I am non-op but would also like to stealth once I have had my BA and have graduated from uni.
Are there other trans women here who also are stealth and non-op simultaneously?
I will obviously have to come out to my partner at one time, but I prefer to be stealth around colleagues,... once I graduated.
I'm passable but currently open about my trans status. I would like to change that openness because I prefer the treatment I get when people don't know.
Being transgender is not something I'm ashamed of but it's not something that I think is worth to mention every single time either. You know?
Sure!
I was effectively 'stealth' to most people for a year, living fulltime as myself without any surgeries from October 2016 to October 2017. I was 'out' to two groups, a community service club I was president of when I went fulltime, and a church where I have been doing educational work.
In my condo, in restaurants, going to HOA board meetings, clubs, teaching classes, and regular daily activity, I disclosed to nobody, and was almost always treated as the woman I am. A modest amount of preparation before going out, and some reasonable choices in wardrobe had me quite passable.
I did get 'read' a couple of times, by homeless people with their hyper-awareness of their surroundings. That is a risk with or without surgery, though.