Ladies,
I have been on HRT 5 months. I have a list of things I feel I need to do before I can go full time. When did you know it was time to make that plunge? I have an 11 month plan to go full time next summer after my child support ends. My therapist is really recommending me speed up my transition and get going full time faster. I feel like I need to complete at least the electrolysis on my face and at least be able to better blend. This will give me over a year of chest growth too. I want to change my name debt free too. So I can truly start a new life as me for the first time. I just feel like I need to learn makeup more and get my proverbial ducks in a row set up. Every day I am moving toward my goals on many different facets of this. Any advice is appreciated. This is my last summer in swim trunks!! No matter what!
@Danielle Kristina @danielle28
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I wasn't fully ready for full time but it was important to get the experience of getting out there and watching and learning... and even enduring some nasty comments and staring. That really helped me to understand more fully what my strong points were and what were my weak points.
I had a woman friend that at times would go out there with me and give me suggestions and pointers, plus there is the factor of safety in numbers and not doing it alone... the support of her being with me as I ventured out was invaluable... and to fend off those that were not very pleasant with their comments. While I practiced my makeup and details about how to dress, she would be there sometimes to get me going in the right direction.
I have been on HRT 5 months. I have a list of things I feel I need to do before I can go full time. When did you know it was time to make that plunge? I just feel like I need to learn makeup more and get my proverbial ducks in a row set up.
Well, I had planned to start electrolysis in the fall and was thinking about going full time some time in 2021, but my timetable got moved up :o Waay too many people know by now, like basically most of my family, friends, neighbors and colleagues. The rumor mill did its work and the physical changes are pretty obvious now so ... submitting my name change next week and if I ever physically return to work it will be as Jennifer. My ducks are most certainly not in a row, in fact life is chaos, no work clothes, no electrolysis, no orchiectomy and still stuck on transdermal gel. But I'm definitely a woman ;D ;DHun, lots of us went full time without surgery
I know ultimately, the decision is mine to make. Today after a road trip and time to think about this. I am going to keep inching my way toward my goals without a set time frame. I will know when it will be time. I will listen to my heart. I think for me that’s the way to go. I appreciate everyone sharing their perspective and advice with me. If others would like to share I will appreciate your advice as well! Hugs, Danielle
. My therapist is really recommending me speed up my transition and get going full time faster.
Maddie,
Thank you so much sharing your experience. I am glad that all worked out for you as it did. I have had three laser treatments and now am on the electrolysis. I have told two groups I am in. I playEd pickleball today and told them. They started calling me my new name in support of me despite being in male mode at the court. I almost cried! They showed so much love and compassion. My other group is an improv comedy group. They are so diverse and unique. I have been playing a woman’s part in skits for a few weeks. They were very supportive too. I am very fortunate to have amazing support as I navigate this process.
Hi, I started HRT in August 2019 and my plan was to come out to all and go full time Sept / Oct 2020. We went into lockdown late March and I decided that the time was right. I came out on Facebook and at work, and from there on in went full time. At that time going public basically consisted of visits to the food store, and we didn't use masks here so I couldn't hide behind one!
I started laser facial air removal before starting HRT and have only just started electrolysis for the grey hair.
Things have been fantastic so far, we are back at work now, I am 100% out, my name is legally changed, and I have all new ID and passport. I have been very fortunate and have maintained a confident and positive air, which really has helped. I knew that the time was right, for me, and you will know when it's right, for you.
Alice, that’s awesome.. I just feel like I have a lot to do and a ways to go before I am passing. My goal really is each day to move closer. Like HRT it seems slow but then I look in the mirror and am like wow!! So in I know slow and steady accomplishes my goal over time. I applaud you Erika for going for it faster. The one thing I know for sure is I am not going back!!
Alice,
Thanks for your advice. This is my third go on HRT and am not stopping this time. I went on for 4 months 2 years ago. Moved across the country and was extremely stressed. so I stopped and gave myself some time to get settled. It was just too much. I started again 6 months later for 5 months. was lonely and frustrated and met an amazing woman. We fell in love. So I said maybe I need to hit the pause button again because I wanted to marry this woman. I needed to find a new doctor in my new hometown. We broke up January 25 of this year. I ended up in the local ER got a referral for a trans friendly doctor. Met the best doctor I have ever had. He does my hormones and is my primary doctor. The woman and I are best friends still very much in love even though we aren’t dating officially. She helps me out with learning a lot of things like makeup and clothes.
I am determined to not stop this time and have fully accepted my transition. I am more excited about my future than ever before. My depression is all but gone.,it occasionally rears it’s ugly head. I get through those days pretty quick especially knowing they won’t last forever. I am blessed but make no mistake some days are very difficult. The difference with my third time around is my increased support. My determination to live authentically as me and my love of life.
Alice,I’m intrigued what your role was when you met and fell in love with this woman. How did she feel about how life was going to change so much for you as a couple as you transitioned to your true self?
Thanks for your advice. This is my third go on HRT and am not stopping this time. I went on for 4 months 2 years ago. Moved across the country and was extremely stressed. so I stopped and gave myself some time to get settled. It was just too much. I started again 6 months later for 5 months. was lonely and frustrated and met an amazing woman. We fell in love. So I said maybe I need to hit the pause button again because I wanted to marry this woman. I needed to find a new doctor in my new hometown. We broke up January 25 of this year. I ended up in the local ER got a referral for a trans friendly doctor. Met the best doctor I have ever had. He does my hormones and is my primary doctor. The woman and I are best friends still very much in love even though we aren’t dating officially. She helps me out with learning a lot of things like makeup and clothes.
I am determined to not stop this time and have fully accepted my transition. I am more excited about my future than ever before. My depression is all but gone.,it occasionally rears it’s ugly head. I get through those days pretty quick especially knowing they won’t last forever. I am blessed but make no mistake some days are very difficult. The difference with my third time around is my increased support. My determination to live authentically as me and my love of life.
Pamela,
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement!!
Alice, we met when I was in guy mode. Told her I was trans up front. She was fine with that. We dated and both fell head over heals for each other very quickly. As with many relationships where things go too fast. As we really got to know each other. We both realized our dating relationship was not working for many reasons. So we broke up sadly, cried a lot, took a couple of weeks apart then reconnected over lunch. She was free to date again and so was I. We both went on dates with other people. I knew at the end of my date. I was fully transitioning once and for all. I was determined to not meet anyone until I was full time as me for the first time. Much to my surprise, her date didn’t work out either. We are best friends and closer than ever as a result of my transitioning. We have matching pajamas and enjoy shopping together. We support each other emotionally and are there to give each other hugs.. most importantly we have fun together and really enjoy each other’s company but respect each other’s need for alone time. We have made our nondating relationship closer then when we were dating and the future looks bright. Because there is not that dating pressure. We are just two people who love to be with each other and are determined to support each other. I am very blessed and fortunate. We are both free to date others but realized we both don’t want to right now and just enjoy each other in our lives. In the end who knows what will happen. We could just be girlfriends together or eventually start dating again. who knows. I take one day at a time and continue my journey to womanhood.
Chrissy,
I am very lucky and taking another year to build my support has been good for me., like many others I tried everything and I mean everything to not transition. I spent 40 years struggling to know what I had and no amount of therapy could help me. I would have benefitted from a scientific test like the work they are doing on brain scans. I just wanted to feel comfortable in my own body, wanted to be loved and accepted. I did the hyper masculine approach, got married and lived the life of a happily married guy. I was active in my church, community and played sports. Yet inside I was miserable and didn’t understand what. I thought my dysphoria flared when I was under a lot of stress.
I went full time when I acquired enough clothing!
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I went full time when I acquired enough clothing!
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Birdie on a wire,I know right!
"....I love our sisters that can just go for it right now in their lives."
"Unfortunately I just can’t at the moment and it’s ok. I am taking a more planned approach. Thanks for your sharing! Danielle!"I totally get it and I'm right there with you. Circumstances, such that they are... well, it just isn't quite time for me either. Need more planning. More practicing.
Ladies,
I have been on HRT 5 months. I have a list of things I feel I need to do before I can go full time. When did you know it was time to make that plunge? I have an 11 month plan to go full time next summer after my child support ends. My therapist is really recommending me speed up my transition and get going full time faster. I feel like I need to complete at least the electrolysis on my face and at least be able to better blend. This will give me over a year of chest growth too. I want to change my name debt free too. So I can truly start a new life as me for the first time. I just feel like I need to learn makeup more and get my proverbial ducks in a row set up. Every day I am moving toward my goals on many different facets of this. Any advice is appreciated. This is my last summer in swim trunks!! No matter what!
^Great advice^. I think you put this very well
. I think you put this very well
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Ladies,
I have my answer and it’s become very clear when my time to go full time will be.. I have filed to legally change my name. Once it’s approved by the court. They will notify my employer and 150 people will know. That will be my first official day as Rebecca! I am at peace with that at it could be 4-6 months before I get my court date. I know it’s the right decision for me as I have incredible internal peace about. Fortunately my boss has been very supportive and had made it clear i have his support. I am very fortunate!! Hugs, Rebecca
I came out to my colleagues in early July 2020, and introduced myself to students as Mrs. this year.First off...Congrats @Jane.Shannon on your going full time and living as your true self. Self acceptance is a powerful thing. In the beginning outside influences were the controlling factor of my timeline. I agree with Jane but for me the outside influences became less and less a factor in time as I realized I could not change society but only myself so that what I did. Ultimately, it is a combination of the two. If you have a spouse, children or work situation those outside influences can be the most powerful and last to overcome in your decision.
So how do you know? I would say it is a combination of how you feel and how outside influences line up.