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Cooking / Re: What are you having for di...
Last post by davina61 - Today at 01:15:22 PM
Pork and mushroom curry with a sort of veg biryani that I made up.
#2
Member Blogs / Re: Sarah B's Story
Last post by LoriDee - Today at 11:14:45 AM
I am like you in that I disapprove of anything being stored "in the Cloud" or any Microsoft documents. The same goes for Google Docs. Although my presence on the internet (my profile here, social media, and even my personal website) clearly states that I am transgender, I do not allow Google or other search engines permission to index those profiles.

Less than a year after my legal name change, I applied for this apartment. They do background checks (outstanding warrants, sex offender registry, and credit reports). Since my name change was fairly "new" in these systems, I also presented a certified copy of the name change order to clarify any discrepancies in case some system had my old name tied to my social security number.

Now it has been almost two years since the name change, I do not allow any references to the old name and just state "That is not me".  I am still fighting with the VA to remove any references to my dead name in my records, but that battle is ongoing. I suspect that the reason someone else's data is showing in my records is due to them coincidently sharing that name. For some unknown reason, they are unwilling or unable to just go in and delete the old references. But once that happens, like you, it will be a clean slate going forward.

What goes on in our private lives is no one's business, especially the government.
#3
Introductions / Re: And I'm back :D
Last post by Northern Star Girl - Today at 10:54:26 AM
@allylioness   cc: @LoriDee  @Sarah B

Dear Ally:  

Thank you for responding to my confidential Email with the information
that I had requested.

I was hoping that not only would I be able to find your previous member
account but also I was hoping to be able to find all of your old postings
and bring them over to your new and present member account
      HOWEVER
even though I have been able to recover some older information on other
member accounts it appears that because of the timing and activity of
your older account that all of that older previous information was completely
lost due to the January 1st site crash.

I am encouraging you to get re-involved in the Susan's Place Forum with
your present new member account.  Consider that you got a "do-over" reset
button so you can start afresh with establishing your story and finding
old friends and making new like-minded friends here on the forum.

Any questions... please contact me.

Warmest Regards,
Danielle
[Northern Star Girl]
The Forum Administrator      (Susan's Place)
#4
Member Blogs / Re: Sarah B's Story
Last post by Sarah B - Today at 10:44:31 AM
Hi Everyone

Those of you who have been following my postings and Sarah's Story, you will have come across the following or something similar "I'm extremely private person, quite and shy," and I will go out of my way if I can to keep my privacy in regards to my 'medical condition", private.

This is just one way on how I deal with my privacy, the following message is the result of a link sent to me via my phone (cell).  The web page message below is, virtually verbatim;

QuoteHi Sarah, our hospital has you listed for a procedure as requested by your GP in the near future. An essential part of preparing you involves completing this short health questionnaire. We need this to progress your booking, also it may help avoid a lengthy appointment at the hospital.

To get started, ensure you are somewhere you can take the 5 minutes to completes the questionnaire.  Completing the questionnaire may prevent us needing to call you and conduct a more lengthy assessment over the phone.  Please call us should you have any questions, otherwise we look forward to receiving your assessment.

So I click on the link,  I have modified the following statement to remove identifying information and I get the following;

QuotePrivacy statement regarding your personal information.

Personal information provided by you is protected in accordance with the "Information Privacy Acts" in the State of Queensland, (where I live).  Your personal information will be used by authorised officers of the department of health in providing appropriate care to you.  Information you provide to access the Office 365 service, including your personal information, will be transferred to cloud based servers in the USA and tools within the Microsoft Office before being printed and placed in your health record.

Please select one of the following to agree to the privacy statement:

  • Yes
  • No

I wonder what I choose?  That's right after 35 years, my privacy is still paramount so I selected NO.  Why? Stored in cloud base servers, stored in the USA and stored using a Microsoft product.  No way am I going to have personal information stored in the computer system, when it will end up in my personal file anyway.  I sceptical of computer system security, because recent events in Australia like the Medicare,  Optus breaches and where I used to work was hacked.

I received a phone call and provided answers to the questions they asked and I reiterated the information provided, is not to be stored in the computer system.

I keep my privacy private, in other words I do not tell any government department about my 'medical condition' and that includes 'doctors' or any organization as well, except for the few doctors that I have revealed my condition to recently, I emphasize that it is not to be recorded in their computer systems as far as possible.  This ensures I have no hassles whatsoever.

Lets take a step back in time, to when, I changed my life around and the story goes like this, which if you have been following Sarah's Story or posts you would have read about the following;

I legally changed my name over 35 years ago and all forms ever since then.  I have always used my legal name and I have never put down my previous name if it was asked on those forms.  Regardless of any consequences or not.  To give you an indication of what I will do and how strongly I feel in protecting myself, here is a little story.

Approximately three months after changing my name and other certain documents.  I attended my first visit to my psychiatrist and my health care card still had my previous name on it (it took some time for new cards to be issued).  I handed it over and my name was recorded on a patient card and I asked that it not be done.  The receptionist replied it was only temporary until I got my new health care card.  I did not contest it and I understood the reason for it being put down, yes my appointment was in my legal name.

Anyway the receptionist went away and my patient card was still on the desk, I was still thinking how can I get rid of my previous name on it.  I picked the card up and noticed my name was written in pencil, I saw a rubber on the desk and proceeded to erase my previous name very thoroughly.  I then replaced the card back on the desk.  A little while later I went into my consultation and as they say the rest is history.


and another

How did I get around my previous job without any references?  My first job, I was hired as a contractor and I informed the personal consultant about myself and my references. I did not reveal my previous name.  This all occurred on a landline phone and I have realised that is one of the few times in my personal history that I have outed myself.

He found work for me, never saw me and did not know my previous name, and he said not to worry about those references.  After that first job I had my new references and other previous references. I just listed 'available on request'.  Anyway that was a life time ago and I'm now in a completely different profession.

The reason why I have never had any problems per se was because I changed my name and documents as quickly as I could. I did not really have a paper trail prior to changing my name legally, so this helped me immensely.

So when the proverbial question; "previous name?" or "have you been known by a previous name?" arises, I will leave the space empty, tick no, or I do not fill in that question.  This is what I will do.  I consider that if I can get away with it after weighing up the various issues and ramifications involved that I had a previous name,  I will do so.  In fact I have never filled or answered that particular question.  The only two exceptions are obtaining my British passport and my Australian Citizenship Certificate.

These days, its a non issue because the sands of time have forever buried or destroyed, virtually all of the paperwork that ever existed and my previous persona does not exist anymore and this includes the internet as well.

Take care and have a wonderful weekend that is coming your way

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
#5
Same as Chrissy, I haven't needed to change my birth certificate. I have state and federal photo IDs and if I go to get a passport, my old birth certificate and name-change order are sufficient. There is no longer a requirement to document gender change. You choose what you want even if it doesn't match your other documents.
#6
Member Blogs / Re: The Story of Lori
Last post by ChrissyRyan - Today at 09:13:16 AM
I can put "tons of books" on my electronic tablet yet its weight remains constant.

Absolutely amazing.

Hehehe I am a silly woman at times.
#7
Member Blogs / Re: The Story of Lori
Last post by Sarah B - Today at 09:07:09 AM
Hi Everyone

Arriving in Sydney 35 years ago and within 3 months I was living and working as a female.  I had no makeup or voice lessons.  I taught myself and of course there was no YouTube then to learn from.  In addition I dressed appropriately for my age, work and the social occasion.

The only information that I had at the time was a book on plaits and a book on makeup (I'm not sure on this book).  If I do have that book it is still within my collection of books.  I will soon be unpacking my books and when I come across those books I will list those books that helped me no end.

Why after all that time, would I still have those books?  Simple, I love books.

I keep my privacy private, in other words I do not tell any government department about my 'medical condition' and that includes 'doctors' or any organization as well, except for the few doctors that I have revealed my condition to recently, I emphasize that is not to be recorded in their computer systems.  This ensures I have no hassles whatsoever.

Take care and have a wonderful weekend that is coming your way

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
#8
I have not had my documentation changed but when I want to I would like to be able to, wherever I may be in the USA.

I do not seem to need to show my ID much at all except at airports, and very occasionally when I use a credit card that is handed over to a cashier.   Most of the time you can use those credit card readers.
#9
Fun and Games / Re: Two Word Association Game ...
Last post by ChrissyRyan - Today at 08:55:55 AM
Giving receiving
#10
Fun and Games / Re: Single Word Association Ga...
Last post by ChrissyRyan - Today at 08:55:19 AM
Musical