Has anyone had to deal with another person from the LGBT community being an >-bleeped-< and possibly discriminatory another LGBT person?
To give context I've been living in gender neutral housing with my University this past school year. Sadly, my first roommate turned out to be a psychaotic when there was a small miscommunication. They decided to wake up me up early in the morning, scream at me as a way to use me as an emotional punching bag, told me to shut up, and that I should have been grateful for having them wake me up for class. Once they left I immediately emailed my RA because I didn't trust them to not be violent, which turned out to be when I moved out. A day later I discover that my RA she was out of town and didn't take it seriously until I spoke with her the next week. The psychaotic person became extremely possessive by hiding toiletries and separating food, and I couldn't use the kitchen. I was told by the community manager that I would need a police report of me being physically assaulted to have them kicked out. Since I wasn't going to wait for that I decided to move out. The move ended being horrible as they got violent and threw all of my food out. The only thing the RA was required to do was to tell them that it was unfair that they pushed me out and that was it. A real slap on the wrist. This person is gay and I cannot for the life of me understand why they thought acting like was ok. Since then they stare at me when I've passed by which is pretty creepy. Apparently they want to volunteer at the LGBT centers in LA and SF and I don't feel as though I can partipate in community if I they're going to be there. I've been hestiate to talk about this since most people I've talked to just brush it off which invalidates my feelings.
It sounds like they are just a jerk and not discriminating against you for being trans, unless there is more to the story that you are leaving out.
I had a gay retired psychiatrist I was friends with for years that told me I was 'confusing' him the last time I visited him. He's always known i'm a post op.. but apparently he was having issues with me; Either he was attracted to me even though he was gay, or something else which caused him all sorts of internal issues apparently. Needless to say after he told me this I haven't been back to visit with him.. which is sad because we had some common interests including medicine, gardening, etc. I have never EVER been accused of being even remotely 'gay' at least on the male spectrum. Female side, I've been accused of being a lesbian by multiple folks for whatever reasons. Its irritating to me, because I don't exactly act butch, and I certainly don't dress like it. I 'pass' just fine as a female.. and like to wear cute outfits but not too revealing.
Honestly I think psychotic or irrational behaviors is fairly common in the LGBT community.. though I'm not sure which came first (the chicken or the egg).. Does the mental disorders occur because of lack of social support, feeling like an outcast, being physically & emotionally abused? Or is it simply a symptom of the larger population in general, but folks feel more 'empowered' to act out in the community because they think its ok? Maybe its something else. I have no idea, I just try to behave & at like a decent human being to everyone I meet regardless of orientation.
I Live in Paris and don't go in The Marais. The gay district of paris. I always get into trouble there.
Gay guys have a real problem with me here.
I avoided this quarter for two years, and after friends insited a lot, I went there with them to have a drink. It was back in march. And I fought with a guy
very bad night.
Problem with gay guys in paris. Not in zurich, brussels tho.
I heard people in berlin and london are very open there too. In Paris not so much.
Seemingly/Apparently "Nasty LBGT people" are not "unheard of" :icon_yikes:
Key&Peele: OfficeHomoPhobe YTvid
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Then again ... "Nasty CIS people" are not (so) "unheard of" ... either ... :icon_shrug_no:
What might be funniest about the following YTvid ...
is that ... the whole scenario is not really too far-fetched ...
Key&Peele: "Gay Marriage Q :icon_confused2: & :icon_confused2: A ... (with a "Gay")"
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Quote from: cinderkaburagi on May 13, 2017, 01:35:55 AM
Since then they stare at me when I've passed by which is pretty creepy. Apparently they want to volunteer at the LGBT centers in LA and SF and I don't feel as though I can partipate in community if I they're going to be there. I've been hestiate to talk about this since most people I've talked to just brush it off which invalidates my feelings.
You're gonna have to start standing up for yourself. Don't let anyone walk over you. With ppl like that I found that laughing in their face made it easier to deal with lol Ppl who attempted to act that way toward me were gay men and cis women and they would get so angry if they saw that their bs didn't bother me lol Laugh in their faces and keep it moving, they hate it. Their problem isn't with you it is within themselves.
My experiences are nothing compared to getting in a physical fight, but they made me uncomfortable. I was at a Pride event yesterday, and stopped off to use the bathroom at the local LGTB center a couple of times. The bathrooms are labeled "Men" and "Women," with a subheading "non-gender-discriminating." Both times I used the men's room there were cis guys in there acting extremely weird. One wouldn't stop staring at me, and the other one asked loudly, "Is this the men's?!" and then kept making disapproving noises when told it was.
I don't remotely pass, so I wouldn't have been surprised at this if I was using a men's room anywhere else. But come on . . . it's Pride, and the LGBT center, and there's a sign on the door. Disappointing. I suppose it was probably because the center was hosting a queer prom where the cut-off age was 20. Lots of gay kids without much life experience, who apparently don't know being trans is a thing. I sort of wish I'd had the wits to get educational with them, but all I wanted to do was pee.
I experience this all the time when I don't toe the line and become like them or when I am realistic about a issue and wind up hurting feelings. My problem is I'm going to be 52 in 2 months and wasn't raised politically correct we spoke it like we saw it which seems too offend today's generation. Sometimes I don't recognize this country anymore and it breaks my heart.
There are going to be people you disagree with in all walks of life and people that treat you badly from those. I guess it is just a math thing and probabilities. Personally I have not seen a lot of it. I've seen a few emotionally grumpy people and the like but nobody that was outwardly hostile to me.
The important thing is to be kind and civil to one another. The room mate mentioned above was certainly not that.
I am sorry if some folks have been less than kind towards you, but the main person to focus on is #1
In a perfect world everyone is nice to each other all the time, unfortunately we live in the RW (Real World)
I've gotten my feelings hurt a few times but as long as I know in my heart of hearts that I've been a nice, kind and decent person to others I try not to worry on it too much