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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: Nero on March 16, 2008, 02:22:10 pm

Title: What do your breasts mean to you? Seriously.
Post by: Nero on March 16, 2008, 02:22:10 pm
Come on ladies. I mean I know they're pretty and all, but what's the point of them really?
I mean I like to look at them (even at my own) and they're gorgeous and all.
But is there really any point to them (other than the obvious breast feeding aspect)?
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Post by: KarenLyn on March 16, 2008, 02:42:26 pm
When I hit puberty, I kept expecting my breasts to grow. That's what girls do, right? Now that I have them, I feel much better. Beyond that, they really don't serve much purpose except to give guys something to talk to.
I'd probably like them more if I hadn't had mastalgia twice. OW!

Karen Lyn
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Post by: cindianna_jones on March 16, 2008, 04:34:29 pm
I can't sleep on my stomach any more.  I can't run.  They are a part of me and I have no particular attraction to them.

But I can't imagine my life without them. 

That's pretty weird isn't it?

Cindi
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Post by: Sarah on March 16, 2008, 05:29:43 pm
if you don't like your breasts, you don't like your breasts.
I like mine.
They just feel...normal.
Like I'd be missing them if they weren't there.
they remind me of my motherly instinct.
And yes.
There's no reason that you may like, they just feel there like they belong.
They feel normal.
Does that make sense?
I felt weird when they weren't there except when I was a kid.
then it was ok, but I always wanted them.
they feel like me.
in a really weird way.

Sara
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Post by: annajasmine on March 16, 2008, 06:27:16 pm
What they mean to mean me? Well they make me feel not so disgusted with my body. Use them as way to keep up with my progress. Or at least give me a feeling I am heading in the direction I want be going. Even though they small right now I guess they make me feel much more complete.



Anna
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Post by: Lisbeth on March 16, 2008, 06:36:10 pm
They are a statement to the world that I am female.
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Post by: Osiris on March 16, 2008, 06:51:28 pm
To answer the question of what's the point of them: It's all about human evolution. As humans walk upright our sexual development changed from that of other mammals. The signal of female sexual maturity was switched from genital display to breast display. Only a small portion of the human breast is used for producing milk.

To answer what they mean to me: I tend to be a personable guy and lean towards a speaker during a conversation. I found in certain situations that when I lean forward, especially onto a counter or desk, I tend to get what I want faster. It took me awhile to figure out that my breasts were behind this(can be dense). Which also means that I'm perceived in a way that I don't intend to be.
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Post by: annajasmine on March 16, 2008, 06:53:40 pm
they really don't serve much purpose except to give guys something to talk to.
Karen Lyn

Agree with the comment quoted above also to attract men of course, that if I ever want to have a boyfriend or if one will ever have me I need them.
This might sound stupid while ago(3or4 months ago) I got out of the shower started drying off  and I felt of them through the towel. I felt growth and started happy crying for about hour. I don't know why they are so important to me they just are.
Nero didn't do this topic couple months ago?

Anna
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Post by: Wing Walker on March 17, 2008, 01:07:03 am
They are a statement to the world that I am female.

Same here.  I am grateful that my breasts are there because I started HRT when I was 51.

Wing Walker
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Post by: Berliegh on March 17, 2008, 04:47:16 am
Re: What do your breasts mean to you? Seriously.

That means a lot and a gender indicator to female. It's juat a shame mine won't grow....despite many years on HRT.....

and because of that I will have to have a boob job in order to get some which I'm not really happy about..
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Post by: Nero on March 17, 2008, 05:32:46 am
Nero didn't do this topic couple months ago?

Anna

I may have. Just been preoccupied lately since I'm going to have mine chopped sooner or later.
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Post by: NicholeW. on March 17, 2008, 06:41:04 am
My breasts are simply a visible sign of who I am, in a generally accepted fashion among pretty much everyone I come across.

I agree with Karen Lyn that they also provide interlocutors for many men with whom I interact.  :laugh:

The rest is perfectly private.

Nichole

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Post by: lady amarant on March 17, 2008, 06:48:58 am
Uhmmmmm... They're just supposed to be there, I guess. Not having them there was just intensely wrong, and now that they ARE starting to be there, it's just ... better?

I don't know, It's not like having them there is in any way special really, but having them NOT there was intensely unspecial.
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Post by: Berliegh on March 17, 2008, 07:03:08 am
It's a <not allowed> when they don't grow...
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Post by: Seshatneferw on March 17, 2008, 07:07:08 am
Like some others have said, they feel right. I don't particularly care how people see me, so I have no use for them as a statement. It's just that something in me expects them to be there, and I much prefer the small ones I have over the larger phantom ones I used to feel.

  Nfr
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 07:12:40 am
They means everything to me. I can't imagine life without them. Mine hurts sometimes too, but it's worth the pain to have them. I think it's the first part of me that guys notice. I wear a 38B and still have difficulty finding a good bra. What's been your favorite bra??

roni
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Post by: Nero on March 17, 2008, 08:19:13 am
What's been your favorite bra??

roni

Hmm... there've been a few I really liked. For the longest time, I just wore sport bras because they flatten the shape (I'm ftm). But then there was a period where I felt like having something pretty under my clothes, not to mention I really liked the look of my cleavage. My favorites were Victoria's Secret - a brown one with pale blue embroidered design, a red satin one, and a powder blue lace one - all making the most of my killer cleavage.
Yeah, I'm a man, but I figured if I got em, I might as well enjoy them. :icon_drdodgy:
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 08:52:03 am
Victoria Secret? Hum. I love red. Like you, the feel of softness and beauty against my skin is very important to me. I like a red and black bra I bought recently at Dillards. I feel so pretty in it and can imagine the guys wanting to see me underneath. The cleavage is a killer too.
I bought some camsoles last saturday at Kohls. I just love them...feels like a second skin. I'm still a male too...but I prefer the female me!!
Do you have any bras/panties from Dillards/Kohls? What's your favorite place to buy camsoles??

roni
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Post by: Nero on March 17, 2008, 09:43:09 am
Hi Roni. No, I'm ftm, hon. I was born female but I'm male. But since i had <breasts>, I just enjoyed them anyhow.
Kohl's is nice but I never really shopped much. I just ordered bras out of the Victoria's Secret catalogue I had lying round the house anyway. Because of her: (http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z60/texmex58/Laetitia-Casta---Animated-1.gif)
 and her:
(http://www.softpedia.com/screenshots/Adriana-Lima_1.png)
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 09:50:22 am
Hi! I think for me the going out and shopping tends to validate my feminine side and it's fun. Shopping to put together a total look makes me feel more female. I have ordered items, but they are difficult to return. Victoria Secret has nice stuff...perhaps a bit pricy. I find a size 12-14 fits me.

roni
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Post by: Nero on March 17, 2008, 10:10:59 am
Yeah, I don't like to try things on and hate shopping. I love to shop for gifts at Christmas time though. Bout the only time I like to shop.  :laugh:
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Post by: HelenW on March 17, 2008, 10:26:58 am
My breasts are miraculous, really.

I sometimes sit and look at them and feel, "Wow! Amazing! Finally!"

To have them there after all these years of wanting and needing . . .

yes, a miracle.

hugs & smiles
Emelye
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Post by: Shana A on March 17, 2008, 10:31:03 am
Yeah, I'm a man, but I figured if I got em, I might as well enjoy them. :icon_drdodgy:

Haha, Guys!! ::)  :P

Z
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 10:34:38 am
Yes...nothing is better than a great pair of breasts. The first guy glance
I get is at my breasts. Feels good!1

roni
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Post by: Berliegh on March 17, 2008, 10:35:26 am
It's still a <not allowed> when they don't grow.....how about a topic about that?
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 10:41:11 am
I have used enhancers. They help while you wait for natural growth. What does your doctor say?

roni
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Post by: Berliegh on March 17, 2008, 10:44:19 am
I have used enhancers. They help while you wait for natural growth. What does your doctor say?

roni

My Doctor is pushing me in the surgery direction. I have been on HRT for over 10 years, so it's not working but I'm still not keen on breast surgery....
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Post by: roni on March 17, 2008, 10:57:25 am
I understand...I have not gotten surgery either. Done all the other stuff...been fortunate to have had good results. Sometimes have pain in my breasts. I always had large breasts for a male. I sincerely hope that yours improve. I know that it can be frustrating. Your friend...

roni
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Post by: Sarah on March 17, 2008, 12:12:16 pm
Not woman gets boobs.
Cisgendered or otherwise.
My stepmom has very small boobs.

The idea that woman=boobs is a Hollywood and otherwise stereotype image.
It is not true.

Sara
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Post by: pretty pauline on March 17, 2008, 07:29:14 pm
Victoria's Secret stuff can be pricy, but its nice for a girl to treat herself once in a while, I resently purchased the new BIOFIT UPLIFT, very comfy and really shows off my killer clearvage, Im a 36DD, you get what you pay for, pink seems to be the color at the moment.
p
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Post by: Tiffany on September 08, 2010, 10:59:04 am
though i dont have breasts yet, but i would feel that my breasts would mean everything to me. it is symbol if begin female. I wish i can have breasts and putting on a bra to support them. hopefully i can reach to a full cup B.
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Post by: Jillary Woolen Xσx on September 08, 2010, 11:13:33 am
I love my boobs.
I love touching and having them touched.
I love showing them acknowledging them
the way the make my body feel
I love what the represent for me and the women before me

The Power and influence they have

The Way they feel under my clothes and accentuate my clothes.

I have no problem saying I am emotionally attached to number one and Number two.
Gahhh whats not to like?
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Post by: Izumi on September 08, 2010, 11:24:00 am
Come on ladies. I mean I know they're pretty and all, but what's the point of them really?
I mean I like to look at them (even at my own) and they're gorgeous and all.
But is there really any point to them (other than the obvious breast feeding aspect)?

Breasts are a sign of health and fertility, the same as muscles on a man.  When we see a muscular fit guy, we think, wow he looks good.  Women dont typically have a lot of muscle and large breasts and a nice backside is a sign of health and fertility that appeal to men and even are used by other women to compare and contrast.

You have probably heard the term "Good Child Bearing Hips" once or twice in your life.  I mean you cannot deny for men and women that looks beyond anything else will attract someone to you first, then you can work your personality.  So in all breasts are a sign of healthy womanhood.  To such an extent that women who had breast cancer would use a fake breast since their real one was removed to feel alright about themselves, TS women just grow a pair ^_^ to feel they are part of female society and are depressed until they do because subconsciously we look at another woman and compare to ourselves.

That and your SO's find them comfortable to rest their head on when taking a leisurely nap on a sunday afternoon in the park. 

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Post by: Cyndigurl45 on September 08, 2010, 12:16:38 pm
They are a statement to the world that I am female.
Agreed :)
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Post by: jmaxley on September 08, 2010, 12:17:54 pm
Yeah, I'm a man, but I figured if I got em, I might as well enjoy them. :icon_drdodgy:

Agreed.  The only good thing about being a guy who's got boobs is that when you want a pair to look at and play with, there's a handy set right there (if you can get past the dysphoria, of course).

I've got a set a porn model would be envious of, makes me feel a bit guilty wanting to get 'em cut off.
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Post by: Debra on September 08, 2010, 03:01:01 pm
For me, they've always been a symbol of femininity. A huge outward sign that yells out: "I'm a WOMAN" without really trying.
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Post by: Northern Jane on September 08, 2010, 04:42:57 pm
The point, biologically speaking, is to feed babies of course. But they are, no matter the size, just part of being female.

Having had them for nearly 50 years, they get in the way, they bounce and get sore, they sometime make your shoulders ache, they prevent you from sleeping on your belly, they make a second pillow pretty much mandatory, they also require a bra .......... but when the boyfriend starts playing with them ........ OH MY!  ;D
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Post by: Alun C on September 08, 2010, 04:44:53 pm
Well... I don't want them... I never have... I wish god would have made boobs detachable like suction cups... then I could give them to whoever truly wanted them.

They even prevent me from doing major upper body work outs QnQ   It's like they don't want me to get rid of them!!! DDDD::

<3 Alun
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Post by: Lacey Lynne on September 16, 2010, 12:54:29 am
Hi! I think for me the going out and shopping tends to validate my feminine side and it's fun. Shopping to put together a total look makes me feel more female. I have ordered items, but they are difficult to return. Victoria Secret has nice stuff...perhaps a bit pricy. I find a size 12-14 fits me.

roni

@ roni:

If this is your picture, and I believe that it is, then you are blessed.  Incidentally, a women's size 14 suffices for me most of the time, but I'm a tad taller than you are.  I'm thrilled that my breasts are coming in.  They may never mature to the extent that yours have, though I wish they would ... at about your level of development but no more than that.  I love having them.  Their purpose?  Aesthetic all the way.  They just feel SO right being there. 
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Post by: Janet_Girl on September 16, 2010, 01:06:33 am
For me, they are a statement of my femininity.  I enjoy them when they bounce, I love the way I fill out out a top or a bra.  Yes I wish I was bigger, for cleavage mostly, but I still love having them.

I have to chuckle when talking to a guy, they definitely don't know what my face looks like.  How could they, they never look at it.  :D
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Post by: Muffin on September 16, 2010, 02:13:15 am
Pain when running/skipping etc ... a distraction to people that really should be talking to my face, discomfort while trying to sleep on my stomach. oh and I guess they fill out my clothes and make me look better but ...meh as long as they don't get too much bigger :-/
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Post by: K8 on September 17, 2010, 07:41:07 pm
They give me a nicer shape.

(I noticed the other day that they are finally getting big enough to see the tops when I look down the front of my own shirt.  I couldn't stop looking and worried that it was my old guy-habits, but I think it was just the pleasure of seeing them on me - where they should have been since I was 13. >:() 

They're just part of how I feel I should be - female.

- Kate
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Post by: Shang on September 17, 2010, 07:52:46 pm
Well... I don't want them... I never have... I wish god would have made boobs detachable like suction cups... then I could give them to whoever truly wanted them.

They even prevent me from doing major upper body work outs QnQ   It's like they don't want me to get rid of them!!! DDDD::

<3 Alun

I feel the same way with mine! 

To me, they're the main part of my dysphoria...though I'll admit they can have their advantages if I want certain things....It wouldn't be so bad if they weren't so big and if I could actually lay down on my belly. xD I might have to have them removed for practical reasons anyway, my lower back is starting to hurt horribly and I think they might be causing it.

xD Anyway, I've enjoyed reading the answers the girls have said and I can see where they're coming from. :3
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Post by: lilacwoman on September 18, 2010, 04:56:53 pm
They are a statement to the world that I am female.

snap.
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Post by: Mara on September 21, 2010, 10:43:52 am
They're growing and already a little inconvenient, but I kinda like them anyway.  They signify that I'm female, they make me look better, other (gay) women find them attractive, and they feel good during intimate activities.  But I'm probably going to be mildly annoyed when I have to wear a bra, and really annoyed if they get really big and I get back pain.
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Post by: cynthialee on September 21, 2010, 10:54:19 am
My breasts are a godsend. When I feel dysphoria creeping up I take a moment to cup one of my breasts and just feel and know that I am doing something to fix this problem.
When I express milk from them (yes, I lactate) I am giddy. I do not know why but seeing that my boobs work as intended puts me into a giddy space that is happy as a clam that can last for an hour or longer.
My breasts, since they started developing earlier this year, have been a source of comfort and reasurance. I am transitioning and I will finish this path eventually. (just not as soon as I want) :)
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Post by: becky007 on September 21, 2010, 12:58:51 pm
I am sort of a lesbian - and have always liked breasts. Getting my own nice ones - what a blast. I'm my own girlfriend - still new - but I must be genetically inclined. Actually I'm afraid they will get too large. All of the changes are great - breasts just a part. It really helps to finally match the self image.
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Post by: Cruelladeville on September 21, 2010, 01:07:22 pm
Seriously....?

They’re key 2nd sexual aspects of being an adult woman, they nurture offspring, and they bring comfort..... and obviously they are sexually rewarding for the owner too... so deliver joy...

More frivolously for hetero men and lesbians I would imagine when we gals get the wonder bras on... and put the cleavage on top-shelf display....beings of a more primal nature get quickly distracted*....   :P

*Note: this can be useful during some forms of transactional negotiation!....lol
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Post by: Julie Marie on September 21, 2010, 01:57:40 pm
I use 'em as a diversionary tactic.  When out in the heat of battle, phobes on the left, phobes on the right, phobes all around, all looking to take down a <transgender person>, I flash 'em my cleavage and suddenly they get all starry-eyed and start smiling.  Best weapon I own!  ;D
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Post by: ggina on September 21, 2010, 02:51:29 pm
I flash 'em my cleavage and suddenly they get all starry-eyed and start smiling.  Best weapon I own!

I like that, "weapons of mass destruction" :)
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Post by: LordKAT on September 22, 2010, 08:17:10 am
Painful, disgusting, sensual and something to be made fun of by those who are adapting to new you and something to made made lesser of your whole first life. It sucks. The most major thing to being ostracized by former male friends and no longer included with the male side of life in any way shape or form. It was enough that I never tried for friends again cause they made no sense any more.
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Post by: ggina on September 22, 2010, 01:21:20 pm
Dee, that's indeed a lot better, I should've though of that, thank you :)
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Post by: Julie Marie on September 22, 2010, 04:09:56 pm

No no no no no no........  You got it all wrong hunny, they are Weapons of mass DISTRACTION......

Oooooh, I like that!  That's going into my defense library!  :eusa_dance:
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Post by: PixieBoy on September 23, 2010, 12:54:52 pm
They are beacons to the world: "Hey! This person is female!"

I dislike them. Bloody things are in the way all the time...
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Post by: MRH on October 14, 2010, 02:42:07 pm
Hate them. If I could hide them successfully then I would probably pass as male. Its hard to run as they hurt. I have to wear a bra or they hurt. Actually I cant seem to do anything without them hurting. The only good thing about them is you get served quicker in the pub. The're great when it comes to sexual things but other than that they are a huge pain in the arse.
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Post by: spacial on October 14, 2010, 03:18:21 pm
they are a huge pain in the arse.

 :icon_yikes:
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Post by: pretty pauline on October 15, 2010, 05:57:43 pm
When I had a 2nd BA a few years ago increasing my breast size to a DD, I thought maybe I went too big, but when they settled down I just love the cleavage my girls give me, my Husband absolutely adores them, they mean everything to me, just shopping for a dress or new outfit that suits my cleavage just makes me feel very feminine. Every morning just getting out of bed, if I look in the mirror, my hair might look a mess, Iv no makeup on yet, my girls are just falling out of my nightdress, my Husband might just catch sight of them and slip his hand on them and give them a tight squeeze, I love my girls, they are part and parcel of my femininity, my Husband just goes starry eyed, and most men stare and give them that cute look when they see my cleavage
I use 'em as a diversionary tactic.  When out in the heat of battle,   Best weapon I own!  ;D
Absolutely agree.

Pauline
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Post by: Rock_chick on October 16, 2010, 07:33:31 am
Despite being quite small at the moment, they help me feel a bit more complete than i did before. Even the <breast> ache and tender nipples are a kind of valiation…tho i do moan about it. hehe
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Post by: justmeinoz on October 16, 2010, 07:45:15 am
They don't mean a lot to me because they haven't arrived yet!  ;)  Patience girl!

'Til then I will be happy to have false ones so that my body is nearer the shape my brain expects.
How big or what shape I am not clear on, but I will feel more "right" once they arrive, along with a waist and set of hips.
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Post by: Alexmakenoise on October 18, 2010, 05:47:43 pm
My beasts give me the power to attract straight guys.  And (hypothetically) nourish a young human.  They also give me back pain, and require me to purchase things to support them somewhat uncomfortably or feel them bounce uncomfortably.  Other than that, I'm indifferent to them.
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Post by: CynthiaAnn on April 26, 2019, 03:02:17 pm
Come on ladies. I mean I know they're pretty and all, but what's the point of them really?
I mean I like to look at them (even at my own) and they're gorgeous and all.
But is there really any point to them (other than the obvious breast feeding aspect)?

Another classic post, my answer

It's all in the silhouette my breasts help to create, and the sensations they produce. I am grateful for my boobage today, they are a blessing that took years in the making, and such a beautiful part of being a woman.

Cynthia -
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Post by: Michelle_P on April 26, 2019, 04:34:32 pm
My appearance is correct, my clothing fits better, and there is one more feminine cue to help others in this culture gender me correctly.

Internally, they feel right, my sensation of my form and balance feels more correct, and the tactile sensations after almost three years of HRT feel right.
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Post by: F_P_M on April 27, 2019, 04:52:02 am
their point I suppose is to look nice in clothing. I mean certainly when i look at an attractive woman the soft curve of her bust is aesthetically pleasing.
However, I find my own breasts to be mostly just really dang annoying.
They hurt a lot, they're just like.. deflated sacks of flesh. I don't like them, they make me uncomfortable and always have. I'd rather like them either really small (like an a cup) or gone completely.

From a "what is their purpose" perspective I assume the perminant breasts are some sort of mating thing. You know, looking attractive to perspective mates or whatever.
Because most mammels only have swollen breasts when lactating.

For women, breasts really do hammer home "i am female" and for a pre op transman, they really do prevent us passing if they can't be bound totally flat. People see breasts and immediately assume "female".
so I guess that's their purpose. A secondary sex characteristic to shunt us into narrow boxes. Boo.

I've got my use outta mine, dang, if I could donate em I would lol. Not sure anyone would want these saggy things though. They're pretty unattractive to my eye, but perhaps i'm just overcritical because they're MINE and not on some hot woman.
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Post by: Julia1996 on April 27, 2019, 02:12:28 pm
They mean a great deal to me.  They indicate to everyone that I am female. And before I had SRS my breasts were one part of my body that was absolutely female and a part of me my boyfriend could see and touch.
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Post by: SeptagonScars on April 27, 2019, 03:50:45 pm
So I had top surgery 5 years ago but instantly regretted it. I swept that regret under the carpet until I detransitioned 10 months ago. So now I want new breasts, aka reconstruction. When it comes to the dysphoria aspect for me, I differ from both the mtf and the ftm experiences. Cause I want (specific) traits of both sexes, and because of that passing as my female gender is of low priority for me.

But other than that, I don't think my reasons differ much from others who replied/commented in this thread. Although I have a slew of reasons, most of them can be lumped up into these 4 different categories:

1. Looks
Basically for my body to look as I'd call it "harmonically female" from neck down. I feel like my chest doesn't fit the rest of my body which is otherwise very curvy, that most feminine clothes don't fit right with a flat chest, etc. As for size, I feel very right and comfortable with the size of my breast forms that fit nicely in a 34D and if I could get my reconstructed boobs to roughly that size (C-DD), that would be great, but I'm not too picky. My pre-op size was 32B.

2. Sensation
This one's hard to explain but touching my flat chest, feeling tight fabric on it, etc, just feels wrong and icky. And I miss the senation of boobs, soft, squishy, warm boobs. I've never had erotic sensation in that area of my body (also pre-op), but it's still an important aspect for me to be able to have boobs again to include in my sex life.

3. Sexuality
This category overlaps both points 2 and 4, but too separate to put into either. About me being a lesbian, that I want for my body to look and feel (more) similar to a partner's body. That's not really sexual, but has more to do with a deeper kind of intimate mental/romantic connection to another female cause of both being female and loving each other. Not having the boob aspect of femaleness to connect with an intimate/romantic partner does feel painful for me.

4. Dysphoria
Put simply: Most other women have breasts while I don't. It makes me jealous, and it hurts, that I don't have that very female thing on my body anymore. Cause now that I finally love being a woman, my body feels wrong without boobs to go with all the other female parts that I got from nature and still have.

And in my complicated detrans case:
I really do like having my male secondary sex traits such as beard and deep voice, that I got from my years on T, but only as additions to my otherwise female body. I don't want to lose any of my fem bits and I want what's lost back. But I feel the same about my male traits, that I don't want to lose them either. Male or female; they're all parts of what's simply me.

The way I view myself is as a masculinised woman, and my masculinity feels just as right and comforting to me as my femininity does, and I simply need and love both. But basically I feel a strong need to look totally female from neck down, which is, after all, some 90% of my body, no matter how much I want for my whole head to appear male.

And then I just have to bite the bullet that my reality is: I won't pass as female no matter how real and how big my tiddies are.

So in that aspect, my dysphoria is different, and even I don't know what it really means, cause I don't see myself as nonbinary. I'm just a different kind of woman. A bit more spicy and gnc. Because I see my gender as aligned with my bio sex I don't see myself as completely trans, but because I am still happy with most of my ftm transition, I also don't see myself as completely cis. But then I also see detrans as kind of a sub-category of trans.
Title: Re: What do your breasts mean to you? Seriously.
Post by: Aurorasky on April 27, 2019, 03:58:11 pm
It means a lot to me. Breasts are a marker of femininity, sensuality and sexuality and at the same time a marker of motherhood. The latter is impossible for most of us, unless we go on a certain regímen, but I don't see the point of it as I will not be able to conceive my own child.
Title: Re: What do your breasts mean to you? Seriously.
Post by: Paul Muad-Dib on April 27, 2019, 05:28:28 pm
They don't have much meaning in and of themselves, it's generally what they mean to others. When people say it indicates I'm a woman - that means others see them and process mentally that person is female. After all if you know what you are you shouldn't need a placard or a sign on you saying what you are. But breasts are apparently rather like that. A lot of women want people to see they are women through them. A lot of men like them and want to see them on a woman.

It's like having a nose, to me. I mean it's there, and it would look strange if it wasn't there, but it hasn't much meaning as a body part. Not having one would probably be weird and strange to the average person. But there's no great meaning in having a nose.

To me they were (when I had them) in the way. I don't miss them, and don't really think about them much. But that - I suppose - is because I do not really identify as female, or wanted people to pay attention to me as one. I also didn't much dwell on the connection between them and having kids. Obviously for anyone who does, they're important. Not having them when you want them probably feels a bit like having a deformity. Luckily for MTF, they can be grown.

I don't think they really figure in my personal psychology. Not having them feels like a return to a state like when I was a child as was much happier with my body. I do actually remember that pre-pubescent phase before things started growing and liking my body as it was. After surgery, that's how I felt. Like I'd got back to normality. These things were not in the way or weighing me down like I remember before them. The reason I feel that way, I think, is because in the brain somewhere, I haven't much "female programming". There are things women like about themselves that go way over my head. I just don't have it. I think the breasts annoyed me only because they got in the way. If they didn't and were largely invisible, I probably would not have cared all that much.

The feeling of a flat chest is great. I can do athletic stuff without them jumping around. I am more hydrodynamic without them. I can sleep on my stomach. I don't have to buy items of clothing to keep them in good shape. All in all they never meant much to me, but I can fully appreciate now how women do feel about them in a sense. A strange side effect of the HRT giving me access to my "whole brain". But I'm quite happy without them. 

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Post by: Nightfall on April 27, 2019, 10:09:06 pm
The only thing I thought when they started to grow was,”It’s about time.” Not holding back, they are more a pain than they are worth. Not because of what they are, how I feel about them, size or anything but because of other women. They are a good size and perky if I think about them at all, but I don’t really and why should I? I never think about my knees, seriously not ever unless they hurt, or my elbows, ears, feet. I  will  not  be  bullied though. Not again, not ever. I will not wear a bra because I am tired of women telling me how much I should. I don’t wear anything sheer and I try to never wear anything that makes my nipples really pop out but that is as much a concession as I am willing to give. No, not entirely true, I would never wear anything sheer no matter what so that is not a concession. Breasts happen, to approximately 50% of the population of the planet they happen, but somehow we are supposed to put extra security on them? For what? Who made that decision and when? The bullied becomes the bullies, it’s a brave new world. Porn has made breasts irrelevant but idiotic behavior has made them something special if someone chooses to not double hide them. That is what breasts mean to me. My friend that winters in Florida was at breakfast for the first time this year today, my boyfriend was there after having surgery this week for his heart, I hadn’t slept or eaten all week, but I wore a gorgeous, pinstriped buttoned up, kinda uber feminine, gloriously soft top and as I sat down she didn’t say hi or anything, just stared at my boobs. I don’t look old, I don’t look bad, from all I can tell I look only like a girl but people judge me. Wanna know what they mean to me, seriously...

Just another reason for someone to judge me. I am so tired of feeling bad for who I am, I am finally where I want to be, I could dress like a nun and someone would judge me. Okay, go ahead, I am used to it. I never think about my breasts other than that.

Yeah, the sweat under them can be a bit annoying as well.
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Post by: MeTony on April 27, 2019, 11:35:11 pm
I don’t like them. They are in the way and I don’t like being touched there. They are my biggest source of dysphoria. I still pass pretty often as male. Even in T-shirt. Without binder. I have a G-cup.

I hate the attention my chest gets from guys and girls. I am also often read as butch.

I’m a dude with huge chest. I wish I could donate them to you girls. A quickfix to a large chest. Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way.

Also I need to lose 17 kg to get surgery. Stupid easter and candy and food made me gain 5 kg.


Tony
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Post by: F_P_M on April 28, 2019, 05:11:19 am
I have to ask, do any of you get like.. electic sensation across the teeth when you have your nipples touched and played with? I HATE IT, it's like i'm chewing on an electrical cable. ARGHHHH.
And i don't get it, why the hell does it give me sensation in my TEETH!??? wth body? wth?

Interestingly, my other half isn't actually that interested in my chest. I dunno if that's because he knows i'm not always keen on having it touched becuase of the teeth thing or he just isn't that into it, but I find I have to kinda remind him they're there hahaha.

I don't think either of us will miss em really.
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Post by: Maid Marion on April 28, 2019, 07:34:41 am
They are just the right size for woman's clothing to fit perfectly and balance out my hips.
Title: Re: What do your breasts mean to you? Seriously.
Post by: Bea1968 on April 28, 2019, 11:38:23 am
To me, the point is that my body made them.  Yea, it needed some HRT help but what I have is all mine.  My body did that.  That thought alone does a lot for my self esteem.  It validates my internal feminine feelings with something tangible.  Plus, they are fun to look at :).

Best regards,

Bea
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Post by: DebbySoufflage on April 28, 2019, 03:17:18 pm
To me my breasts mean a lot.
They have balanced my shoulders out.
They have made my waist look way more feminine and proportioned.
My behind looks more feminine because of my large breasts when I look at my side profile.

If anything, I wish they were bigger.

I would love to have breast implants.

I’m saving up for gummy bear cohesive gel implants.

I’m 85B-cup and would like to augment to 85E-cups.

I’m going with 500CC implants most likely.
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Post by: SeptagonScars on May 04, 2019, 11:22:45 am
I have to ask, do any of you get like.. electic sensation across the teeth when you have your nipples touched and played with? I HATE IT, it's like i'm chewing on an electrical cable. ARGHHHH.
And i don't get it, why the hell does it give me sensation in my TEETH!??? wth body? wth?

Interestingly, my other half isn't actually that interested in my chest. I dunno if that's because he knows i'm not always keen on having it touched becuase of the teeth thing or he just isn't that into it, but I find I have to kinda remind him they're there hahaha.

I don't think either of us will miss em really.

I recognise that sensation you describe, but unsure if it's the same thing. Before my top surgery I hated having my nipples touched cause it felt exactly like "teeth pain" but in my nipples, and was intensely uncomfortable. I mean that painful feeling like when you eat ice cream way too fast. I got that exact same feeling in my nipples when touched, but I didn't feel it in my teeth then. Not sure if that makes sense to you or if it's what you're asking.

Since my surgery I barely have any sensation at all in my nipples (at 5 years post-op), except if I squeeze them really hard I still get that "teeth pain" feeling in them. My best guess/explanation is that somehow the nerves in them may have gotten wonky when my breasts grew during puberty.
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Post by: freebird on May 10, 2019, 03:50:36 pm
To me they are everything and they express my femininity. I wish they were bigger but in time they will be. I don't know how i could be a women without them.
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Post by: Linde on May 10, 2019, 04:31:31 pm
They are just part of my body.  If I don't watch part of my movements, they painfully remind me that they are there.  The only sensation I feel if I manipulate my nipples is some kind of pain, and I prefer to not have this, and i leave my nipples alone because of this.
My boobs did grow by themselves without HRT, and i am pretty much used to them by now.  Yes, they are part of my feminine presentation, but I don't think much about them, they are just there and hurt if I don't watch it!
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Post by: Allie Jayne on May 10, 2019, 07:47:40 pm
Breasts are the stereotypical female feature, so desirable for those who identify as female, and not for those who identify as male. My dysphoria caused me to gain weight, and develop almost b cup man boobs. My many attempts to lose weight were often derailed as I hated that my breasts seemed to be the first place I would lose from. I also get a lot of stimulation from having my nipples played with, so they are a sensual hotspot. Now I'm on HRT, I'm hoping for breast development, but my priority is bigger hips and smaller shoulders as that is where my dysphoria is strongest. At my age it is unlikely that I will ever achieve proportionate breast development, and I'm not sold on augmentation. I wear a bra and forms every day as I need them to feel more feminine, but they are secondary to my body shape.

Allie
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Post by: SamGilmer on February 24, 2020, 05:48:38 am
I have had some breast develop,ent twice. The last time about sixteen years ago. I was on illicit Premarin to evaluate and try transition again. I had some breast development after my first Premarin adventure but you had to feel them to know that and they looked more man booby. After another year they had grown some more and filled out to tanner two or three  with the centre’s raised about  15mll. I stopped then quite unnerved by that. They have lost that misshapen look and are more rounder now and I can swim at the pool without attracting a lot of attention but I am careful about people getting to close and really clocking me. I am really pleased with them and they do move of my body if I bend over or step down  they jiggle and they can hold a pencil underneath.  They showed up on a ct scan and the doctor talked me about there history but I never admitted the Premarin.


Samantha Gilmer

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Post by: Oldandcreaky on February 24, 2020, 09:01:27 am
They are just part of my body.  If I don't watch part of my movements, they painfully remind me that they are there.  The only sensation I feel if I manipulate my nipples is some kind of pain, and I prefer to not have this, and i leave my nipples alone because of this.
My boobs did grow by themselves without HRT, and i am pretty much used to them by now.  Yes, they are part of my feminine presentation, but I don't think much about them, they are just there and hurt if I don't watch it!

I'm with you. They're okay. I'm grateful they're small because I'm athletic and I don't like to wear a bra. I'm also grateful that they're "way up firm and high," as Bob Seger says.
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Post by: Vicente on February 24, 2020, 01:27:39 pm
They're bothersome and I don't like them. I'm lucky enough that I can almost flat them by binding since they're relatively small but still they manage to get in the way when I'm doing anything. My weight has always been erratic so I have some loose skin and surprise, chests tend to be baggy after gaining and losing weight constantly like I did (probably why I bind so well, it's mostly empty skin).

To me they just mean I'll have to spend 10k to fix a mistake mother nature did. The same price of a hysterectomy. The same amount I'll need to move from a toxic environment. I'll pay for it happily as I can be but this amount is hard to save up and if they just didn't existed, I'd not need to get this much money.

Besides I have a grudge on them because I was forced to wear bras and they're uncomfortable and also I remember my mother being very nasty to me because I didn't wanted to use them initially. She seems to have a fetish for remembering me I have a female body.
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Post by: Julie H on February 24, 2020, 01:52:19 pm
As a mtf I enjoy what little growth I do have but I really don't want much more as that will lead to awkward questions I am not willing to answer atm.
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Post by: valerie anne on February 24, 2020, 03:21:23 pm
How can some of the posters here not love their boobs?

I am trying to get as large, floppy & heavy as I can. Over the last year, through pumping & massage, I have gone from a wimpy B cup to a reasonable C, and I hope to expand to a D cup.

I am still very pert and I would love to sag & droop a bit. Today, I went out with no bra, and I felt quite heavy when I got home. My nipples were just touching the top of my stomach. Wow!

I have swooped and scooped into an underwired plunge bra, and I am so much more comfortable. I have slipped in a pair of nipple shields to keep my shape ready for tomorrow's pumping session.

I felel so decadent, so feminine and so vulnerable, how can I not love my boobs?
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Post by: Rakel on February 24, 2020, 03:37:17 pm
How can some of the posters here not love their boobs? ...

...so feminine and so vulnerable, how can I not love my boobs?

Because they have a different mental image of themselves. Many are FTM. Boobs are just a disgusting appendage in some peoples mind.

However, I do not feel that way. I love my breasts. Yes, they don't do much. But they do attract men, if large enough and feed babies, if lactating, but most of the time they just get in the way.  :(  The most important thing for me is that breasts are incredibly gender confirming and I am in agreement with all the people who love their breasts, either natural or enhanced.  :o
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Post by: mm on February 24, 2020, 05:21:17 pm
Breast do many things, for many they wants them to be large and show the world they are a woman, for others they are just in the way and want them gone. One genes, hormones, life itself and surgery will all determine the size and shape they will have.
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Post by: chance on April 03, 2020, 06:25:28 am
I have despised my boobs from the day my mother forced me to stop going shirtless.  The older I got the more I despised them.  I have always wanted them removed even before I figured out dysphoria.  It feels very odd to me that anyone actually wanted and liked their boobs.  That’s kind of where I started my journey to my true self in therapy.  I never ever connected with them, felt pride or pleased about them.  That’s foreign to me.  Of course the older I got the worse I felt, on this earth and in my body. 

I am very glad and happy for anyone who has always or just started to love their body!
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Post by: UpSideDown_ on April 05, 2020, 07:11:40 am
They mean im living my life rather than existing, they mean im feeling alive. They mean im a woman. 
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Post by: Idontknowbutiwould on April 06, 2020, 10:10:05 pm
For me, my breasts mean something that gives me confidence. That beautify my figure. My breasts help passing and I find them wonderful and they are also a reminder of the effort my grandfather made in paying them when I was 16 and their acceptance. I had a breast augmentation in Barcelona, ​​with Dr Fabrizio Moscatiello
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Post by: Lisa89125 on April 16, 2020, 10:33:24 am
My breasts are simply a visible sign of who I am. I've wanted them since I was a little kid. Breast make it possible to fit into and fill out the sorts of outfits I want to wear.  :) I also enjoy the attention from the guys.  ;D

Lisa
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Post by: DeniseGrace on May 15, 2020, 03:33:30 pm
Not huge, just a B cup so far and likely will not have implants. But I love them, even from their initial growth spurt where I could feel the sensation of nipples and breasts expanding.

Not as passable as some of you lucky ladies, but I do like it when I'm noticed maybe for long locks or modest cleavage. And yes, I enjoy massaging them to try and get more fullness.

Having an aged parent stay with me due to their health doesn't allow for male company, but I simply can't wait for the attention of an open-minded fellow
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Post by: mac1 on May 17, 2020, 02:55:08 pm
Would be great if I could have nice firm and perky size "C" breasts.
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Post by: Froodah on December 03, 2020, 05:11:01 am
I've never looked at boobs or gave them a second thought. They only care about their face, which is bad, lol.
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Post by: Pammie on December 03, 2020, 05:19:43 am
As other people have said this is completely subjective and we should not try to define what is “right “ because that is part of the subjective perspective.
For me they are part of my affirmation but they do not by themselves define my gender - they do help others see me in my correct gender which is fine.
I have a nice “B” cup that im very happy with and don’t really appreciate people judging what constitutes the “right” size or shape.


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Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 02, 2021, 05:11:45 pm
They are just wonderful to have.  They are very female affirming.


Chrissy