascinating . (It's like catching a unicorn) It's like my own sexuality is a mystery to me and I am uncovering it . although 45 years on I need to get a move on.... lol. When I think about me with a man I giggle.... How amazing this world is and these things we live inside.... out bodies...... Love to you all..... -Cloé
P.s. the best part about being a trans woman is I have now given my self permission to be whoever I am and try what ever I need to do express my inner most being......
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I was interested in women only, all my adult life, and am still only interested in females. I consider myself to be a lesbian. In fact, my psychologist is of the opinion that i was more female than male all my life (I am intersex), and because of this I was always a lesbian. Fine with me, and hope that no hormones will change anything about this orientation!
Quote from: SashaHyde on February 21, 2018, 01:43:38 PM
Why are you afraid. If there's no attraction now you might not ever be but once on hrt if you do become attracted you might not care. There's no shame in it. If you do have some talk with a therapist :)
-- Sasha
I've wondered what would happen if I started hormone therapy. Even bigger implications for my marriage if I started being primarily attracted to men
Quote from: Sarah77 on October 29, 2018, 09:47:05 AM
I've wondered what would happen if I started hormone therapy. Even bigger implications for my marriage if I started being primarily attracted to men
@Sarah77 Dear Sarah:First and foremost, if you are committed to making your marriage work and perhaps through couples counseling and continued communication with her, that would be your priority.
Being attracted to anyone else, man or woman would not be, should not be, a factor.... if you do some reading of others threads here of married transitioners you will discover that many the marriages that are still intact... not always successful but the successes here on the forums with our married members should be a good motive for you.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Quote from: Sarah77 on October 29, 2018, 09:47:05 AM
I've wondered what would happen if I started hormone therapy. Even bigger implications for my marriage if I started being primarily attracted to men
I've been wondering the same thing lately as well.
For most of my life, I've only been attracted to women. Recently, though, when I've seriously been thinking of transitioning - and hormone therapy - I find myself thinking that I'd be attracted to some men. Or, at least, that would be a possibility, if I really, finally could see myself as female, instead of struggling with my identity as I do today. I wonder if I could resolve that struggle, and really, truly see myself as I want to be, if that would be true. And if I'd still be attracted to other women as well. I honestly don't know.