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Arts & Entertainment News / Re: Trans author Naomi Kanakia...

Last post by LoriDee - Today at 12:38:22 PM

I am with you there, O&C.

The problem is that it is not an either/or situation. Just because they attack you doesn't mean they will leave that teenager alone. If that were true, I would gladly step into the fray. I'm at a point in my life where I am tired of being the punching bag.

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Member Blogs / Re: Danielle's Continuing Life...

Last post by LoriDee - Today at 12:34:48 PM

Sounds like a fun and well-deserved vacation.
Great pic!

[@JackintheBox]

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Legal Matters / Re: Who can and can't see my d...

Last post by Northern Star Girl - Today at 12:34:46 PM

  @JackintheBox
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Member Blogs / Re: Danielle's Continuing Life...

Last post by Northern Star Girl - Today at 12:20:25 PM

Monday and Tuesday at my office I am now mostly done with tax work but now I have
been tidying up the paperwork disarray with the help of one of my part time gals.

             

Starting this morning I am taking entire week and week end off to enjoy some free
time and going on a road trip toward Fairbanks and then the northwestern coast
of Alaska all the way to Nome. 

My tooth fairy and I will also get some serious shopping done in in the bigger city
of Fairbanks. 

It has finally been warming substantially the last couple weeks.  Late nights
and early mornings are still below freezing temperatures...this morning 23 deg (f)
but around noon and in the afternoons the temperatures are around 50 deg (f) 

HUGS, Danielle

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Arts & Entertainment News / Re: Trans author Naomi Kanakia...

Last post by Oldandcreaky - Today at 11:53:51 AM

I prefer to get militant and political so young people don't have to. I'd rather have someone bring their issues up with me than have them bully a teenager.

I understand ^this," Devlyn, and am grateful. I had a modicum of fame and infamy and thus conducted a lot of current for decades. Think of me as a wire that's both melted and crisped and now simply wanting to plunge my hands into my garden soil rather than politics.

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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by Jessica_Rose - Today at 11:36:23 AM

I hope they fully understand that anyone who does not respect your wishes may be subject to incessant and persistent hugs. I hope this continues to go well for you!

Love always -- Jessica Rose

#7

Legal Matters / Who can and can't see my deadn...

Last post by JackintheBox - Today at 11:22:39 AM

Hey folks, I'm new here and created my account just to ask this. I'm having a really hard time finding information online.

I was born in and currently live in Michigan. In January of 2023, at the age of 18, I had my name and gender legally changed on everything I had. My ID, my birth certificate, my SSN profile, and my high school records before I got my diploma. I didn't have a driver's license at the time and because I was under 22yo I didn't need to give finger prints. I also have a clean criminal record. Sadly, I did have to publish a newspaper about my court hearing, but it didn't share any details other than the date and my deadname (which was my legal name at the time).

I'm currently 19yo and I've done a lot to remain as stealth as possible. However, one of my fears is someone finding out my deadname. It's obviously a very feminine girl's name, I couldn't play it off as a name I changed just because I hated it. Who can and can't see it? I figured government officials can obviously see it, but can cops see it just by running my plates? Can employers see it when running a background check? Can the public see it by looking at public records?

I've tried using free background check services and have yet to find anything. But I'm unsure how much better paid background checks are. I used the official Michigan public records search, but it doesn't allow for name change records to be shown. So I'm at a loss. I'd like to just live a normal life without my past coming to haunt me. Is there a way I can get my name change records sealed in Michigan?

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Member Blogs / Re: Allie's Blog IV: Revenge o...

Last post by imallie - Today at 11:19:11 AM

"flibberty gibbet" makes me laugh, but it does belie the serious infraction of claiming ownership of someone else's story. I hope YOUR story reaches your friends and wife's family first from YOU.

Couldn't agree more.

However, a) not much I can do about what they've already done and b) everything they are doing is so much being done out of love and and excess of exuberance... it feels awful to criticize it. 

But it does need to be curtailed, it's just a tough needle to thread.

Here's the (edited) version of the text I just sent them:

Hello charter members of the Circle of Trust 😉😘 Couple of quick updates as I have just returned from my weekly electrolysis session (or "doctor's appointment" or "getting lab work done" to all my friends - can't wait until THAT weekly deception can end! I think they all think there's something wrong with my blood! 😂) Anyway - just a reminder of our plan: we are telling [my wife's]family this weekend, and then hopefully our friends next week. So while I know you may be sharing this with your closest friends (who are basically family at this point anyway) and that's great, I just want to make sure that when you're doing so that THEY know as well that this isn't public yet and it's a close hold.  Our biggest concern would be someone finding out before we get a chance to tell them. Would hate that to happen. Especially for folks who could run into people like my friends or their parents. I'm certain you knew all this but hope you don't mind me just making certain! Love you!


That was the shot I decided to take. Maybe it wasn't forceful enough, but I am hopeful it will at least resonate.

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Arts & Entertainment News / Re: Trans author Naomi Kanakia...

Last post by Faith - Today at 10:44:17 AM

I'm an 'activist' insofar that I came out, transitioned, work and live my life as myself in the same area that people have known me for 50 years now, 6+ as 'me'. So people had the chance to see it all first hand.

I don't force an issue. I don't run around with a chip on my shoulder. If people ask and are willing to listen then I'm willing to answer - within reason. Education one person at a time.

If I'm wronged, I gauge the pros and cons about doing something about it. Bathroom issue at work? I stood up for it. Bathroom issue at a private club? I stopped going. If people asked, I told them why.

the only real issue(s) I have with people asking questions is, 1) they saw me as trans (disheartening) or 2) someone told them (pisses me off).

I was asked once if I was always a woman I replied simple, "yes." the fact that I wasn't aware of it for the first 57 years of my life is none of their business.

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Arts & Entertainment News / Re: Trans author Naomi Kanakia...

Last post by Devlyn - Today at 10:33:02 AM

THIS.

Other veterans in my support group have stated this exactly. We don't want to get militant or political. We want to be left alone so we can get on with our lives.
 

I prefer to get militant and political so young people don't have to. I'd rather have someone bring their issues up with me than have them bully a teenager.